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not to mention dancing on furniture! dd (26 months) stands on the kitchen chair, and as soon as i approach her sits again. i sit down, she gets up. and on we go! to the living room...to stand on the couch, dance...<br><br>
i am afraid of choking, and n ER visits on the horizon. and fearing that i will never be the mom i want to be, with my shouting and, well, bordering on threats.
 

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Honestly,many times I just let dd do this and I stand close enough in case she needs me to catch her. It really seems like she has a need to climb and I try to honor that. It sounds like your dd has a real need to climb and that you have a need to keep her safe. Those are both legitimate needs and perhaps the focus can be on keeping everyone's needs met. Is it possible to take her somewhere like a park or indoor play space where she can climb and stand on things for as long as she wants? also, are there furniture in the house that you can suggest to her as better alternatives for climbing on? Or perhaps you can put some sort of padding on the floor so if she happened to fall she would be less likely to hurt herself?<br><br><br>
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My DS is a climber. He's been climbing before he was walking. I allow for things like climbing on the couch, and on a trunk in our living room. He even likes to try and climb onto the top bunk of his bed (His big brother is supposed to sleep there)<br><br>
I don't allow climbing on counter tops, desk tops, and and table tops. I simply remove him to a more appropriate climbing apparatus. (The couch) I second going to the park or somewhere for you DC to climb. For my DS being allowed to climb unrestricted really helps when he's at home.
 

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We have a no standing on the kitchen chair rule because of safety. When she does stand on her chair (note, she's in a booster chair on the regular chair) we tell her to please sit down, we don't want her to get hurt. If she continues, we place her sitting down. She usually cries when we do this (though we in no way yell or hurt her!) and we just explain that we don't stand on the chair because of ouchies.<br><br>
Standing on couches and the lazyboy don't bug me though. They don't tip as easily as a kitchen chair.
 

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Our 25 month old climbs and stands on everything, but I'm a pretty nontrad mom so my take on it tends to be a proud 'Wow! What a good climber you are!' Once I walked into the living room and she was sitting on top of our big screen TV, about five feet off the ground. We still have no idea how she climbed up there.<br><br>
I remember my own mom, who was a hippie in the 1960s and 70s, beaming with encouragment as my brother and I shinnied up a tree to climb onto the second floor balcony of her apartment. She thought it was great that we were so agile and athletic. I was about six year old at the time. Sadly, one of the older neigborhood kids tried to later emulate us and fell, badly breaking a leg.<br><br>
My mom was never very popular with the neighborhood moms. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I've always been one to let my baby take a tumble or knock as part of just figuring out how things work. For instance, much to MIL's dismay, I've always sat baby up on the countertop while I fix a bottle or meal for her. When she was younger, I'd tell her 'careful, don't fall!' and always keep one eye out. There was a time or two I caught her halfway to the floor. But she very quickly became comfortable with the concept of balancing herself and safely being up high. Now she is like an olympic gymnast, everything is a balance beam or uneven bars to her. Pretty much the same with the stairs. We never used baby gates but instead just showed her how to slide up and down on her tummy.<br><br>
So, I don't have any good advice on keeping your child from doing these things. But maybe feeling like it's okay to relax and go with it a little more might help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .
 

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We have the same thing going on at our house. I spend a considerable amount of time repeating "sit on your bottom please". I will let her stand for a few moments before telling her as I realize she is excited with her ability to climb. I do let her get up on the coffee table bc I myself do end up sitting on it occasionally and I don't feel I can tell her not to sit on it when she can clearly see that I do it. At least it is warming up here and we can make lots more trips to the playground!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My kids have always been allowed to stand on everything. The kitchen table is a favorite because it gives such a wonderful view of the kitchen. I just wash it down before eating.<br><br>
IMO they grow out of it as they get tall enough to see without being on something. My 6 yo is no longer a climber.<br><br>
We constanly tell them to be careful because they are up high or close to an edge. Must work because they are respectful of where they are at.
 

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DD is a climber, and I let her climb up on most things, except dressers. She knows that she can climb at our house, but not at other people's houses. I used to watch her in the beginning, but now at 3 years she is an expert climber and I don't worry about her anymore. She has never fallen or injured herself, she is very aware of places that could be dangerous, and will tell me that she won't climb up that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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it is very helpful to read your responses to my problem. part of me felt i had to relax a bit, and another part thought no, be consistent with the request to "sit on your bottom". the chair climbing always seems to happen at meals, when it is hard tor edirect becuase i want to sit and eat.<br>
maybe if i start to relax she will even lose interest?<br>
then we can just climb like monkeys at the playground!<br><br>
thank goodness for Spiring--and for your support, mdc mamas!
 

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welp, I found my son on top of the entertainment center one morning (I'm 5'3" and this thing is way taller than me). No idea how he got up there, he's always been my little monkey <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I have things I don't mind him climbing on, then there are some things I don't want him. When he starts climbing something I don't want him on, I just tell him, "Instead of climbing on the desk, let's climb on the toybox" or whatever is closest. I don't care about the couch, ours is old anyway, and I vividly remember doing couch gymnastics as a kid, and how much fun it was. Our chairs aren't that far from the ground, so I'm okay with that. And, I've found that my kids are pretty tough, so I don't worry too much if they take a little tumble.<br><br>
My ds is incredibly coordinated and has had wonderful motor skills since he was really young, and I really kinda think it's because I allowed him to experiment and do some climbing. We can't always get to a park, so I've made decisions on what is/is not okay to climb, and that works for us!
 

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Just echoing lots of mamas in here. We have furniture that's ok to stand/climb on and some that is not (chairs are ok for standing, the coffee table, which is very sturdy, is ok for climbing, bureaus and my desk and the kitchen table are not ok). We have friends whose house we visit almost every day, and their coffee table is not ok to get on because they don't like it. My dd (2 1/2) understands this and has never gotten confused about it, though she does like to talk about the differences periodically.
 
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