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Welcome to the TTC #1 in Our 30's Graduates Thread!
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We are the ladies of the Bajingo Juice Club who have gotten our BFPs.

All due dates are welcome.

Are you pregnant with your first and in your 30's but never heard of the BJC?

Welcome! Please join us!

Let's keep in touch during our pregnancy journeys.

The more the merrier!

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May 2013

9 ~ Kimble

18~AmandaLynnH- conceived after one month off the pill!!

June 2013

08- Espion- BFP after MC

15- Bebelove- TTC since 03/1

September 2013

Dakipode EDD 9/13/13

November 2013

M.Q. - EDD 11/13/13

December 2013

lilacvioletiris, BFP after 24 months! EDD: 12/19/13

Congratulations Mamas!!!

BOYS: 12

GIRLS: 10

Cathleleni~ Rose born 9/18/12 at 5 lbs 11oz

2sweetsparrows~ Augustus Neale born 9/17/12 at 11:19pm 8.0 oz 19"

ericaf ~ Ruby Mae born 9/1/12 at 9:52 p.m. 8 lbs 4 oz, 20"

andaluza ~ Baby Boy M born 8/23/12

Lilytiger ~ Piper Ingrid born 8/13/2012 at 3 a.m. 7 lbs 6 oz, 21"ii

iixivboots~ Lyle George born 8/3/12 at 6:28 p.m. 8 lbs 6 oz, 20"

Scowgirl ~ Evelyn Linnea born 7/16/12 at 10:30 a.m. 8 lb 0 oz, 21"

CACountyGirl ~ Juniper Lee born 7/3/12 at 1:01 a.m.

Calycanth ~ Cara Laurel born 6/29/12 at 10:51 p.m.

Dandylez ~ Adair Seamus born early 6/28/12 at 3:35 p.m., in our thoughts!
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Bel718 ~Twins born 5/31/12!!! Baby Boy M 5 lbs 9 oz; Baby Girl A 6 lbs 10 oz

RosieL ~ Odin born 4/7/12 at 12:15AM

Ramzubo ~ Brody Alexander born 1/29/12 after 27 hours of labor

birdie.lee ~ Baby Boy L born 11/20/11 after just five hours of labor

Tank ~ Elliot born on 11/8/11 at 11:38AM

Hykue ~ Raven Brisa born 10/31/11, 8lb 2oz

ValH ~ Jacob born 10/4/11 at 9:55AM

Tear78 ~ Baby Girl A born 7/15/11

LivingSky ~ Kayden born 7/14/11

Meander ~ Alaric born 7/3/11

Blanca78 ~ Baby Girl E born 4/24/11
 

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Yesterday I had a pregnancy blood test done and it was 149. I am finally pregnant after 2 years of TTC with male infertility issues. I would love to connect with other first time moms as this is a whole new world for me and my DDC has so many people on baby 3, 4, 5, ...., 9. I am the oldest of 7 but I think I need to connect with ladies going through this for the first time.
 

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Hey Lilac, good to see you here on the other side. I never really looked for the Bajingo graduates thread. Seems like it's been pretty slow, I find it hard to believe there would be no due dates between June and December. You can put me in September if you like, 9/13 officially.
 

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I am hoping that more of the pregnant ladies in their 30s will join in. The TTC thread has been slower the last 6 months or so and there are only 6 ladies that have gotten BFP over there. Some people aren't quite as involved in forums. I find them useful and supportive since in real life I only know of three other pregnant woman and they are former students of mine so it is a bit awkward to discuss things with them.

I am looking forward to next Tuesday, April 23, when I go to my doctor for an ultrasound to make sure my babies/baby are growing in the right place and also find out if it is one or two babies growing in there. I want my doctor to let me know I can do more than just walk for exercise. There is a prenatal swimming class that I would like to get involved with. It meets every Tuesday and Thursday from 7 to 7:45 pm and it is FREE at our YMCA. Where I live, our county has the highest infant mortality in Michigan so I think that is one of the reasons that they want pregnant women to get together and get support in addition to exercise and they offer it for free.
 

