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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Ok I know that this is going to sound as dumb as it gets.<br>
I was told the other day that I was a wanna be stepford mom. I don't think that is true. They say this because I like to make big meals for supper, I make cookies all the time, I am always doing something to go out od my way to make my dd world perfect. We go to play groups and we are in two different book babies club. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> I know that the real world is not prefect but I want her to know that there are things out there that can make the world better and if everyone would have a open mind about things that maybe we could end some of this. Am I wrong for thinking this way? What am I doing wrong. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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"What am I doing wrong."<br><br>
From what I've read in this post- nothing, IMO. You sound like a very loving mama who is happy to spend time with her DD. If you're doing something wrong by making big meals, baking cookies, ect then I'll join in this club <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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You are not doing anything wrong. As long as it works for you and your child, ignore what everyone else thinks.<br><br>
I personally don't think you can spend too much time with your child ... unless they are driving you nuts and it is effecting your parenting.<br><br>
I work part time (my Mom watches Alex while I work in the mornings) and the rest of my day/evening is spent with Alex. We sleep together, eat together ... and I would not have it any other way. I don't feel as though I could ever get too much time with him.<br><br>
Someday he will be too busy for me, too cool for me, or whatever, so I plan to invest as much time in him now as I can. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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If making cookies is bad, call me Martha Stewart!<br><br>
Oh, nevemind the Martha thing.<br><br>
For a truly decadent lemon tea, mix hot water with just a little frozen lemonade concentrate. Round the event out with some gingersnaps and real pressed cotton napkins. It's delightful for a children's afternoon tea party!
 

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Yes, you are doing something wrong. Very wrong. You are being a great parent, and instilling guilt in those who can't (or won't) spend as much time with their children as they should.<br>
If being a Stepford Mom makes people want to talk about you, I say let them talk. And if they do talk, just smile and say thank you.<br>
I would much rather be a Stepford Mom than one who doesn't spend enough time with their child(ren).<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I was one of the 2 who said "yes you can spend too much time with your kids." but I was thinking of a mom I know who has never ever had a single break from her child, ever. and she's married! he's never helped out, once! I think this woman is going to have a mental breakdown. which is why I say, yes. we all need SOME time to ourselves at some point. we cannot do everything and expect to be well-adjusted in my vho.
 

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I voted Yes because if you are only spending every second with the kids and that makes you unhappy then you are spending too much time and need to do something else. However if you spend every second with the kid and you are happy doing that then it is fine. Its up to each individual really, but it is possible and honestly I think I'd go crazy if I did not have a break now and then.
 

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i said yes, but that's just for me. i love my time with my son more than anything, and most of the time i'm at school/work i am missing him...but the truth of the matter is that for ME, i need to feel like i am doing something *more* career-wise. i am not saying that being a SAHM is in any way inferior to any other career, but it is not enough for *me*. my career will be important to me, once i finish my PhD and i'm actually starting my career...and i think my children will benefit from me being able to get out of the house once in a while *without* them to engage in some other types of activities because i won't be going stir crazy. LOL<br><br>
but again, this is just me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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