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<div style="text-align:center;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU TARASATTVA!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"></div>
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EDD: July 12 +/- ?? weeks (DD was born at 40w4d)<br>
Name: Tarasattva / Sharon<br>
Age: 34 (will be 35 before this little one makes an appearance)<br>
Location: Middle of the Woods, New Hampshire<br>
Family (partner, other children, etc): DH and DD (2 in Dec)<br>
Gender preferences/inklings: Part of me wishes for a girl (we would have all the hand-me-downs from DD and, well, I've been through the girl thing once already, it's familiar), but then part of me wishes for a boy (I come from a family of 1 girl, 1 boy and so I grew up thinking that was the "perfect" family, and well. I've been through the girl thing once and it'd be fun to try the boy route...) Clearly I'd be happy either way!<br>
Names you like: Oh goodness, we didn't name DD until several days after she was born, not even an inkling yet<br>
Birth Plans/Preferences: CNM in hostpital birthing center (I hope for a few small changes from DD's birth, but it was beautiful and I hope we can have something nearly as wonderful this time around).<br><div style="text-align:center;"><br>
A FEW TO GET YOU STARTED:<br><br>
WHAT ARE YOU CRAVING?<br><br>
HOW ARE YOU FEELING?<br><br>
WHAT ARE YOUR GUILTY PLEASURES?</div>
 

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Let's see....<br><br>
We now know that the little one is a he. But we still have no idea about names.<br><br>
I posted a while back about names - My husband is vietnamese, adopted by a jewish family, I am irish/english/scottish/european. Trying to balance my love of ethnic names with not knowing what the little guy will look like, and not wanting to make life rough for him while he grows in the backwoods of NH makes things tough. Trying to come up with something unique but not way out there is tough.... (Right now the short list has: Khai, Liem, Thanh, Gabe, Oliver, Myles but none are "the one").<br><br>
Had some concerning results on the quad screen, went the amnio route (feel good about this, know it was the right choice for me and my family) and some additional DNA testing, now know the little guy is chromosonally normal and does not have the other diseases associated with my particular test results. However the level of uE3 in my blood (very low) does put me at higher risk for 3rd tri complications (IUGR, placental problems, prematurity, stillbirth) so I'm getting more testing than a typlical pregnancy (2 growth scans, more frequent appts, etc), but so far so good!<br><br>
I passed my GD test with a 103 (I think our cut off was 135?). This was a nice unexpected win since I'm seriously overweight.<br><br>
BPs were the other concern since I was labeled as PIH last pregnancy (later all 4 midwives agreed it was white coat hypertension). I still have high readings in the office but my home BPs are great. They are totally not worried about this.<br><br>
So if it weren't for the stinking low uE3 I'd be low low risk. As is, the peri said that if my growth scan next week looks good (last scan we were at 70% - no growth restriction there!!) he'll officially label us boring and kick us back entirely to the midwives.<br><br>
Looking forward to a hospital birth with my CNMs. Our hospital ROCKS - no pressure on eye goop/hep b/vit k, baby stays with me always, room service brings meals for my and DH _whenever_ we ask (last time I had lasagna at 6.5cm, it came back up at 7.5 cm...), beautiful rooms that you stay in from checkin to checkout (with choice of hospital bed or regular queen), our family DO is recognized ped for initial well baby checks, etc, etc, etc.<br><br>
Cravings - CARBS - sourdough bread, red bliss potatoes, couscous, cereal, the starchier the better. (Think this has anything to do w/ babe in the 70% percentile???? My DD was 7#2oz, this one, not so much!)<br><br>
Other than the crazy need for carbs I'm feeling pretty good. My hips are starting to complain (not surprising given my weight) and I tire easily (although I'm currently blaming this on my DD who is going through a phase of not sleeping well).<br><br>
Guilty pleasures? Ummm see the note about carbs above!! Let's just say that they know me by name at Panera now. I also haven't given up my black tea (although I've now added RRL tea to the mix so I'm drinking less).<br><br>
I haven't posted much lately, for some reason the second/early third tri seems to have me focusing inward. Although I'm starting to feel a bit of need to be social again, so we'll see....
