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First off, I have to say that I feel icky even posting such negative stuff when there are all these babies arriving to celebrate! So congrats to all you new mamas!<br><br>
I posted earlier this week about my mother pulling some crazy on me and really upsetting me. I've taken all the necessary steps to do what is right for my family considering this new development. I've asked for her to give me some space and we've decided she will not be at the birth. I emailed her today that this is the case. The problem is that I'm just stewing in this bath of anxiety over the whole situation.......I feel short of breath, tight in my chest, waves of anxiety course through my core all day long. I can't erase my mother and all the things she's done but I'm in such a vulnerable state that my anxiety level has just skyrocketed. Any thoughts? How can I get calm? How can I reconnect with what's really important right now....my precious LO ready to make his arrival any time now? I go back and forth between trying to distract myself and trying to just be in it and let the emotions, etc take their course. It's like I have a nasty stomach flu in my soul! Help!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you mama- from another mama with BIG mother issues!<br><br>
Letting go and not stewing on the situation is always rough, and for sure different things will work for different folks. For me, really deciding to let go of my anxiety and the situation in general (including playing it over and over in my mind) really help. I also always seem to need to process a certain amount- I talk to my sisters and my partner and friends, then proceed to really *try* to let it go. Maybe some acupuncture or a massage would help just with relaxation in general?<br><br>
Good luck mama! I hope you find some peace around this!
 

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Not part of your DCC, just saw this in new posts...<br><br>
how about some rescue remedy a few times a day until you feel better<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Oh, gosh, I am so sorry that you are going through this! It sounds so tough and I am so sorry that it is making you physically and emotionally sick <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> You are a marvel to have taken the steps you NEEDED to take to have the best birth possible for your sweet little one. I totally second the acupuncture and massage suggestion--definitely helps me when I am dwelling on negativity.
 

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Have you heard/used EFT before?<br>
If you can find a practitioner it's worth every cent!<br>
I really like <a href="http://www.fasterEFT.com" target="_blank">www.fasterEFT.com</a> ..they can do it with you over skype or over the phone. It will help calm you down in minutes!<br><br>
*hugs*
 

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I always need to talk it out with someone first. My Bro *really* gets it! Then I usually feel validated enough to move on. I second all the suggestions about alternative medicine (my people have been instrumental in helping me come to terms with my baby position stress!)<br><br>
A quick remedy (and cheap) is to involve yourself in someone else's "stuff" for a while. I like to call or go around the corner to a good friend to find out what's going on with her. It's kind of like a distraction, but since I really care about her and her family (and we also have similar brains!) I'm always genuinely interested and want to help. It always puts things into perspective for me.
 

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Also not from this ddc, but it caught my eye:<br><br>
Write her a letter. Then walk outside into the backyard and light it on fire. Watch it burn up and watch the smoke rise into the sky. As you do, tell yourself that you've released the issues themselves, and your anxiety, into the atmosphere and out of you- and just sit there and visualize it all going up up up with the smoke. Make it a specific colour.<br><br>
When the letter is gone and the last of the smoke is gone, take a deep breath and return to the house.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Also not from this ddc, but it caught my eye:<br><br>
Write her a letter. Then walk outside into the backyard and light it on fire. Watch it burn up and watch the smoke rise into the sky. As you do, tell yourself that you've released the issues themselves, and your anxiety, into the atmosphere and out of you- and just sit there and visualize it all going up up up with the smoke. Make it a specific colour.<br><br>
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Love this idea!<br><br>
((hugs)) sry you are still feeling anxious but good for you for doing what is best for you an your family.
 

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Thanks so much for all the kind words and GREAT advice! I'm pretty much going to do it all! I'm going to get in for accupuncture and a massage this week. I bought myself some rescue remedy and got the go ahead from my MW to take it every 10 minutes if needed! Unfortunately, I also developed my typical stress manifestation (a cold sore) this weekend so I'm in major immune system boost mode to try to get rid of it quickly. I want to be able to kiss my LO all I want without worrying! It's amazing how anxiety and stress can affect everything! My DH is taking tomorrow off so I can just relax, eat good food, take all my herbs, vitamins, etc and try to get my little body in a better place. My MW said I wouldn't go into labor with all this stress so that makes me feel better. I know I can do this and your support has really helped!
 
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