First of all, your child is still sooo young. There still isn't a whole lot you can do right now except start trying to instill some concepts that are going to take time to sink in. Consider this a plus, lol...because it gets harder when it becomes time to move things ahead to the next level.
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With the eating things, we always used to say "not in the mouth" while we gently removed it. You just have to be there constantly, and each and every time they put something "wrong" in their mouth, you say "not in the mouth". Trust me, it will take a while, but they will get it. Now when DD tries to put something in her mouth, I just have to say "not in the mouth" and she pauses. Sometimes I still have to follow through, but many times she will just not put it in the mouth b/c she understands what that means, without there ever being a power struggle involved, so to her it isn't a power struggle, kwim?
My DD went through a screeching phase. It's so normal for them to play with their newly discovered vocal cords! Two things we did: first thing I always looked to my own self. I have found that DD gets that way when she is being ignored. If she is saying "mama, mama, mama" and I'm not responding to her right away, I really can't blame her for escalating the volume. Heck, I do that to DH! And if it becomes a habit for her that she isn't responded to when she first asks in a normal voice, well then I have only myself to blame when she decides it's easier to start off in a yell. I've made such a habit of responding immediately "yes, DD" that she rarely has to raise her tone to get my attention.
The other thing I do is something I read in the Sears books: respond in a whisper. There is something about meeting a yell with a whisper that really seemed to work with DD. I would whisper to use her quiet voice, or saying "this is not a time for a loud voice", etc. And again, for a 1 year old it's going to take some time for this to sink in. DD is 2 and still needs reminding when she gets excited about things.
3. well, it's just completely unrealistic to expect a one year old to understand the concept of sharing, or asking before you take. it's just par for the course. At that age, experienced parents take precautions. first, always make sure there are a few interesting objects around, not just one. if your child goes to grab, stop and redirect. you just can't expect to sit back and watch them play together without this happening. they totally lack the impulse control to stop themselves from going for something that looks interesting, even if they COULD understand why it's not polite to grab someone else's toy (which they can't and don't).
The touching things at peoples' homes things was brought up on another thread somewhere here...basically, you must be with your kid at all times and just redirect them. make sure you remove anything valuable or dangerous out of reach. frankly we avoided such situations like the plague: it's not fair to anybody. if they want to see us, they can come to our child-friendly house so we can actually talk while DD plays...(oh yes, the thread was in Parenting Issues here. It starts sort of off topic but gets to my point eventually, lol).
With the eating things, we always used to say "not in the mouth" while we gently removed it. You just have to be there constantly, and each and every time they put something "wrong" in their mouth, you say "not in the mouth". Trust me, it will take a while, but they will get it. Now when DD tries to put something in her mouth, I just have to say "not in the mouth" and she pauses. Sometimes I still have to follow through, but many times she will just not put it in the mouth b/c she understands what that means, without there ever being a power struggle involved, so to her it isn't a power struggle, kwim?
My DD went through a screeching phase. It's so normal for them to play with their newly discovered vocal cords! Two things we did: first thing I always looked to my own self. I have found that DD gets that way when she is being ignored. If she is saying "mama, mama, mama" and I'm not responding to her right away, I really can't blame her for escalating the volume. Heck, I do that to DH! And if it becomes a habit for her that she isn't responded to when she first asks in a normal voice, well then I have only myself to blame when she decides it's easier to start off in a yell. I've made such a habit of responding immediately "yes, DD" that she rarely has to raise her tone to get my attention.
The other thing I do is something I read in the Sears books: respond in a whisper. There is something about meeting a yell with a whisper that really seemed to work with DD. I would whisper to use her quiet voice, or saying "this is not a time for a loud voice", etc. And again, for a 1 year old it's going to take some time for this to sink in. DD is 2 and still needs reminding when she gets excited about things.
3. well, it's just completely unrealistic to expect a one year old to understand the concept of sharing, or asking before you take. it's just par for the course. At that age, experienced parents take precautions. first, always make sure there are a few interesting objects around, not just one. if your child goes to grab, stop and redirect. you just can't expect to sit back and watch them play together without this happening. they totally lack the impulse control to stop themselves from going for something that looks interesting, even if they COULD understand why it's not polite to grab someone else's toy (which they can't and don't).
The touching things at peoples' homes things was brought up on another thread somewhere here...basically, you must be with your kid at all times and just redirect them. make sure you remove anything valuable or dangerous out of reach. frankly we avoided such situations like the plague: it's not fair to anybody. if they want to see us, they can come to our child-friendly house so we can actually talk while DD plays...(oh yes, the thread was in Parenting Issues here. It starts sort of off topic but gets to my point eventually, lol).