 

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Random cuteness from DD:<br><br>
DD: "Mummy, ice cream?"<br>
Me: "Your ice cream is all gone, we'll have to go to the store to get you some more." (she has allergies and can only have coconut milk 'ice cream')<br>
DD: "No, mummy, come here."<br>
Me: <following her over to fridge><br>
DD: "Up please"<br>
Me: <picks her up><br>
DD: "Open top door"<br>
Me: <opens freezer><br>
DD: <points to door of freezer> "See Mummy, mine ice cream"<br><br>
And she was right, what I thought was DH's B&J was actually DD's coconut ice cream.<br><br>
I don't know why this is so ridiculously cute, it's making me all "melty". Damn pregnancy hormones.
 

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I've been to NH a couple of times, it's so gorgeous.<br><br>
How much do you think your DD understands about the baby coming? Is she excited?<br>
You mentioned that you had a wonderful birth with your DD, but were hoping for a few small changes this time around. What do you want to be different for this birth?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've been to NH a couple of times, it's so gorgeous.</div>
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We think so too! I grew up here (actually just 10 miles from where we live now) and I feel so lucky to be able to raise my kids here. We have 15 acres and live on a dirt road off a dirt road off a dirt road, and yet the biggest city in NH is only 30min from our house. Most days it seems pretty darn perfect. (Other days I wish I could be back in OR where we lived for a couple of years and which is much more fitting to my world view, but hey, you can't always have it all!).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">How much do you think your DD understands about the baby coming? Is she excited?</div>
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Almost nothing at all. I really need to spend some time talking to her about what having a baby brother really means.<br><br>
She pats my belly and talks to baby brother through my belly-button (which is apparently some sort of microphone??), she picks out things to share with him - (pretend) piece of cake for daddy, piece for mummy, piece for baby brother - but I don't think she gets that it's a person in there.<br><br>
She loves babies when they belong to someone else, but I'm quite sure that at almost 2.5 she has no idea what this is going to mean in her life.<br><br>
We held off talking to her at first b/c 9 mo is a REALLY long time for a 2yo, then because we had such concerning test results, and now that things are back on track I just haven't taken the time I should to talk to her about it. (This is the weird thing about a second pregnancy, I'm so wrapped up in daily life that I often forget I am pregnant. When I'm w/ DD, I get wrapped up in what ever we're doing and don't think about how I should be prepping her. I'm a bit in denial about being 31weeks... Mum was over this weekend and was talking about getting DD's new room ready for her *before* baby comes, and I was thinking I had all kinds of time... Not so much...)<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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With DD I had arom due to elevated BP at 40+3 (was already at 4cm and stretchy, so I felt like this was a reasonable approach). We now know that the elevated BP was white coat hypertension (I hate having my BP checked and the first couple of readings are always 15-20+ pts higher than the subsequent ones).<br><br>
I had thought that it was the arom that led to constant monitoring but in talking to my midwife the other day I realized it was because of meconium in the waters. Guess I couldn't have prevented that other than avoiding the arom in the first place.<br><br>
I did end up with a "whiff" of pit when we couldn't get cxns to pick up, but apparently they no more than turned it on when they decided to turn it back off b/c things picked up.<br><br>
Mostly I'd like to know what it's like to go into labor on my own. But this also scares me a little bit as I didn't feel a single cxn until after 6cm, and from there I went directly into transition (not a time I would have wanted to be in a care trying to get to the hospital). It was also a fairly short first labor - I felt first cxn at 11pm, and was pushing by 2am.
 

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Are you a SAHM?<br><br>
How is this pregnancy different from your DD's?<br><br>
How is it the same?
