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It's your turn in the spotlight, mama!<br><br>
When are you due?<br><br><br>
How have you been feeling so far?<br><br><br>
Are you having any cravings or aversions?<br><br><br>
Where did you grow up? Where do you live now?<br><br><br>
Do you have siblings?<br><br><br>
What is your favorite childhood memory?
 

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Where are you planning to birth this baby?
 

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In regards to pregnancy brain and saying weird things or doing off the wall stuff...<br>
is there anything you've done recently that makes you go <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> 'what did I do/say <i>that</i> for?<br><br><br>
Any books you you can recommend to STAY AWAY from?<br>
Any books that you adore?<br><br><br>
If your working...what line of work are you in?<br>
Is it your dream job? If not, what is?<br><br><br>
Do you like where you live? What would you improve on your area?<br><br><br>
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
 

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Yayyyy... cough, cough... ahem... I guess I have to try and be interesting now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br><b>When are you due?<br><br></b>According to my ovulation/insemination date (I did IUI w/ an HCG trigger in order to get pregnant), 3/31/09, according to the first ultrasound, 4/2/09-- so I split the difference 4/1/09 (Although, my midwife is going by 4/2/09 because it gives us the most time).<br><b><br>
How have you been feeling so far?<br><br></b>Nauseous and tired. The nausea has finally started to abate a bit, but I still have to be careful about not letting myself get too hungry. As far as the tiredness goes, I don't know if it's the being pregnant or that my left hip has been hurting and making sleeping very difficult or both, but I went from being someone who feel asleep quickly and slept soundly to being up 3-4 times a night. Good times. I am currently doing some strenghtening excercises to help with the hip and we are searching for a new, less firm mattress (we need another mattress anyway). We are heavily considering a Tempurpedic/ memory foam mattress-- anyone have any thoughts or experiences with them?<br><b><br>
Are you having any cravings or aversions?<br><br></b>Up until this week, I had a strong aversion to anything "too sweet"-- like cookies or cupcakes or juice, etc. I also had an aversion to plain water-- it just didn't seem to help settle the stomach at all. I ended up drinking a fair amount of V8 juice because it was savory.<br><b><br>
Where did you grow up? Where do you live now?<br><br></b>I grew up, for the most part, in a suburb of Seattle and now I live in Seattle proper. Between then and now, I lived in Boston, New York City, and San Francisco. Just this summer, my DH and I bought our first house and decided to move back to Seattle, both because I have family here and because my DH's employer has an office here (so he didn't have to change jobs).<br><b><br>
Do you have siblings?<br><br></b>I have 2 older brothers, so I am the youngest and only girl, which according to my brothers = spoiled <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">.<br><b><br>
What is your favorite childhood memory?</b><br><br>
One of my favorites was when I was little, my parents would go bowling on Sunday nights and leave my oldest brother (we'll call him A) in charge. A is 7 years older than me and brother B is 5 years older. Anyway, at some point we started having water fights in the house when they were gone. It would usually start with me getting a mouth full of water and sneaking up and spitting it on A (A had a much quicker temper, with B it would have taken several mouths full to get a response, but with A, one was usually enough). We would splash eachother with cups full of water and at one point I remember A bringing the hose into the house <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. During all of this chasing eachother around and hurling water, one of us would see what time it was and realize that mom and dad would be home soon and we would all run around the house with towels drying everything we could. My mom and dad never said anything about it and years later I asked my mom if she knew about the water fights, she said, "Well the huge pile of wet towels in the laundry room was a tip off, but I figured it must've taken some amount of cooperation for the three of you to clean up the mess and just decided to let it go." Funny how, as kids, towels disappear into the laundry room and come out clean and dry and you don't stop to think that there might be a person involved in that transaction <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br><b>Where are you planning to birth this baby?</b><br><br>
In a freestanding birth center located next to a hospital (but definitely not a part of the hospital). My midwife group also does homebirths, but I just can't see having the birth at home right now (probably because we are still getting settled in-- I mean, we moved from a 1 bedroom apt. to a 3 bedroom house, we don't even have a couch yet <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">!)<br><br><b>In regards to pregnancy brain and saying weird things or doing off the wall stuff... is there anything you've done recently that makes you go <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> 'what did I do/say <i>that</i> for?</b><br><br>
