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Hi, Tannersmommy! Can't wait to get to know you better!
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Introvert or extrovert?
Junk food or health food?
Morning person or night owl?
Planner or spontaneous?
And, my standard question: What is something about your own upbringing that you'd like to provide for your kids, and what is something that you'd like to give your children that is different from the way you were raised?
Introvert or extrovert?
Junk food or health food?
Morning person or night owl?
Planner or spontaneous?
And, my standard question: What is something about your own upbringing that you'd like to provide for your kids, and what is something that you'd like to give your children that is different from the way you were raised?
I hope you don't mind a few recycled questions
-What is you favorite season? Why?
-I see you cloth diaper
-What is you favorite thing to do with your ds?
-do you have any siblings?
-do you have any ideas for names for your newbie?
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OH NO!!!!!! You guys, I just moved on Saturday and I don't have a computer up and running yet. I just happen to be at my mom's because I had to come back to Little Rock for a dr's appt. for DS (double ear infection
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). I will answer these questions now. Sorry if you thought I dropped off the face of the earth (or didn't care
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) I DO care, I DO! I just didn't know it was my turn.
Thanks!!
Thanks!!
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Introvert or extrovert? Extrovert - I grew up as an "Air Force Brat" and was often the "new kid" so it kind of forced me to be outgoing. I'm a big people person and I don't like spending a lot of time alone.
Junk food or health food? Oh, dear. I try so hard to eat healthy, whole foods. I love fresh fruit and veggies, but I also love fast food (Wendy's, yummy) and am terrible about having processed foods on the shelf (Rice A Roni, jarred spaghetti sauce, etc.). We have started eating a lot more organic foods in the last two years (isn't organic milk the creamiest, most delicious?? - if you like cow's milk, that is - I do)
Morning person or night owl? Normally a morning person, but I have terrible pregnancy insomnia right now.
Planner or spontaneous? A planner, but I have become more laid back about my "plans" since becoming a mother. I realize more and more that I'm not really in control.
And, my standard question: What is something about your own upbringing that you'd like to provide for your kids, and what is something that you'd like to give your children that is different from the way you were raised?
I grew up in a very close family, and I'm the oldest of four kids (3 sisters, 1 brother). We were breastfed, had a family bed, and were very affectionate. My parents call the four of us kids "a pile of puppies" all the time because we were always just in a loving heap on the living room couch or snuggled up in our queen sized waterbed.
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This is something I hope my kids get to enjoy.
On the flipside, I grew up in a family with an authoritarian discipline style ("My way or the highway," - Dad), and included physical discipline (spanking, etc.
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). This is a cycle I want to break for my family, and I spend a lot of time lurking on the Gentle Discipline board learning how to do this.
Junk food or health food? Oh, dear. I try so hard to eat healthy, whole foods. I love fresh fruit and veggies, but I also love fast food (Wendy's, yummy) and am terrible about having processed foods on the shelf (Rice A Roni, jarred spaghetti sauce, etc.). We have started eating a lot more organic foods in the last two years (isn't organic milk the creamiest, most delicious?? - if you like cow's milk, that is - I do)
Morning person or night owl? Normally a morning person, but I have terrible pregnancy insomnia right now.
Planner or spontaneous? A planner, but I have become more laid back about my "plans" since becoming a mother. I realize more and more that I'm not really in control.
And, my standard question: What is something about your own upbringing that you'd like to provide for your kids, and what is something that you'd like to give your children that is different from the way you were raised?
I grew up in a very close family, and I'm the oldest of four kids (3 sisters, 1 brother). We were breastfed, had a family bed, and were very affectionate. My parents call the four of us kids "a pile of puppies" all the time because we were always just in a loving heap on the living room couch or snuggled up in our queen sized waterbed.
On the flipside, I grew up in a family with an authoritarian discipline style ("My way or the highway," - Dad), and included physical discipline (spanking, etc.
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What is you favorite season? Why? I LOVE the fall! I love the leaves changing color, I love the weather, I love the clothes (yeah for long sleeve T's and turtlenecks!) And Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday - food and family, but no money (or stress) being spent on frivilous gifts...what could be better?