 

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Another NH lover here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Do you all still have the license plates "Live Free or Die"?...those were my favourite.<br><br>
Your DD sounds like a smart cookie- you can't fool her when it comes to ice cream! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> My kind of girl!<br><br>
What do you and your family do together to have fun/relax?<br><br>
When you imagine your little boy, what do you see?<br><br>
Does your family celebrate your husband's Vietnamese and/or Jewish culture?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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No, I work full time as a software development manager. My team of developers (think geeky computer types that are just so adorably awkward you want to hug them) is spread out across the globe - the majority of them are in **********, AL or Hyderabad India, but I also have a good number of folks who work out of their homes across the US.<br><br>
The cool thing is that I get to do all of this from home. I often work in my PJs, and can wander downstairs to get a snack whenever I'm hungry (working at home was especially nice when I had bad morning sickness - no trying to be quiet in the stall next to a co-worker like last time!).<br><br>
However, since it is a full time job and then some, my DD does go to my mum's house during the day. We had her in a home daycare for her first 1.5 years, but when my mum lost her job a year ago we decided that it was a great opportunity all around to have her stay w/ my mum (a little extra cash for mum and an incrediable experience for DD).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">How is this pregnancy different from your DD's?<br>
How is it the same?</div>
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I had lost 100 lbs just before getting pregnant w/ DD. It involved a great diet and LOTS (1.5 - 2hrs/day) of exercise, so I went into that pregnancy in great shape. Of course after having been calorie deprived for so long I immediately gained a bunch of weight back. Add that to the fact that I quit smoking when I got my BFP and I ended up gaining 70lbs that pregnancy. So that pregnancy was a weird mix of starting from a great place but gaining way too much.<br><br>
This pregnancy I started near my top weight (never lost the prego weight plus having gained some more while on a weird allergy diet while BF my DD). So obviously I didn't go into this one from a great place, but I've done a much better job w/ weight gain (I'm up 7lbs at 31wks).<br><br>
With this pregnancy we opted for the quad screen which sent us down a rat hole of worry (although I'm still glad I did it - I'm a 'knowledge is power' type and since I have a 'pretty strong personality' (fill in what you will for that euphamism) I have had no trouble deciding which of the resulting additional tests and interventions _I_ am comfortable with). So obviously that's a bit different than last time.<br><br>
Also w/ DD I had low fluid and an anterior placenta - so I felt VERY little movement. My DH actually only felt one kick that entire pregnancy and it wasn't for lack of trying.<br><br>
This pregnancy I have an anterior placenta again, but normal fluid levels, so I am felling SO much more. In fact I'm pretty sure I'm growing a kickboxer/dancer/soccer player/gymnast in there!<br><br>
I've also had a far different emotional experience this time through. While I am generally a happy pregnant woman (in fact more so than when I'm not preggo), this time around I am much less focused on the pregnancy. With DD I thought about nothing else for 9 months - everything was ready way earlier than necessary, and I had read/consumed/devoured any information I could get my hands on. This time through I regularly forget I'm pregnant, can't believe I'm at 31wks, haven't done/bought anything for the little one, and am in complete denial that I'm going to have a baby in the next 10 or so weeks!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Another NH lover here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Do you all still have the license plates "Live Free or Die"?...those were my favourite.</div>
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It's funny just how many people have PM'd me about how much they love NH. I do feel so lucky to live here, but often think of us as a dinky little state tucked up into the corner of the country away from everyone else....<br><br>
Yes, we're still the Live Free or Die state - in fact the Free State Project (liberitarian group) has chosen NH as their spot to form a real presence and try to affect the local government. Should be interesting to see how this plays out.<br><br>
There have been some changes in recent years, while there is still the 'keep your laws off my life' yankee-ism, the state seems to be moving a bit more towards the dems than the libs (although we'll see how that plays out in upcoming elections with the economy still struggling).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Your DD sounds like a smart cookie- you can't fool her when it comes to ice cream! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> My kind of girl!</div>