Hmmmnnnn... I can't think of any examples. I'll update this if I can think of something. (Of course, maybe the fact that I can't think of anything is evidence of pregnancy brain in and of itself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">.)<br><br><br><b>Any books you you can recommend to STAY AWAY from?<br><br></b>It's such a personal thing, one person's favorite is another person's least-- I tried to read <i>Infinite Jest </i>by David Foster Wallace a long time ago and it made me want to poke out my own eyeballs.<br><b><br>
Any books that you adore?<br><br></b>There are lots of books I adore! Most recently, I really liked <i>The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay </i>by Michael Chabon, <i>Life of Pi</i> by Yann Martel, both <i>The Kite Runner</i> and <i>A Thousand Spendid Suns</i> by Khaled Hosseini, <i>Persepolis</i> by Marjane Satrapi, and <i>The Year of Magical Thinking</i> by Joan Didion. Of course, I also loved the Outlander series, by Diana Gabaldon and the Harry Potter series.<br><b><br>
If your working...what line of work are you in?<br><br></b>I have done several things since college-- including going back to college. My first degree was in psych and I worked in mental health for a few years and decided that I did not want to get a PhD in psych and that, until I did, I wanted a straight 9-5 job that I didn't have to take home with me. So, I worked for a few years as a secretary at a university (where I met my DH-- he was a grad student, everyone assumed I was one too unless I said otherwise or until they tried to talk to me about Artificial Intelligence or computer programming <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). Then I decided to go back to school to become a CNM, which, since I was not an RN, involved looking at combined RN-MSN programs. The first full year of the program allowed me to get a second bachelor's degree in nursing and I decided to stop there for a variety of reasons-- 1) the program was VERY expensive 2) I was not in a position, life-wise, where if the only position I could find as a brand new CNM was in South Dakota that I could just pick up and move there 3) I had reservations about becoming a CNM. So...up until December, I was working as an RN in neonatal intensive care. I probably would have gone into L&D had there been a position available for a new grad at the time I was looking. I quit in December because we planned to move to Seattle in the Spring (which ended up being the Summer). <br><br>
I had/ have a real love/ hate relationship with the job. The first year/ year and a half were hell-- it is a very stressful job with a steep learning curve (and I worked at hospital that had a GREAT training program for new nurses). When I finally got to the point that I actually felt competant, I enjoyed working with (most) parents and helping them to understand what was going on with their babies. I loved the babies. I loved (most) of my coworkers. I found most of the medical stuff very interesting (although, if i never have to change another ostomy bag I wouldn't be sad) and I am amazed at the amount of stuff I learned (and still had left to learn).<br><br>
But, I am not an adrenaline junky. I hated the stress. I hated not being able to sleep very well the night before work because I had no idea what I would be walking into the next day. I liked taking care of the more critical babies ONLY because I felt like it improved my skills as a nurse, not because I am someone who gets bored easily and likes running around for 12 hours straight. I didn't hate working nights as much as many of my coworkers, but I was lucky enough to work mostly days starting my second year (I worked 3 months of days, then 1 month of nights) and most of the positions I have seen open in this area are straight night shift (no thank you!). I HATE the legal side of it-- I am only human, all nurses are only human and I hated knowing that, God forbid, if I were to make a mistake and a baby got hurt, not only would I have to live with the guilt/ regret, but I could also be sued into the ground. And even though it's a job I can do and do well, I never felt like it was what I was meant to be doing.<br><br>
Although, now that I've had a 10 month break from it, I kind of miss it. Even with the negatives.<br><br>
Aren't you glad you asked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">? Thank you for attending the mischievium career group therapy session for the day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><b><br>
Is it your dream job? If not, what is?<br><br></b>Still figuring that out-- probably writing fiction. Either novels or screenplays.<br><b><br>
Do you like where you live? What would you improve on your area?<br><br></b>I do like where I live! We ended up in a nice/ hip area of Seattle. Farmers markets, nice parks, fun restaurants and little shops within walking distance. After commuting an hour or so each way for four years, my DH is elated to be able to walk to work. I think what I would improve is the Sun. It's been along time since I've lived here fulltime and, even though the Northeast is colder in the winter, they get more sun. We'll see how I do re-adjusting to the grey. Also, I would decrease the spider population. Specifically in and around my house. I am not phobic, but I don't like them. If anyone wants, I will expound on the spider problem <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">, just ask.<br><br><b> Where do you see yourself in 5 years?</b> <br><br>
Probably still in this house, probably with a second baby (although, we'll see how things go with this one, first).
 

