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Welsh!


You can say anything you want, and answer whatever you feel comfortable with...and nothing you don't. Have fun!

Info from intro thread:
EDD: July 1st by LMP (but I delivered DS at 42 wks so I'm telling self my EDD is July 15th)
Name:Emma
Age:34
Location: Moscow, Russia
Family (partner, other children, etc): DH and DS, Lloyd (26 mos who weaned nearly 2 wks ago...phew!!)

Gender preferences/inklings:
If I'm honest, I would love a girl. My Mom died just before I got pg with DS and we were very close. DH is also great talking to women and I know we'd both like one of each. Inkling is though, that I'll have 2 boys like MIL. I won't find out the sex this time.
Really though, as long as they're healthy.....

Names you like:
Girls- Carys which means Love, Ffionn which means Foxglove
Boys - Unsure yet as I used my favourite for DS!
(Welsh names to remind us of our heritage as we travel)

Birth Plans/Preferences: DH won't entertain the idea of me delivering in Russia. I will go home to Wales with DS and stay with my Dad. MIL will help. Low risk pregnancies are MW-led in the UK and I could have a home birth but at my Dad's house, with DH maybe not there...who knows.
I had a 4 hr labor with DS so I will be prepared to deliver at home in case this one is faster.
I will be using Hypnobirthing again.

Anything else you'd like to share:
DH came off his meds for severe psoriasis (his choice) so we could conceive so I'm happy that it happened the 1st month bc he's been really uncomfortable.
I knew I was pg really quickly because I wasn't enjoying my coffee (same with DS pregnancy) but I did 3 tests that were negative. Yesterday, the woman in the pharmacy told me to buy a Clear Blue instead of the cheap Frautest ones I'd been using. I actually think I hadn't followed the instructions properly on the others...they were in Russian!!!
Oh, and....
Next weekend, I'm going to Berlin with my best girlfriend and leaving DS for the first time. BFF will be devastated that I can't drink!!!!!

A couple to get you started:

What are you craving?

How are you feeling?

Guilty pleasure?
 

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What are you craving?
I'm starting to crave pineapple and avocados (not together!). Last pregnancy, I was spoilt living in Texas with all that great produce. This time round I want the same things (and Mexican food) but we're in Moscow and, well, beets don't quite cut it!
Also love cheddar cheese sandwiches and spinach in mashed potatoes.

How are you feeling?
Good now the 1st trimester misery is over. I hate those first 12 weeks of nausea and lethargy. I was a horrible Mother to DS and he watched too much tv


Guilty pleasure?
My guilty pleasure is the occasional cup of coffee. Once a week bag of potato chips (crisps we call them!) not the local flavours like caviar or crab though!


The biggie though is that I have a sitter who plays with DS for a while 3 afternoons a week so I can take a nap. He will only nap once or twice a week if we're in the car and I'm sleeping badly at night so I'm very lucky.

Fire away!
 

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Thank goodness for the sitter so you can nap!!!


So interesting about the crab flavoured crisps.


I craved pineapple too with my first - who was a girl.
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Can you get canned fruit in Moscow? Who are their main imports from? Just wondering.

Do you speak Russian? What kind of social support/social circle do you have in Russia?
 

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As an expat, I'm sure you miss certain things from your homeland that aren't available where you're living now.
What favorite homemade meals do you make that remind you of home?
And what substitutions do you use for items completely unavailable in Russia?
 

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Thank goodness for the sitter so you can nap!!!


So interesting about the crab flavoured crisps.


I craved pineapple too with my first - who was a girl.
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Can you get canned fruit in Moscow? Who are their main imports from? Just wondering.

You can get canned fruit but it's all in syrup. I did find a small tin of pineapple chunks in juice in an expat store last week which cost $10!
Alot of meat comes from the US. Imported fruit and veg tends to come from Holland, France, citrus from Spain. Alot of stuff from China; apples, pears, garlic.
In the summer I shop at the outdoor markets and the local produce is wonderful. A kilo (2.2lbs) of strawberries for $2.
Alot of the more local produce comes from Azerbajan. My Teacher told me to avoid anything from the Byelorussia area because of Chernobyl and the nuclear disaster. Yikes!


I'm learning Russian. I don't have as much time for it as I would like but I'm doing well compared to most expats here. Blowing own trumpet!

I have an advantage though, my degree is in European languages so although Russian is different, I have a good grounding in grammar etc.
It really improved my quality of life when I could shop at the markets instead of relying on the overpriced supermarkets

What kind of social support/social circle do you have in Russia
It was easier to make friends here than in our last location which was Houston!
I think that, because it's not easy living here as a foreigner, the expat community are very organised and supportive. International Women's Club, British Women's Club, American Women's Organisation etc.
For the most part, alot of these women are spoilt rotten but you eventually sniff out your own kind! There are lots of babygroups to join or you can stalk English speakers at Starbucks!
It's hard to break the bubble and make Russian friends. I have been to a musical concert with a teacher at my language school which was really nice.
I have a wide circle of expat Mums in their 30's who we have playdates with and a Mums Night Out occasionally. Friendly acquaintances.
Then I have about 4 good friends who I feel I can be myself with. None of them nursed quite as long as me but a couple are fairly crunchy.
I takes some effort to travel to see people, the traffic is horrendous, but I'm always glad when I do. I really need social interaction for fuel.
 