I see you cloth diaper What's your system of choice? I'm a pocket girl. I started with Fuzzi Bunz, but I've just discovered BumGenius and they are fabulous. Because they are One Size, I'll be able to use them on "new baby" after Tanner potty learns.
What is you favorite thing to do with your ds? Nursing him is such a special time of closeness for us, and something that only I can provide. So I would say it is my very favorite. I also love taking him to the library, which is now two doors down from our new house!!!!
do you have any siblings? I have three, and I'm the oldest. I have a sis two years younger than me, a brother five years younger than me, and a baby sis who is amost nine years younger than me. We are all very close. Baby sis just got married last weekend, so we got to have a wonderful family gathering that I'm still on a high from.
do you have any ideas for names for your newbie? We are not finding out the sex of the baby, but we *think* we have names picked out for either/or. A girl will be Kathleen Elizabeth. A boy will be Easton Jones.
I see you cloth diaper What's your system of choice? I'm a pocket girl. I started with Fuzzi Bunz, but I've just discovered BumGenius and they are fabulous. Because they are One Size, I'll be able to use them on "new baby" after Tanner potty learns.
What is you favorite thing to do with your ds? Nursing him is such a special time of closeness for us, and something that only I can provide. So I would say it is my very favorite. I also love taking him to the library, which is now two doors down from our new house!!!!
do you have any siblings? I have three, and I'm the oldest. I have a sis two years younger than me, a brother five years younger than me, and a baby sis who is amost nine years younger than me. We are all very close. Baby sis just got married last weekend, so we got to have a wonderful family gathering that I'm still on a high from.
do you have any ideas for names for your newbie? We are not finding out the sex of the baby, but we *think* we have names picked out for either/or. A girl will be Kathleen Elizabeth. A boy will be Easton Jones.
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Who is your favorite cartoon character? This is tough because I'm not sure if I really have one...DS loves Nemo, and I think he's pretty cute.
Do you consider yourself religious/spiritual? I guess I'm both - I go to church every week and am involved in a church family (religious?), and I have a personal relationship with God, pray, etc. (spiritual?).
What is your favorite outdoor space? Okay, honestly, I'm what you would consider "an indoor girl." I love to curl up on the couch with a good book and some air conditioning. My ideal outdoor space would be a hammock in my new back yard for me to read in, but it's not my "favorite outdoor space" because it doesn't actually exist as of yet.
Do you consider yourself religious/spiritual? I guess I'm both - I go to church every week and am involved in a church family (religious?), and I have a personal relationship with God, pray, etc. (spiritual?).
What is your favorite outdoor space? Okay, honestly, I'm what you would consider "an indoor girl." I love to curl up on the couch with a good book and some air conditioning. My ideal outdoor space would be a hammock in my new back yard for me to read in, but it's not my "favorite outdoor space" because it doesn't actually exist as of yet.
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What are you passionate about? I am very passionate about breastfeeding and natural childbirth/homebirth. I could talk about, read about, live it all day long. I would really love to be a midwife someday, when I'm finished having my own babies.
Do you like where you live? Why or why not? I like where I live because it's a beautiful state, and my family is here.
Do your parents and/or inlaws approve of your parenting style? My parents very much approve, because I'm doing things basically the way they did things (except for the discipline issue, but they are so glad that I'm doing things differently). My in-laws are another story. Total bottlefeeding, doctor-worshiping family culture. But my mother-in-law is a very loving person who I have a good relationship with, so I have just taken to educating her along the way. I'm sure we get talked about behind our backs as the "weirdos" who are nursing a toddler (through pregnancy! Gasp!), sleeping with toddler (they don't even OWN a crib!), and not spanking ("well it was the *only* thing that worked with David (dh)"). But I don't care, as long as she isn't constantly trying to give advice or change my mind about things. Where this would change is if she knew that we are still planning to have a homebirth with this new baby. I had a "failed" homebirth with DS after 36 hours of hard labor at home, and she was witness to this. She assumes we are going to the hospital this time, and we're just going to let her keep thinking that. I don't need any negative energy right now, so we're all better off with her not knowing.
