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I've lurked here off and on for a few years now. The more time that passes, the more I realize how much I enjoy this forum and how close to home many of these threads hit for me. A little background, I'm a 30 year photographer with almost 3 year old identical twin boys. Though I've never labeled myself an Attachment Parenting parent(?), I did co-sleep, nurse both boys exclusively for almost two years, babywear, I still stay home with them, etc. I really feel I could pour myself into the whole AP movement but my husband is pretty much the complete opposite of me which leads me to the point of this post.<br><br>
I'l lstart by saying I think my boys are really good children. We've never had issues with biting, pushing, spitting, stealing toys, tantrums or anything. They're biggest issue whining and reacting to disciplline or things not going there way with tears and shrills. Oh, and they like to throw toys in the air and watch them fall (but who doesn't, right?) The problem is, I feel like my husband is too hard on them. The offenses I listed above are TOTALLY unacceptable to him at ALL times! I feel like he just corrects themall day and it's very stressful for me and makes me hate weekends. He even corrects for them using "mm-hm and uh-uh" unstead of yes sir and no sir and saying "gotta" instead of have to. It's sickening to me. He's not yelling when he corrects it, but he takes on this kind of drill sargeant voice that's just as bad.<br><br>
The OTHER problem is, because they're scared of him, they do seem to behave better around him and just let it all hang out with me. He makes me feel like I'm the failing parent because they "take advantage" of me and not him. It's really a frustrating situation. So my question is have any of you found a way to make GD work when you're the only one on board? I don't want my kids to be totally confused. He says they'll just grow up knowing what to expect from each parent. Kind of makes sense but I'm just not sure. Sorry I made my first post here a freakin novel but just not sure where else to get some support on this issue. Thanks so much and I'm excited about being a part of this community <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
I'l lstart by saying I think my boys are really good children. We've never had issues with biting, pushing, spitting, stealing toys, tantrums or anything. They're biggest issue whining and reacting to disciplline or things not going there way with tears and shrills. Oh, and they like to throw toys in the air and watch them fall (but who doesn't, right?) The problem is, I feel like my husband is too hard on them. The offenses I listed above are TOTALLY unacceptable to him at ALL times! I feel like he just corrects themall day and it's very stressful for me and makes me hate weekends. He even corrects for them using "mm-hm and uh-uh" unstead of yes sir and no sir and saying "gotta" instead of have to. It's sickening to me. He's not yelling when he corrects it, but he takes on this kind of drill sargeant voice that's just as bad.<br><br>
The OTHER problem is, because they're scared of him, they do seem to behave better around him and just let it all hang out with me. He makes me feel like I'm the failing parent because they "take advantage" of me and not him. It's really a frustrating situation. So my question is have any of you found a way to make GD work when you're the only one on board? I don't want my kids to be totally confused. He says they'll just grow up knowing what to expect from each parent. Kind of makes sense but I'm just not sure. Sorry I made my first post here a freakin novel but just not sure where else to get some support on this issue. Thanks so much and I'm excited about being a part of this community <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.