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She is a trip. The funny thing is that I wasn't trying to hide it, I really thought we were out. Her ice cream is usually in a certain spot and it wasn't there this time. I do wonder if she saw it when someone opened the door for something else or if she was playing a hunch, but either way she got the goods.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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These days it's all about DD (she's 2.5). We spend a lot of time outside at home doing things around the yard - DH built our house 10 years ago, but are still just getting the landscaping/yard sorted out. Currently DD's favorite thing is to drive the tractor. She wants to go check the mail at least 3 times a day (mailbox is a mile down the driveway, so she gets dad to drive down w/ the tractor), thinks the lawn needs mowing every day and insists on putting the trailer on the tractor to "pick somethings up".<br><br>
She's just getting to a great age where the aquarium/childrens museum/zoo/etc would be fun, so I'm hoping we get a chance to do that before this little one arrives (or depending on how I feel maybe while I'm on leave w/ the little one).<br><br>
We also get to spend a good amount of time with family - my parents live just 10 miles away in the house I grew up in (I'm embarassed by this for some reason - like I never got away - but in fact DH and I lived in OR for a few years, then in MA for a couple, when it was time to come home we figured we'd land back in NH, but who knew it would be in the next town over from where I grew up???). At any rate my brother and his family live adjacent to my parents (they split the land), so we've got lots of family right here. And DH's family is spread over the north east, but they all make an effort to come up and visit regularly, and we manage to travel to them somewhat frequently as well.<br><br>
And as horrified as I am to admit this, DD's favorite thing as of late is to go the mall. Or in her words: the spaceship and train house. The only maternity store in the area is at a mall, and I've had a horrid time finding plus size maternity that fits me (small on top/giant belly/big legs) so we've gone in to check for new stock about once a month. I do my shopping very quickly and then she gets to ride on the miniature train and crawl all over the spaceship toy that eats quarters (little does she know that the thing turns on if you feed it money!!!)<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Being that my DD looks exactly like DH but is a carbon copy of my personalty (STRONG willed, too 'smart' for her own good, empathetic, did I mention strong willed???), I rather imagine (hope?) that this little boy is going to be just like DH.<br><br>
DH's genes will always win (asian vs irish/english), so I expect he'll look a lot like his sister, but I hope that he gets a bit of his dad in terms of personality. Quieter, funny, mechanical (able to reason out how something works and fix anything), sure of his ideas, but less overpowering than his mum.<br><br>
I actually picture the little guy as a quieter version of my DD. Maybe b/c my brother (younger than me by 2.5yrs, just like this little one will be compared to his sister) is the more subdued one in my family. It's also hard to believe that anyone could be as full of personality and energy as DD - if so our house will be very interesting!<br><br>
We're not much for gender roles in our house (in fact friends often joke that DH is my wife - taking care of me and making sure things get done, and some of our less "enlightened(?)" friends feel the need to ask why DD has so many "boy toys" - umm what???) so I am not really expecting big boy/girl differences, more first child/second child I think.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Does your family celebrate your husband's Vietnamese and/or Jewish culture?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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Mmmm, this one makes me sad.<br>
DH grew up in northern NH in a very rural area. (He actually went to a one-room school house with 2 kids in his grade.) From what I can tell his parents thought things would be easiest if he just 'blended in'. As a result if you met my DH w/o being able to see him you would likely assume that he was a (white) northern NH hick (complete w/ bad accent). In fact to this day his best friend calls him RAJ (******* Asian Jew).<br><br>
Which is a really long way of explaining that until I went through the papers that came with him when he was adopted he had no idea where in Vietnam he was from, he knows nothing about Vietnam itself (up until a few years ago he was _convinced_ that the entire nation lived in grass huts), and has absolutely no interest in learning more.<br><br>
This is in contrast to my family which is white as white can be, living in great white state of NH and was so concerned about this that they imported exchange students to live with us to expose us to other cultures. In fact the last "summer" exchange student we had ended up living with us all through high school and we consider her one of our siblings.<br><br>
As for his family's jewish heritage, his mum's family is non-practicing so he didn't get exposed at all there. His dad is non-practicing but his extended family is very observant. I'm not sure how this all played out, but DH has issues w/ his grandmother who apparently tried to stuff religion down DH and his brother's throats in such a way that both now consider themselves agnostic/atheist (depending on the day).<br><br>
That's all a very long explanation for 'no, while my DH has all sorts of cool backgrounds, he/his family have done nothing with any of it'.<br><br>
I'm sure it's clear how I feel about all of this, and that our children will be raised with a much different perspective. (Right now DD wants to go live in Japan b/c she thinks that sushi looks enough like birthday cake that it would be cool to eat it everyday - mind you DD has never had bday cake b/c she's allergic to wheat, eggs, milk, etc, but for some reason it's her favorite pretend food).
 
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