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Glad to see you both here, Lilac and Dapikode! I think people get into their DDC and at least for me, I found pregnancy to be less OCD-inducing than TTC.

You can put me down as May 9. I'd love to hear what you are all up to and keep you posted on any new developments on this end!

for now, I'll just say that you will reach the point at which you don't think you can get any bigger ... and surpass it ... several times. I had that the first time at about 5 months, and now at 8 months+ I feel I must have hit terminal mass. Looking at pictures of DDCs several months ahead helped prime me for just how things can go.
 

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kimble glad to see you have almost made it to the end of your journey! Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl or is it a surprise for you and your DH?
 

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I'm in this boat. 34 YOA and 9w6d along with my first and only. Got my BFP the first month trying, so I had no time to join the TTC thread ?

Thrilled and excited, but nauseous.

-MQ
 

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M.Q. Welcome! So what is your due date based on your number of weeks? The first trimester so far for me has been filled with an overactive sense of smell. Chocolate tastes like coffee and I don't like coffee but love chocolate :(
 

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EDD is November 13th.?

I'm getting excited as I near the end of the first trimester; hoping like crazy that the nausea goes away. And my birthday is the day after my EDD, so I am looking forward to a birthday baby ?

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M.Q. that is cool - Nov. 13 was my dad's birthday. I was thinking it would be cool if your baby was born on 11/12/13. Only happens once every 100 years. I hope your nausea goes away soon.

AFM, just trying to keep my shoulder, knee, and ankle from hurting. As long as I don't stand for too long, I am okay.
 

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Been feeling a little crampy in an odd way yesterday and today. No bleeding but just an odd feeling. The pain goes away if I lay down, but if I sit up or stand for too long it feels uncomfortable. Looking forward to my ob ultrasound on Tuesday to find out if I am having one or 2 babies and to make sure everything is growing as it ought to be.
 

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lilac, it could be round ligament pain or just miscellaneous pregnancy "everything down there is shifting" cramping. I'll look forward to your Tuesday update!

kimble, so looking forward to seeing a birth announcement from you in the coming month!

M.Q., hope your nausea resolves soon. Mine went away around 13 weeks. Also feel free to tell us a bit more about yourself.

I'd love to see a bit more 30's related discussion in this thread so I'll go first and give some background about our situation:

When my best friend got pregnant at 27 I thought we would soon follow, we had been dating for 4 years at that point and I figured marriage and kids were in our near future. We were at that stage: getting settled into jobs, buying a house, he was in the second half of his 30's so I thought he was getting closer to being ready... I had always had this self-imposed deadline of having #1 before I was 30 and at some point we had a huge fight over "when are we going to have kids". At the time he said we could start trying on my 30th birthday but I knew it was a lie and something he felt he'd been forced to say so I didn't bring it up. We got married a year and a half later and I held my tongue. Then when our first anniversary approached I told him "it's time" and he (reluctantly) agreed. I will say that for about five years or so I was unhappy because having kids was such an important factor for me in our relationship. At the same time I had no intention of leaving because a lot of other aspects of our relationship worked really well, it was just the waiting that was killing me, but it was my choice, my sacrifice, to give him time.

I'm curious to hear from you ladies how it got to be that you're having #1 in your 30's. Was the economic crisis a big factor for you? Did 30 just sneak up on you? Had you always planned to wait?
 

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dakipode, after looking up round ligament pain on webmd, I think that may very well be what it is. I would have sharp stabbing pain and then it would go away. Sort of a dull ache right now, but I finally decided to just take some tylenol an hour ago and I am feeling better. Not much of a pill popper and I prefer natural remedies to pharmaceutical ones but right now I want to feel good.