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Originally Posted by Terrilein View Post
As an expat, I'm sure you miss certain things from your homeland that aren't available where you're living now.
What favorite homemade meals do you make that remind you of home?
And what substitutions do you use for items completely unavailable in Russia?
Mmm, well as Britain isn't exactly renowned for haute cuisine (to say the least!), I crave more foods from our 4.5 yrs in Texas! The beef, the Mexican food....ahhh!
I do cook alot of curries as DH and I both love Indian food which you do get alot of back home. In a poll, it was decided that the national dish of the UK was Chicken Tikka Massala!
If I'm honest, whatever we can't get here we tend to stock up in great quantities when we go back. Somethings you can get here are so expensive that I always give visitors a shopping list of items to bring with them.
A big problem here for me is the sugar. It's in everything, even babyfood (not that I buy it) and you always have to buy an imported brand in order to find plain yoghurt, for example.
 

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Caviar crisps! hmmm...
I'd try them.

Zdravstvuite! (trying my best to remember the little Russian I know)

What do you most look forward to about the new baby?

How do you think Lloyd will like being an older brother?

What is something you could not live without with your last newborn?

What is the hardest thing and the best thing about being an expat mama?

 

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What do you miss, besides the beef and mexican, most from your time in the USA?

How cold has it gotten there, in Russia, whilst you've been there? (We've had -30F windchills here, just curious if it is as cold there as I have been lead to believe)

Have you ever stood on the Torchwood secret entrance paving stone in Cardiff?

It sounds like you are well traveled, what are the highlights of your journeys? (Warm sunny Spain in the middle of winter?)

We've only done one flight with our toddler, a transatlantic to move back to the USA. How does your DS do on flights? Any tips?

Favourite music? and can you hear it in Russia?
 

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Oh, btw, the way roast beef is cooked in the UK is super yummy, says the woman who likes hers pink, and roasties, and yorkies, mmm. DH and I have learned how to make yorkshire puddings, since we can no longer pop across the way to Iceland and pick up frozen ones. Real ones are so much better!

Would caviar crisps be much different than prawn cocktail crisps? p.c. crisps were a new twist for me, lol
 

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I love the name Carys!! I would even steal it if we have a girl, but it doesn't go well with our last name.


Is your DH Russian? How did you come to live there? Are you there permanently?
 

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I love the name Carys!! I would even steal it if we have a girl, but it doesn't go well with our last name.


Thanks!! It's a shame I probably won't get to use it because I really think I'm having a boy!!!!

Is your DH Russian? How did you come to live there? Are you there permanently?
No, DH is also Welsh! We're from the same hometown of 20,000 people.
He is an Economist for a multinational company and spends 3-5 yrs in a location as a specialist looking at the viability of new projects. We'll probably be here in Moscow for another 2 years.
 

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I have written replies to a couple of posts and after submitting it keeps saying, 'Mesage is too short, must be longer than 1 character'
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For some reason, it won't let me quote so I had to edit..weird
 

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What do you most look forward to about the new baby?
The smell of baby's skin.

Also having done it once, knowing I can nurse, relieves alot of the doubts/fears I had last time.


How do you think Lloyd will like being an older brother?
I'm not sure yet. We are so attached and I am thinking we'll do things to try not to make him feel pushed out e.g short activity or lunch without the babe.
I think he'll be sweet though as he's very affectionate and was kissing a friend's baby yesterday


What is something you could not live without with your last newborn?
1) A History of Painting by Sister Wendy Becket!
I have a long torso and didn't buy a nursing glider. So in the early weeks, I'd have one foot raised on this huge art book and numerous pillows plus a boppy! I've just bought the Boppy newborn wedge which they didn't have then so it should be easier next time.
2) A postpartum doula for a week. She was an angel.
She helped us with nursing, swaddling, had little tricks for making him fall asleep - like stroking the bridge of his nose to make him close his eyes. She made me take naps, went to the grocery store. We were in Houston, no family, no friends then with babies. A Godsend.


What is the hardest thing and the best thing about being an expat mama?
The hardest thing was definitely the lack of support. DH really stepped up though. All our friends were still partying and didn't understand why we didn't just get a sitter to join them. We didn't see people for quite a long time. I got proactive and made Mummy friends by trying out lots of groups to find one that fit. I didn't leave the house on my own with DS though for nearly 6 wks. Plus, August in Houston is no time to be 42 wks pregnant. We also couldn't go out for walks until October!

Best thing....the memories we're making and pictures we're taking will make for interesting stories later. DS is growing up in an international environment and I hope that'll give him a sense of broad horizons
 

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Oh, btw, the way roast beef is cooked in the UK is super yummy, says the woman who likes hers pink, and roasties, and yorkies, mmm. DH and I have learned how to make yorkshire puddings, since we can no longer pop across the way to Iceland and pick up frozen ones. Real ones are so much better!
You put me to shame! I have never made real Yorkshires! A Sunday roast is so much work...and washing up!