Where's your favorite place on earth? My mom and dad's living room, when all of my siblings are home. We just sit around and laugh and tell stories. They are my favorite people in the world.
Do you like where you live? Why or why not? I like where I live because it's a beautiful state, and my family is here.
Do your parents and/or inlaws approve of your parenting style? My parents very much approve, because I'm doing things basically the way they did things (except for the discipline issue, but they are so glad that I'm doing things differently). My in-laws are another story. Total bottlefeeding, doctor-worshiping family culture. But my mother-in-law is a very loving person who I have a good relationship with, so I have just taken to educating her along the way. I'm sure we get talked about behind our backs as the "weirdos" who are nursing a toddler (through pregnancy! Gasp!), sleeping with toddler (they don't even OWN a crib!), and not spanking ("well it was the *only* thing that worked with David (dh)"). But I don't care, as long as she isn't constantly trying to give advice or change my mind about things. Where this would change is if she knew that we are still planning to have a homebirth with this new baby. I had a "failed" homebirth with DS after 36 hours of hard labor at home, and she was witness to this. She assumes we are going to the hospital this time, and we're just going to let her keep thinking that. I don't need any negative energy right now, so we're all better off with her not knowing.
Where's your favorite place on earth? My mom and dad's living room, when all of my siblings are home. We just sit around and laugh and tell stories. They are my favorite people in the world.
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Thanks for the great questions, girls! Keep them coming, if it's still my turn...
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And sorry again for the delay.
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What is your favorite childhood memory?
How did you and DH meet?
What is one thing that every first time momma needs to know?
How did you and DH meet?
What is one thing that every first time momma needs to know?
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Care to share a little of your birth story with your DC#1? It's so hard to keep it short, but I will really try. I had planned all along to have a homebirth with a midwife, and never even considered that anything different would happen. I started active labor on a Friday afternoon, labored through the night and all day and night on Saturday. I kept getting stuck for many hours (like 8 hours) at different dialations (6 cm, 8 cm, 9 cm). This was due to malpositioning - baby was posterior. I pushed with a lip of cervix for 2+ hours. At about 10 p.m. on Sat., my midwife asked if she could break my water to see if it would help. When she did, there was meconium (what she called "particulate meconium" which is fresh and in larger chunks, rather than mixed in with the amniotic fluid...more dangerous for baby to aspirate). So we decided to transport to the hospital. Even though I was terribly exhausted and ready to hold my baby, the laboring at home for 30+ hours was the good part - I was surrounded by loved ones, in my own safe environment, with people I trusted. My hospital experience was hellish. I was treated badly by nurses, as if being punished for trying to have a normal, natural homebirth. When the "on-call unassigned" OB arrived, he angrily kicked my midwife out of the room (no need to hear a status report from the care provider who had been with me over the last two days, right doc?), and gave me a very rough vaginal exam after I asked him to wait until the contraction was over. By the way, transfering to the hospital while in transitions at 9+ cm was in itself not fun. But it gets better (?). After abruptly announcing we would be doing a c-section (even though he said I was complete), my mother, DH, and I all said, "He smells like alcohol." Well no way in the world was this angry doctor, who possibly had been drinking, going to be performing major surgery on me. We dismissed him, and then had to wait for another 1.5 hours for another doctor to agree to come treat me. All the while, I'm having triple-peaking contractions on top of each other, with back labor from posterior presentation, and I'm terrified that my baby is in danger and no one will help me. Also, because I was not pre-registered with any doctors orders they couldn't give my anything at all in the way of pain relief, which (I can't believe I'm saying this outloud) I gladly would have taken at the time.
We arrived at the hospital at 10:20 p.m. Sat. - Tanner was born at 1:02 a.m. on Sun. via C-section. I was pushing while they put in the epidural and spinal block for what I now know was my unnecessary C-section.
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I can't go back and change anything now, but it was a very traumatic experience for me. DS did aspirate meconium into his lungs and spent a day and a half in the NICU. I was not myself emotionally for about 6 months postpartum. From this experience, I have been led to research all things VBAC and all things OFP (optimal fetal positioning). This time around, things will be different.