On the side of 30's discussion, I remember the Christmas I was 29 years old. I had a boyfriend at the time who I thought was "perfect". Later learned that he was not financially responsible and the job he told me he had wasn't one he actually worked at anymore. Fast forward 6 months, I turned 30 and met a man through eharmony that I had actually known and liked when I was in college 10 years previous but had lost contact with. We had a great summer romance, talked about getting married during Labor Day weekend, then the next weekend he came to visit "because he had to tell something to me face to face" (he lived 11 hours away in another state). He broke up with me and I was devastated. It took me over a year to get over that relationship. I dated another about a year after that but he didn't really want to get married. Then one of my girl friend's started talking to this man from Canada. He came down to visit her, but she came to the conclusion that he was not the man for her, but would be perfect for me. I ignored her for several months but she kept harassing me about it. Finally in April 2009, I emailed him and expected not to hear a thing back from him. But he wrote back, we started emailing often back and forth and at the end of May 2009 we started talking on the phone and he began planning a July visit. We hit it off and Labor Day weekend 2009, he asked me to marry him. Because he was Canadian we had to jump through immigration to make it possible for him to move to the U.S. Finally May 2010, he was approved to come on a fiance' visa, he moved end of June 2010 and we were married July 11, 2010. Since we were still going through immigration and he hadn't been approved to work in the U.S. yet, I continued taking birth control pills which I had taken for years to control painful periods. DH got his green card in Oct. 2010 and got a full time job in Jan. 2011. I got really sick with the flu in March 2011 and was on some antibiotics so we were extra careful that month "not to get pregnant yet". If I only knew what the next 2 years would bring. We decided that in April 2011 I would stop taking the pill and we would get started TTC, figuring it would take a couple months for my periods to come back to normal after being on the pill so long. I started charting my bbt and paying attention to my CM but by Oct 2011 we still weren't expecting. My bbt was always very low and I had other symptoms of hypothyroidism. I went to my doctor and was finally diagnosed with hypothyroid in Oct. 2011. I thought that was going to fix our problems. Nope. In March 2012, my DH had a sperm assay and it came back as zero sperm. Both DH and I were devastated. After talking to the urologist in April 2012, he basically told use we could never have biological children, but he wanted my DH to have a repeat SA done in May 2012. I had convinced my DH to take vitamin supplements right after his initial zero sperm diagnosis and in May 2012, 7 weeks later, the lab technician found 25 sperm in my husband's ejaculate. Not enough to get pregnant without assistance, but enough that we could freeze several samples and aim toward an IVF cycle. The summer of 2012 was spent going back and forth to the fertility clinic freezing samples until the doctors decided we had enough frozen to make a go of an IVF cycle. Then we needed to save up the money to actually be able to do the cycle. My insurance covered 80% (which is amazing given some other people's insurance coverage for infertility). We got a surprise financial gift that allowed us to get started with our IVF planning in Jan. 2013, then in March 2013 I started my IVF cycle. Egg retrieval was the most painful medical procedure I have ever been through (and frankly I have never been through any other medical procedures in my life to that point). The lab was able to inject my DH's sperm into 14 of the 18 eggs that were viable and 13 of those eggs made it to day 2. Embryo transfer two days later was painless in comparison. When I got my BFP on the two year anniversary of us beginning our TTC journey, it gave me lots of tears. We had finally done it. With the help of medical science and a miracle of God, our embryos or embryo, we don't know yet, is growing inside me. Keeping the faith is truly believing in things that are unseen. I am sort of hoping for twins because I will be 37 this year and I don't want to be a really old mom. But God has given me a chance to be a mother and for this I am thankful. If I am not having twins, we will definitely transfer a couple more of the embryos that are currently frozen to make our family bigger. Medical science is amazing.
 

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Just popping in here since this is the active Bajingo thread... Hi everyone!
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Life is busy here with baby Cormac (almost 4 months old now...!!!!) but I love checking in and seeing those BFPs!!

Lilac, I loved reading your recap of your TTC journey. You have an incredible story and it just goes to show that keeping the faith brings great rewards. There were several moments along our 15-month TTC journey that made me doubt that I would ever be a mom. But thanks to this community, I was always aware of inspiring stories like yours that kept me going. I can't wait to hear if you're having one or two!!