Would caviar crisps be much different than prawn cocktail crisps? p.c. crisps were a new twist for me, lo
Very different. I thought the crab ones would be PC but they're not either. Strangely tasty though

What do you miss, besides the beef and mexican, most from your time in the USA?
Great friends. It took some time but I really met my people there. Some friendships were really just taking off as we found out we were leaving. It was right before all the 1st Birthday parties from playgroup too

Shopping! Oh how I miss jumping in the car and being able to buy anything within 30 mins. Now DS is in Montessori from 9-12 today and that doesn't give me enough time to get to the grocery store!


How cold has it gotten there, in Russia, whilst you've been there? (We've had -30F windchills here, just curious if it is as cold there as I have been lead to believe)
Not sure about the windchill factor but the actual temp 2 weeks ago was
-27c (-16.6F)


Have you ever stood on the Torchwood secret entrance paving stone in Cardiff?
No! But I should!

It sounds like you are well traveled, what are the highlights of your journeys? (Warm sunny Spain in the middle of winter?)
I love eating tapas in Spain. Or eating food anywhere new really. There was that Japadog hotdog stand in Vancouver that we frequented alot and then later saw Anthony Bourdain rave about it on tv

Oh and mustn't forget blackened beef tenderloins with debris sauce from K-Paul's in New Orleans

Best trip ever though was driving down the Pacific Coast Highway with DH in 2005. I'm looking at a photo I took of Big Sur on the wall right now!


We've only done one flight with our toddler, a transatlantic to move back to the USA. How does your DS do on flights? Any tips?
Sometimes better than others but generally ok. I always buy a cheap toy (or keep Christmas cracker gifts) and wrap them in tissue paper and then dish them out when he needs distracting. DS is very social so he likes to walk up and down and 'make friends'!

Favourite music? and can you hear it in Russia?
Very diverse tastes in music in our house!
We have family disco at the weekends when we dance around to VH1. We LOVE it when it's early 90's stuff that just takes us back...
DS loves classical music because of the talented street musicians in Moscow who entertained him all summer with Vivaldi!
I love lots of world music like Baaba Maal, McSolaar, Acid Jazz, French chansons populaires, shameless pop.
Can't stand American Idol type ballads or country (despite loving Texas!)
DH is an indie kid in recovery. Oh and this cracks me up, at his funeral he wants 'I did it my way' but the Sid Vicious version!!!!
 

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LOL, I named my old computer Sid because it had an attitude!

Sunday roasts, lol, do have a lot of washing up afterwards! The kitchen is a disaster area when DH is done with it.

You've studied European Languages, how many can you speak/understand? Do you teach Lloyd them?

If you could pick where your DH's next assignment is, what country would you want to go to live (minus countries you've lived in previously)?

And finally for a laugh, can you say Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwyll-llantysiliogogogoch in one breath? I had to look that up in one of my UK books (how would that be written phonetically for English only speakers? DH likes to say to me "I can say that famous train station in Wales----Cardiff Central, hahaha" I'd like to come back with the pronounciation of the *real* thing)


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LOL, I named my old computer Sid because it had an attitude!

Sunday roasts, lol, do have a lot of washing up afterwards! The kitchen is a disaster area when DH is done with it.

You've studied European Languages, how many can you speak/understand? Do you teach Lloyd them?
German, French, Spanish and a bit of Italian.
DH's parents have retired to Spain so when we're there I do encourage Lloyd to say please, thank you, hello etc in Spanish.
He's in bilingual Montessori programme here Eng/Russian a couple of mornings a week.


If you could pick where your DH's next assignment is, what country would you want to go to live (minus countries you've lived in previously)?
That is such a tricky one for me to answer.
Since my Mum passed away I feel a responsibility toward my Sister and Dad and am hesitant to agree to move as far away as we were when she died. I did make it home in time to say goodbye though.
So Australia for a couple of years sounds great. But we'd only get home once a year, DS wouldn't see his cousins....it's my constant struggle.
DH doesn't have the same family ties but understands, somewhat.
Closer to home I'd have to say Spain. I love the way of life, the siesta, the food and the way that children in restaurants and churches are celebrated not shushed!


And finally for a laugh, can you say Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwyll-llantysiliogogogoch in one breath? I had to look that up in one of my UK books (how would that be written phonetically for English only speakers? DH likes to say to me "I can say that famous train station in Wales----Cardiff Central, hahaha" I'd like to come back with the pronounciation of the *real* thing)

Ha! You'll be sorry you asked!!!
The hardest sound for non Welsh speakers to make is the LL. It doesn't really sound like k as I've written below but is a gutteral, Germanic sound made by placing your tongue flat on the roof of your mouth!
Phonetically - Klanvayar pulkgwin gilk gore geroock weendroboock klan diss sillio gore gore gork
 
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