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Love your favorite book choices!<br><br>
So, despite your long (interesting) answer to what you've done professionally, I can't tell if you're still working now. Are you? Or did you stop when you moved back to Seattle? Are you planning to work after the baby is born?<br><br>
What are some of the things that excite you most about starting a family?
 

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As a fellow RN (I worked in L&D until recently)- how do you feel that your hospital experiences impact your birth and pregnancy choices and decision making? Are you more fearful? Confident? A combination of both or something else?<br><br>
And I love the story about your water fights, especially your mother's reaction. How wonderful that she could see the benefits of co-operation as outweighing the frequent soaking of her house and decided to let you continue <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> How do you see/imagine yourself as a parent? What will you do the same as your parents and what will you do differently?
 

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My immediate family does, yes. That was a part of our decision to move here. Not only were we tired of traveling for both Thanksgiving and Christmas (DHs family lives in the midwest), but I wanted my kids to grow up around some of their extended family. My parents are both from semi-large to large families and we were the only family on either side who didn't live where everyone else lived, so I always felt like an outsider when we would visit my extended family.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Love your favorite book choices!<br><br>
So, despite your long (interesting) answer to what you've done professionally, I can't tell if you're still working now. Are you? Or did you stop when you moved back to Seattle? Are you planning to work after the baby is born?<br><br>
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I am not currently working. Partially because of my ambilavence about the job and partially because I'm pregnant and really didn't want to start a new job, learn all the policies and rationales for why they do things the way they do them at a new hospital, just finally get settled in, and then go on maternity leave.<br><br>
As far as what excites me about starting a new family, well I have to say that's not currently where my head is at. I've been a member of MDC for a long time (started reading and posting here when I was considering becoming a midwife), so I have been excited about/ interested in breastfeeding and babywearing and cloth diapering and natural birth, etc. for a long time. Then my DH and I tried for a year and half to get pregnant and ended up needing to go to a fertility clinic. When I finally, actually got pregnant, I was excited, but then the reality started sinking in (or maybe it was the nausea? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). And maybe part of this is because I am having so much trouble sleeping right now so I'm getting a taste of sleep deprivation/ disruption, but I now find myself worrying more about things like how I'm going to handle the sleep deprivation and how I'm going to balance being a mom with still having an identity of my own, etc. I'm sure I will start feeling more excited again soon (probably when I can start feeling the baby and am actually looking pregnant).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Well, I went into the NICU from a place of wanting to become a midwife and believing in natural birth. I did my preceptorship in L&D (the last few months of nursing school), so I was familiar with "routine" at hospitals (actually, several of the doctors I worked with in L&D are interviewed in The Business of Being Born). Anyway, I didn't really see any bad outcomes during that time-- although I saw plenty of unnecessary intervention. Working in NICU (and I worked in a level III NICU, so I pretty much saw whatever there is to see) I did see babies admitted for birth asphyxia. We saw the occasional homebirth transfer (maybe 2 in the 3.5 years I was there?), but mostly they were hospital born babies. Anyway, I don't think my experience with birth injured babies really changed my views about natural birth. Working with babies with congenital anomalies, however, did reaffirm my choice to have a 20 week anatomy scan done. I know that the stats are that routine U/S use "doesn't improve outcomes" (although I'm not sure how that applies to babies with treatable anomalies) and I DEFINITELY know things get missed on U/S (I have seen anomalies that weren't caught that made me wonder if the person doing the ultrasound had their eyes open), but the majority of the babies I took care of that had congenital anomalies were prenatally diagnosed. Since I am choosing to have the baby outside of a hospital, I need to feel like I've done my due diligence. I understand and respect those that choose not to have an U/S, but having worked with babies with rare conditions, having held them, the fractions-of-a-percent have names and faces for me. I know that not all babies are "just fine" and I know that not all babies live and I don't just know it from reading or thinking about it, I know it because I've seen it. I'm not sure if that makes me more fearful or more realistic. Although my intuition is that my baby is fine and will be fine, so even seeing all I've seen, I'm not too worried.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">And I love the story about your water fights, especially your mother's reaction. How wonderful that she could see the benefits of co-operation as outweighing the frequent soaking of her house and decided to let you continue <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> How do you see/imagine yourself as a parent? What will you do the same as your parents and what will you do differently?</div>
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Well, I think we were relatively careful and managed not to damage any major electrical appliances-- I think if we had fried the TV or something, my mom might have put her foot down.<br><br>
I think I will answer the second part of your question first (What will you do the same as your parents and what will you do differently?). My parents were minimally controlling (they paid for college, but what we majored in was up to us-- this was not the case for my DH) and had a good sense of humor, so I hope that I am like them in those ways. As far as what I hope to do differently-- communicate more, yell less, travel more.<br><br>
As far as how I see/imagine myself as a parent, well I hope that I can find balance. I am someone who believes kids need limits (within reason and not arbitrarily), but also need the freedom to explore. I hope I can be someone they feel they can talk to and who they know will keep them safe (even if they aren't always happy about it). I want to be able to try and find perspective in the moment (what is a big deal and what isn't). And I want to balance helping them grow and develop and pursue their interests, while also finding time for me to do the same as I think that leading by example is a powerful thing.
 

