Care to share a little of your birth story with your DC#1? It's so hard to keep it short, but I will really try. I had planned all along to have a homebirth with a midwife, and never even considered that anything different would happen. I started active labor on a Friday afternoon, labored through the night and all day and night on Saturday. I kept getting stuck for many hours (like 8 hours) at different dialations (6 cm, 8 cm, 9 cm). This was due to malpositioning - baby was posterior. I pushed with a lip of cervix for 2+ hours. At about 10 p.m. on Sat., my midwife asked if she could break my water to see if it would help. When she did, there was meconium (what she called "particulate meconium" which is fresh and in larger chunks, rather than mixed in with the amniotic fluid...more dangerous for baby to aspirate). So we decided to transport to the hospital. Even though I was terribly exhausted and ready to hold my baby, the laboring at home for 30+ hours was the good part - I was surrounded by loved ones, in my own safe environment, with people I trusted. My hospital experience was hellish. I was treated badly by nurses, as if being punished for trying to have a normal, natural homebirth. When the "on-call unassigned" OB arrived, he angrily kicked my midwife out of the room (no need to hear a status report from the care provider who had been with me over the last two days, right doc?), and gave me a very rough vaginal exam after I asked him to wait until the contraction was over. By the way, transfering to the hospital while in transitions at 9+ cm was in itself not fun. But it gets better (?). After abruptly announcing we would be doing a c-section (even though he said I was complete), my mother, DH, and I all said, "He smells like alcohol." Well no way in the world was this angry doctor, who possibly had been drinking, going to be performing major surgery on me. We dismissed him, and then had to wait for another 1.5 hours for another doctor to agree to come treat me. All the while, I'm having triple-peaking contractions on top of each other, with back labor from posterior presentation, and I'm terrified that my baby is in danger and no one will help me. Also, because I was not pre-registered with any doctors orders they couldn't give my anything at all in the way of pain relief, which (I can't believe I'm saying this outloud) I gladly would have taken at the time.
We arrived at the hospital at 10:20 p.m. Sat. - Tanner was born at 1:02 a.m. on Sun. via C-section. I was pushing while they put in the epidural and spinal block for what I now know was my unnecessary C-section.
I can't go back and change anything now, but it was a very traumatic experience for me. DS did aspirate meconium into his lungs and spent a day and a half in the NICU. I was not myself emotionally for about 6 months postpartum. From this experience, I have been led to research all things VBAC and all things OFP (optimal fetal positioning). This time around, things will be different.
Sheesh, that wasn't short at all. Sorry. But thanks for letting me share!
Plans for this birth? We are planning an HBAC with our midwife, but we are doing shadow care with an OB in case we do end up at the hospital again.
SAHM/WOHM/WAHM? Are you happy with your current situation? I have been a WOHM with a twist for the last two years. I work from my Aunt's home office - we do Fundraising Consulting for non-profit organizations. So I do have to get up and go to an office outside the home every day, but I have taken DS to work with me ever since he was a newborn. Though it sounds ideal, it got very difficult as soon as he started crawling full out around 7 months old. Also, the predicament it causes is that I don't give anything my full-attention and I end up feeling guitly on every front. I'm not the employee I need to be because I'm taking care of my child. I'm not the mother I want to be because I'm trying to get my work done and I can't play with him or take him to storyhour or the park, etc.
Since we have moved this week, I will be a WAHM at my own house (2.5 hours away from our main office). My work will be done over the internet and I am cutting back my hours to about 1/4 of the time starting in October. We'll see how it works..... Unfortunately, we still need a small piece of my income to meet our budget, or I would be a full-time SAHM.