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I had my second appt. with the cnm group. They have 5 different cnm's and I'm supposed to rotate to each of them. I really like the ones that I saw with dd2 but there is a new one. I saw the new one on Monday and really dislike her. Is it worth switching or should I stay and just hope that she doesn't deliver? She walked into the room already making generalizations about how my pregnancy is going. She assumed I hadn't felt any movement, wouldn't listen to me when I told her my fundus was at my belly button and made the entire appt. feel rushed and inconvenient for her. She tried to find a heartbeat but the doppler shut off every 5 seconds or so (not exagerating). She wouldn't take the time to get a new machine and gave up trying. I ended up getting an ultrasound for my peace of mind but would have prefered to not get one. I also wonder if I should bring it up to the other cnm's that I do like. Anyway I would love some thoughts on it.
 

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Unless there really was NO. Other. Choice I would not stay with a care provider I didn't feel comfortable with.
 

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I would absolutely talk to the MWs you do like. That sounds just awful to me! I would feel free to tell them that you're seriously thinking about switching practices because of this experience. They can, perhaps, guarantee you no further visits with her. But I don't know how rotations go in that sort of thing for the actual birth.<br><br>
Definitely do *something*, though, when you feel that uncomfortable with a situation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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For my last pregnancy I was with a group practice and had an awful experience with the first dr I saw. She told me my uterus seemed too small for the dates i was quoting (i was 9w so i don't know what she expected to see since i'm a small person). Then she tried to use the transvag u/s and clearly had no idea how to use it (she was semi-retired and admitted that it was not used so frequently when she was trained). I was scheduled for a Level II u/s bc she suspected the baby wasn't viable. Thank goodness they were able to scan me later the same day because I was a wreck. Sure enough-- there was my son- measuring exactly 9w as I had told them.<br>
I told the desk staff that I would not see that dr again and no one ever argued with me. I simply reminded them every time I set up my next appt-- "I'll see anyone except Dr X". I also got an apology from the chief of the practice when I saw him at a later appt. However, I knew that she was already almost retired and would be gone within 6 months before i delivered. Not sure what I would have done otherwise but I was in an area with few good options at the time.
 

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I agree that you should talk to the other mws.... they probably have an on-call sched and a back-up schedule, so maybe they'd be willing to ensure that you don't have her for your labor, rather than lose you as a client. Good luck, and what a shame that you had to deal with that!
 

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Absolutely I would talk to the other CNM's. I would with mine if I had to deal with this, as I absolutely do not like her partner. (nor do a few others I know who love my MW, I also know people who are fine with the partner.)<br><br>
I would absolutely say you're considering leaving the practice...they would probably do what they needed to do to make you happy. (I am fairly sure mine would, if she could.)
 
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