I don't really see them as stages... to me, it's more fluid. I mean, I can move in and out and around any and all of the stages on any given day- h*ll, at any given moment. I think most days, now, are filled with acceptance but I would be lying to you if I didn't admit that I still feel anger and guilt and grief and OMG... FEAR, FEAR, FEAR, FEAR!! Life goes on, no doubt and life gets easier, no doubt but (I hate to quote the poem but it's true!!) life will never, ever be the same. I will never, ever be the same. My heart will never, ever be the same. There isn't a day that passes that my heart isn't broken again by certain facts of his condition. (originally listed several specific things that I tend to obsess over but don't want to hyjack the thread... should post my own thread!
.... I'm digressing and I'm sorry, I just don't think it's as clear cut as specific stages that one progresses through at specific intervals. I believe that I have reached the acceptance stage but that, again, it's in flux. Underneath that acceptance is and IMO will always be, denial, fear, greif, and anger. I don't think those things will ever, ever go away.
Mama, it's hard! Having a child with SN is HARD!!! All of these new emotions, these new considerations, dealing with these new thoughts is HARD. You do the best you can each day and then wake up to a new one and do it all over again. You fight with every ounce of your being for what's right and best for your child. And then you cry because it will never be enough.
I don't know you but I would imagine that we've all been in some version of where you're standing. Some might say *it* will get easier but I think *it* just changes... every day is a new challange, every day has a new blessing. You laugh, you cry, and you LOVE and then you LOVE a little bit more.
, Mama! I sense there's a lot of emotion behind your question. You've come to the right place. We're here for you.