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Sheesh, that wasn't short at all. Sorry. But thanks for letting me share!
Plans for this birth? We are planning an HBAC with our midwife, but we are doing shadow care with an OB in case we do end up at the hospital again.
SAHM/WOHM/WAHM? Are you happy with your current situation? I have been a WOHM with a twist for the last two years. I work from my Aunt's home office - we do Fundraising Consulting for non-profit organizations. So I do have to get up and go to an office outside the home every day, but I have taken DS to work with me ever since he was a newborn. Though it sounds ideal, it got very difficult as soon as he started crawling full out around 7 months old. Also, the predicament it causes is that I don't give anything my full-attention and I end up feeling guitly on every front. I'm not the employee I need to be because I'm taking care of my child. I'm not the mother I want to be because I'm trying to get my work done and I can't play with him or take him to storyhour or the park, etc.
Since we have moved this week, I will be a WAHM at my own house (2.5 hours away from our main office). My work will be done over the internet and I am cutting back my hours to about 1/4 of the time starting in October. We'll see how it works..... Unfortunately, we still need a small piece of my income to meet our budget, or I would be a full-time SAHM.
We arrived at the hospital at 10:20 p.m. Sat. - Tanner was born at 1:02 a.m. on Sun. via C-section. I was pushing while they put in the epidural and spinal block for what I now know was my unnecessary C-section.
Sheesh, that wasn't short at all. Sorry. But thanks for letting me share!
Plans for this birth? We are planning an HBAC with our midwife, but we are doing shadow care with an OB in case we do end up at the hospital again.
SAHM/WOHM/WAHM? Are you happy with your current situation? I have been a WOHM with a twist for the last two years. I work from my Aunt's home office - we do Fundraising Consulting for non-profit organizations. So I do have to get up and go to an office outside the home every day, but I have taken DS to work with me ever since he was a newborn. Though it sounds ideal, it got very difficult as soon as he started crawling full out around 7 months old. Also, the predicament it causes is that I don't give anything my full-attention and I end up feeling guitly on every front. I'm not the employee I need to be because I'm taking care of my child. I'm not the mother I want to be because I'm trying to get my work done and I can't play with him or take him to storyhour or the park, etc.
Since we have moved this week, I will be a WAHM at my own house (2.5 hours away from our main office). My work will be done over the internet and I am cutting back my hours to about 1/4 of the time starting in October. We'll see how it works..... Unfortunately, we still need a small piece of my income to meet our budget, or I would be a full-time SAHM.
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What is your favorite childhood memory? My youngest sister was born at home in my parents bed when I was 8.5 years old. This experience completely shaped my life, my views, my parenting and birthing philosophies. I wasn't actually present in the room during the birth (my mom needed to concentrate without distraction), but I was nearby and I got to see my new baby sister within minutes of her birth. After seeing her and checking on my mom, I made my mom a scrambled egg and orange juice. I was a little midwife (or douhla, I guess) already!
How did you and DH meet? Over the phone.
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We were working for the same university, but in different cities. We were recruiting the same kid, me for academics and him for Baseball. We flirted over the phone - he started calling me at work about other students he was recruiting, then he started calling me at work but not about students, then he started calling me at home.
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We didn't meet in person for our first date until two months later. A mutual friend asked him, "Don't you even want to know what she looks like?" He said, "I don't care if she weighs 1000 lbs., I'm in love with this girl." We were engaged 10 months later.
What is one thing that every first time momma needs to know? Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't hold your baby (for fear of spoiling them). Your baby has been inside of your body, as close to you as possible for the last 10 months. Your baby wants to be held and to be close to you. You can't spoil a newborn/infant. Their wants ARE their needs, and you (and your partner) are the only ones who can meet those needs for them.
How did you and DH meet? Over the phone.
What is one thing that every first time momma needs to know? Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't hold your baby (for fear of spoiling them). Your baby has been inside of your body, as close to you as possible for the last 10 months. Your baby wants to be held and to be close to you. You can't spoil a newborn/infant. Their wants ARE their needs, and you (and your partner) are the only ones who can meet those needs for them.
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