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I love your list of good books. I just read Kavalier and Clay, which was great, and Persepolis is so good. Now you've got me thinking about comics and graphic novels! Have you read Fun Home by Alison Bechdel, or Blankets by Craig Thompson? If not, you might like those. And in non-graphic novel related news, I have got to check and see when the next Outlander book comes out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
What are your favorite movies and TV shows?
 

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Two of my favorites are Black Hole by Charles Burns and Epileptic by David B. ...both collections and both AWESOME.
 

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How old are you and your dh and how long have you been married?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I love your list of good books. I just read Kavalier and Clay, which was great, and Persepolis is so good. Now you've got me thinking about comics and graphic novels! Have you read Fun Home by Alison Bechdel, or Blankets by Craig Thompson? If not, you might like those. And in non-graphic novel related news, I have got to check and see when the next Outlander book comes out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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I haven't read those, I'll have to check them out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<b>Movies (in no particular order):</b><br>
About A Boy and High Fidelity (I also liked the books, but I read them after I had seen the movies)<br>
Stranger Than Fiction<br>
The 40 Year-Old Virgin<br>
Dodgeball<br>
Batman Begins/ The Dark Knight<br>
Amelie (I walked down the aisle at my wedding to one of the songs from the soundtrack)<br>
Chocolat (Johnny Depp and chocolate, possibly the perfect movie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br>
Fight Club<br>
Finding Nemo<br>
almost anything by Hayao Miyazaki (Howl's Moving Castle, Spirited Away)<br>
O Brother, Where Art Thou?<br>
The Shawshank Redemption<br>
Pride and Prejudice (the BBC/ A&E version)<br>
Star Wars (the original 3 movies)<br>
Serenity<br>
Pan's Labryrinth<br>
Schindler's List<br><br>
I'm sure there are more, but these are all I can think of.<br><b><br>
TV shows (in no particular order):</b><br>
The Daily Show<br>
The Colbert Report<br>
Friends<br>
Scrubs<br>
True Blood<br>
Firefly<br>
Ugly Betty<br>
Judging Amy<br>
Saving Grace (apparently I like any show with a 2-word title that ends in a woman's name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Certified Nurse Midwife<br><br><b>Where do you plan to get all your furniture from?</b><br><br>
We've been looking a lot at at local store that sells more modern-ish furniture called Skarbos, otherwise it's been at the chains (Thomasville, Ethan Allen, Crate and Barrel, etc.) We are trying to steer clear of Ikea for the most part and buy furniture that is better made and less likely to be in a landfill in 5 years (no offense to Ikea-lovers). Now is actually a pretty good time to be buying furniture because with fewer people buying houses right now, business is slow for the furniture stores and they're are some good deals to be had. My DH has been given carte blanche to decorate the basement, or "man cave," however he wants and he's currently leaning toward vintage 70s furniture <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">. He has a thing for furniture that is so far down on the ugly continuum that it has wrapped around and become pretty again.<br><br><b>Do you like coffee?<br></b>Nope.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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We are in our early 30s and have been married for just over a year. But we were together for 5+ years when we got married.
 

