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Hey all, we're still a little behind. Let's kick it up and get all these spotlights done before the baby's start coming! I have loved reading them through and I really feel it has brought us Feb. Mamas closer together.<br><br>
So, Nausicaamom, what special plans do you have in mind for this babe's birth?
 

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After your experiences with Michael, is there anything you're planning on doing differently in those first few days? Have you got help lined up for when you get home?<br><br>
What's Philadelphia actually LIKE? Does it get cold in winter, or is it going to be warm (comparatively, anyhow) in February?
 

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The Bean will be arriving via repeat c-birth, but this time I will be having a lot more say in what actually happens so I'm hoping for a more pleasant experience all around. I'm using one of the birth plans I found over in Birth & Beyond so I know to refuse any mind-altering meds. I'm requesting that my husband help me hold the babe while they are finishing up so I really have something good to focus on while they are finishing up, and he'll have both of my sets of birth beads on him so I can have all of that positive energy nearby even if I can't physically hold them myself. For recovery, I'm assembling a breastfeeding kit (was too woozy to get Michael to latch with my inverted nipples last time) - my pump to draw out my flat nipples, a pillow to help support him, and if we still can't get him to latch - a nipple shield. I'm also going to be refusing a great many of the newborn procedures this time as well, so I'm hoping that should make things better for us too.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">After your experiences with Michael, is there anything you're planning on doing differently in those first few days? Have you got help lined up for when you get home?</td>
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I am definitely not going to sit around and wait for people to offer help this time 'round. We will be sending out a time chart for the first week to family listing when we need coverage for help with Michael and when they are welcome to visit the babe and I at the hospital. It was Grand Central Station (or Kings Cross if you will <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) in my room last time and that is definitely not happening again. Once we are home, I am definitely adapting a few of the sign ideas (via e-mail) that some others have posted. I'd like to hold off on real visitors for at least a week or so, but I'll be requesting that people come and help out with spending special time with Michael or dropping off food. I am not putting myself in the position where I have to choose between nursing my child or making something to eat (my husband is completely clueless in the kitchen). I'm going to ask one of my sisters to help organize things so I can get as much help/coverage as possible, especially given that I'm going to be pretty limited in what I can do for those first couple of weeks with the recovery.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">What's Philadelphia actually LIKE? Does it get cold in winter, or is it going to be warm (comparatively, anyhow) in February?</td>
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Right now it hasn't been too bad - this past week we had some frigid weather (35 degree high with 20-40 mph wind gusts) that has kept me in, but that kind of cold doesn't usually show up this early. February, on the other hand, is usually when winter is in full force. I'm hoping for just cold - cold I can deal with and even enjoy. It's when wind and snow decide to join the fun that it gets impossible. Several of my neighbors consider shovelling their front walks optional, so there are times when I can barely make it down the street due to ice and snow even if the temp is nice (mid 30's). I know I'm going to have some major cabin fever, but being housebound for those first couple of weeks will probably be the best for me since it will really force me to take it easy and my husband (who isn't that kind of guy, seriously) will basically forbid me to leave the house with the kids if it's icy out.
 

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If you don't mind me asking, what led to the first C-section? Was it planned, so that you had time beforehand to mentally prepare for it, or was it an emergency with either you or DS during labor that caused the need for it?<br><br>
How do you think Michael will like/adjust to the new baby? I'm not sure how old he is...is he old enough to be anticipating the baby coming?
 

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What do you look forward to about having a second child? What made you decide to try for your 2nd baby? Are you excited that it's another boy?
 

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how have you been feeling?<br>
Are you ready for the babe to come?
 

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My OB pushed me into it about two weeks before my EDD for suspected macrosomia and worries about shoulder dystocia (he was 10lbs 3 oz and 21", so at least it wasn't one of those situations where I had a 7lb baby). My Bishop's score was nonexistent, so I knew I wasn't a candidate for induction as it would have likely led to a section anyway. I just remember those weeks being very unreal, like I had no say in what was happening/going to happen to me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">How do you think Michael will like/adjust to the new baby? I'm not sure how old he is...is he old enough to be anticipating the baby coming?</td>
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Michael is just 3.5 yrs. He's in a phase where he loves all things baby, which is both a hindrance and a help. I'm still not sure how much he understands. I know he's definitely picked up on the stress my husband and I have been exchanging at times - we've seen sleep regression and any number of little signs that he knows something big is coming up. One of my close girlfriends has a 6 month-old that and I think Michael is expecting us to be bringing him home, rather than a newborn.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">What do you look forward to about having a second child? What made you decide to try for your 2nd baby? Are you excited that it's another boy?</td>
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We always knew we wanted two kids. Our plan was to actually be pregnant around the time Michael turned two, but between his ASD and my own brush with a misdiagnosis of Adenomyosis (and the suggestion that hysterectomy was the only treatment). We found out via a second oppinion that it was in fact a uterine infection and adhesions gone wild so baby number two got put off until this past summer. We were hoping for a girl, but pretty much knew it was going to be a boy (boys run very heavily in my husband's family). It was funny, when we found out we were both disappointed and relieved if that makes sense. I'm very much looking forward to my boys and at this point wouldn't have it any other way.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">how have you been feeling?<br>
Are you ready for the babe to come?</td>
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I've been really tired this past week. My depression symptoms (while very much under control) always get worse in this fall and winter so my baseline tends towards being tired and unmotivated to begin with. The weather this past week, lack of sunshine, Michael's illness, and all the general aches and pains associated with being almost eight months pregnant have not helped matters. I'm going to be better about taking my extra supplements and trying to get out in the sunshine when I can to see if I can get some energy back. As for being ready - barely. I have a decent amount of knitting and sewing left to do and we have a lot of rearranging as well. Adding Christmas to the mix is definitely not helping. We'll definitely manage, but I'd like to be a bit more prepared than I am now.
 
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