[mymaybaby05]

Hi, I'm looking for advice.
I am in my 1st trimester of pregnancy and spotting. I have had several miscarriages before and we do not want to have another. I am bf my 2 year old son. As much as I feel sad to end our bf relationship, we need to to protect the pregnancy. How can I wean him gently, but also as quickly as possible? Any help would be great! I had trouble weaning my older dd, that explains why she was 4 when she weaned!

 

[quirkylayne]

A few thoughts before some ideas about weaning - is your spotting brown, pink, red? Spotting can be normal during pregnancy, especially in the beginning. Have you had your hormone levels checked? Perhaps you need more progesterone?

If you do decide to wean I would start with changing routines - if you nurse at night before bed have dad read a story instead. Or if your child sleep in another room have dad get him up and head to the breakfast table before he sees you. If you nurse after bath time in the afternoon, change bathtime to morning.

Offer distractions or subsitutions - lets read a book or play a game instead! Are you hungry? Would you like some apple slices? Do you need some cuddle time, come and let me rock you in our favorite chair!

Allow nursing but shorten the sessions. When your toddler asks to nurse tell him okay, but only for 2 minutes or whatever you decide.

Good luck with your decision.

 

[mymaybaby05]

Ok, I started to "count" when he was nursing. I thought I 'd let him nurse for 10 seconds. Well, he only nursed for 6 and unlatched. But I think I'll try it again next time. Also, I'll try more distractions, like you suggested. I think he likes to nurse out of boredom. My spotting has been diffrent at diffrent times and my Doc told me to really be careful nursing and preg. especially with my history of m/c's and premature births. The unfort. part of this whole thing is we are going through some major transitions and this is adding another one. But, I still want to try weaning him now.