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bumping your thread, mama.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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do tell!
 

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Are you going with cloth or sposies?<br><br>
What (if anything) do you plan to make special for the baby (crafty stuff)? Or is there something special you want to buy that is a must have?<br><br>
Are you going to find out the sex?<br><br>
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Is anyone coming to help you when you have your baby?<br><br>
What's your biggest concern right now about actually having the baby?
 

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From my blog, dated 10/10:<br><br><br><ul><li>So, here's the thing. I am not arachnophobic-- I mean I don't like spiders, but it's not like I freeze up and hyperventilate when I see them. Now that I have moved into a house FULL of spiders, I might be developing a phobia. Seriously, when I lived in Boston I would see the occasional spider, in New York I only saw maybe one (but what he lacked in numbers, he made up for in size, google "Gigantic House Spider" if you want to see what I mean), in San Francisco maybe a couple in 4 years I lived there. In Seattle, it's been non-stop spider action 24-7. I have seen at least 6 different types in or on the house. There is a bush next to our driveway that I counted at least 10 on at one point. I understand that having a yard increases the number of spiders you're likely to come into contact with, and I wouldn't mind it so much if they would STAY IN THE YARD. That's actually my main issue with spiders, their lack of respect for personal property and personal space.<br><br>
At first, my DH was laissez faire about the whole thing. I mean, we have a different theory when it comes to spiders to begin with-- he's more of the catch-it-and-release-it-outside type and I am more of the kill-it-before-it-reproduces type. I stopped parking in the driveway because I was tired coming out to the car and having to first separate the car from all the webs that had been built across to it from the bush and then there was the day I found four different spiders (and their webs) on my car. My issue is not so much them ON the car, as it is them getting into the car with me and me finding them while I am driving.<br><br>
To appease me, DH bought a <a href="http://www.bugzooka.com/" target="_blank">bugzooka</a>, which allows you to catch bugs without touching them and is "environmentally friendly" because it usually doesn't kill the bug and doesn't use batteries (I wanted the battery powered bug vacuum that kills the bug and is opaque so you don't have to see the damn thing once you've caught it). When it got here, he went out to the bush by the driveway and took 20+ spiders off of it (and it's not that big of a bush). Then he "walked 2 blocks away" and released them (I wanted him to leave them in the container until they killed eachother or died). I put the "2 blocks away" in quotations because he showed me later where he released them and it wasn't even a full block from the house. When I saw that I was like, "Good job, now they're going to make their way back to the house and this time they'll be pissed." I was only half kidding.<br><br>
In the last day or so, I've noticed DH's attitude towards his spider-friends has changed a bit. Probably because he was in the bathroom when he noticed a whole bunch of tiny spiders crawling all over the ceiling. Seems mischievium knew something when she warned him about the dangers of spider reproduction. Truthfully, the last thing we need here is more spiders. We are the Calcutta of spiders. Anyway, he killed all the tiny spiders he saw and then called me in there to help him, since I am "good at spotting them." Then I spotted a bigger black spider and DH sucked it up with the bugzooka and did not release it.<br><br>