Kimble, Daki, MQ--it's great to see you all on the other side! Pregnancy was a wonderful time for me... I absolutely loved it. Wishing you all the very best in the coming months!
 

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Congratulations to dakipode and Lilac (and others I know less!)- on your pregnancies!

Pitch- The is a Bajingo thread on "Life with Babe" too!

My LO is 9 months old now. Almost walking- because being around her big sis is making her want to grow up so fast. She is an absolute dream of a babe- happy, healthy, easy going.

The question now- more? I am 37. I might be done?
 

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Pitch, your avatar is adorable. Love the picture of you with your little boy. I am glad that pregnancy and now living with a little one has been a great experience. I am glad that my experience can be an encouragement to others. I remember when you finally got your BFP. I found that BFP brought me hope that someday soon I would get mine too.

CA country girl, I am sure your littlest girl wants to emulate everything your older daughter does. There are still a few years until 40, maybe another baby in your future, even thought it took quite awhile for you to conceive your second.

AFM, tiredness seems to really be ever present. I know it is just a regular pregnancy symptom, but I wonder if it is worse for us older ladies since we have "so much going on" around us. Last week I was able to chill a bit more at work because 99 percent of the high school was on a band trip out to Boston. Today they are all back. I am sure some will be extremely tired and others "sick" and won't come to school at all. Four more weeks of teaching, then a week of final exams and graduation preparation and then my time at the school I have given 12 years of my life to will end. I think I will be having some emotional times as the different milestones of the end of the year come. I am hoping tomorrow's ultrasound is good news and that the job interview I have scheduled is a good one as well.
 

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As to why we're having our one-and-only in my mid 30's:

I am not the mommy type. Growing up, my dolls were always my 'siblings' or my 'students', never my babies. I just never had any desire to be a parent, and with a history of abuse I REALLY had no interest in OB/GYN care and the things that people with lots of letters after their names think they have rights to do to women because they're pregnant.

I was 27 when I married the perfect guy. He wanted kids, but understood that I did not and was willing to deal with that reality. Fast forward two years and a lapse in fertility awareness (read: blasé attitude) led to a surprise pregnancy that ended in an early miscarriage. That changed everything for me. I had never wanted A baby, but I realized that I wanted THAT baby, and afterward I felt very strongly that my heart had changed and I wanted to be a mother. This feeling was reinforced when I discovered the loss group on MDC and learned about a more natural approach to pregnancy and birth than the standard obstetric model of care. I was 30. DH, it turned out, was not on board.

DH is a planner, a worrier, and very obsessed with finances. He was against having a baby until we were completely out of debt (save the mortgage). So we went to diligently charting to avoid, and we bought a lady comp. He obsessed over money things and I obsessed over baby things. Meanwhile, nearly all of our married friends started having babies. I made sure to expose him to as many adorable newborns and precious infants as possible, which has been pretty easy with nearly a dozen of them around.

I had made it clear from the beginning that I wanted an out-of-hospital birth and a natural care plan and that meant I would need to be considered low-risk when pregnant; a situation that put a very firm deadline on TTC. If I didn't get pregnant by the time I was 34, it wasn't going to happen. I turned 34 last November and he seemed no closer to ready, so I was beginning to process the thought that it just wasn't going to happen. But last January, he brought it up (too late in the cycle to start right away) and we decided to try in February- our one chance left to have an entire pregnancy before I turned "geriatric".

Baby is due one day before I turn 35. :) Timing is everything.

-MQ
 

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Mq love your story.

On my phone, I am having twins! Ultrasound was clear and DH and I saw the hearts beat too!
 

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Lilac: YAHOOOOO! So happy for you! You're having #1 and #2 in your 30's!

M.Q. thanks for sharing your story. Love the fact that your due date is one day before the dreaded cut off!
 
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