Tonight when I went down to our finished basement (the only place I had yet to see a spider-- but it is still a basement) to do laundry, I killed 1 medium-small spider and 2 small spiders, then saw a larger one-- let's just say that the carpet is a med-light brown color and he blended in because if I had realized how big he was, I would have shrieked for DH sooner. Anyway, the larger one was in the corner on the carpet and I was waiting for him to make for the wall where I could smash him, when I looked up the carpeted stairs and realized that there were webs in the corner of virtually every step going upstairs. That's when I called for DH. He arrived with his bugzooka in hand and went after the big one first (at my request). I think it was a wolf spider-- I say "I think" because I refuse to google it and look at pictures of spiders and scare myself more.<br><br>
We've been trying to go the non-toxic, environmentally friendly route, but I am about 3 big spiders away from calling Orkin. It's making it really hard for me to enjoy my new house when I feel like I have to constantly be on guard. And, if the next door neighbors ever hear my conversations with DH while we're getting in the car, I'm sure that they think I'm crazy because it's virtually always about spiders (because there is virtually always a new one on the car). I would just like to be able to look out my windows without seeing a spider web on it or get in my car without having to do a spider sweep first -- is that too much to ask?<br></li>
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Cloth. So far, I've bought a few of each kind (prefolds and wraps, AIOs, pockets, fitteds, etc.) in the newborn size so that we could try them out and decide what we like before fully committing to one kind or another.<br><br><b>What (if anything) do you plan to make special for the baby (crafty stuff)? Or is there something special you want to buy that is a must have?</b><br><br>
I'm fairly creative, but not exactly "crafty." I don't know how to sew, knit, etc.-- although there is a local yarn shop that offers classes, so I might learn to knit.<br><br>
As far as something special I want to buy... Hmmmn... nothing out of the norm comes to mind. I've been looking at carriers and want to get an ergo, but I wish they offered brighter, less neutral colors (like a cherry red, instead of a muted red). I also like the <a href="http://www.babyhawk.com/" target="_blank">babyhawks mei-tei carriers</a> and <a href="http://www.sleepywrap.com/" target="_blank">wrap-style carriers</a>.<br><br><b>Are you going to find out the sex?</b><br><br>
Definitely. I have many virtues, patience is not one of them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. Also, I love my DH to pieces, but I refuse to discuss names with him until we know the sex, otherwise he likes to make suggestions designed to rile me up-- like his current favorite name for the baby, "Chewbacca" or "Chewie."
 

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Mischievium: Oh your tale about the spiders gave me a good chuckle I've needed since this morning sickness set in...but don't get me wrong I have such sympathy for you!!!! I am really phobic of spiders, I am getting better due to not wanting DD to have my phobia but I have to kill them and I use chemical spray if necessary and the big ones I've called DH at work crying and shaking because I couldn't kill it. I eventually got the shop vac out and sucked it up, taped the end shut and threw the vac outside. Don't feel bad if you end up gong the chemical route, you have to be comfortable in your own house and anxiety is not great during pregnancy. Thanks for sharing and Good luck, my heart goes out to you!!!!
 

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Welcome to the northwest, Mischevium! One thing that really helped at our house was 1) getting windows with screens (which you probably have, but we didn't--our windows were 150 years old) 2) powerwashing the house and getting rid of ALL spider sacs, especially on porches where they really like to lay eggs b/c it's sheltered and there are lots of nooks and crannies.<br><br>
I am the spider killer in my house. I think my DH is secretly terrified of them (granted I don't particularly like them) and when I ask him to kill one he swats at it ineffectually with a t-shirt or something and it of course falls down and is MIA. I'd rather he just left it alone at that point...at least I knew where it was. So I invariably have to do the smashing or the little arachnoid might end up on my pillow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:.<br><br>
Love the mei tais, btw. Beautiful.
 
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