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I am curious if anyone else has a super high needs toddler? DD is now 12.5 months old. She still demands to be held the majority of the day. I have to hold her more than most people hold their newborns! And not sitting on my lap. I have to be walking around with her. Thank goodness for my mei tai, but she is getting heavy! I don't know how much longer I can keep this up!! She can walk very well, so its not like she is using me to get around and see the world. Does/did anyone else go through this? When will it get easier?
 

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Our son, almost 20 months, has been very demanding in the same way all his life. This guy wants to be held A LOT. We've found that it comes and goes now that he's a bit older and depends on his general level of energy and anxiety. The more rested and peaceful he's feeling, the more he relaxes the need to be held. But we still use a sling in order to get stuff done around the house.<br><br>
All I can recommend is watching to see if your daughter's fatigue/energy levels play a part, and then trying to get her "down" to play at your feet when she's at her best. I sometimes bring a favored toy into the kitchen and encourage ds to play there, so he's still close by but I can actually use my arms!!<br><br>
Good luck - maybe one day, after the physical therapy and chiropractor visits have ended - we'll feel lucky that we got to hold our cuddly little ones as much as this. It won't last forever, after all.
 

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DS goes through spurts like this. For us it is usually connected to new teeth though. Hang in there we have been through it and eventually they need you less. Then you miss it and want to hold them ALL the time again. Funny how the human brain works isn't it?
 

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I guess the good thing is, is that I won't ever look back and wish I held her more when she was little, haha. I am just starting to wonder if she will ever be a bit more independent. I feel like I am going to be pumping milk for her lunch for her to go to school! (she won't eat any food, either)
 

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Awww. Well I can think of worse lunches in the world. I know it can seem like that for a long time. Like you said though at least you won't have the regrets. GOOD for you to see the positive. I am proud of you.
 

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My ds is a velcro boy too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> I have progressively built up massive amounts of arm strength from holding him so much. No really, I have. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He is almost 3, weighs 33 lbs., and I still hold him all the time. I suggest getting maybe an Ergo or a backpack or a really good sling. I carry ds in the hip carry in the sling for a majority of the time. It saves my arms and back. The ergo is good for extended carrying.<br><br>
It's a phase, like everything else. And you're right, you'll never look back on her babyhood and wish you'd held her more. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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DD was a high needs baby from the start, I knew she was different from the beginning. She had to be carried around all the time up until she started to walk...now it's not so much at 24 months. She napped on my chest till she was almost 1. I could never take a shower, or barely pee. I remember the one day when I had to get a shower to go to an appointment, and I put her on the bathroom floor and she laid there and screamed the entire time. Those 3 minutes of showering felt like a lifetime to me!<br><br>
It will get better.. it does!<br><br>
She is still real clingy and breastfeeds all day long. I too joke that I will have to wean her to start kindergarden. All day long it's nummiessss! She's attached to my side. I'm trying to get her to enjoy being around daddy so I can get a shower and do other things and it's working. But for the first 18 months of life, if I left her in a room with daddy it was like the end of the world was coming... she is definitely a momma's baby!<br><br><br>
Oh P.S...everyone was telling me I was spoiling her as a baby by letting her nap on me, and carrying her around all day...but she is the sweetest little girl now...definitely paid off and to all those people who said I was spoiling her... well <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Are you talkin' about my kid?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DD is 14 mos old and refuses to be put down. It's nearly impossible to make dinner, my floors rarely get vacuumed, and even cries the entire 7 minutes I leave her with DH so I can shower. The only way she naps for longer than 30 minutes is if I lay down with her and she's attached to the boob (or laying on the boppy on my lap while I'm on the computer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Like right now)<br><br>
Oh well. Soon enough she'll be running away from me... I'll do that dish full of dirty dishes then. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My 17 month old high-needs kiddo is "very attached." I figure I should enjoy this time...cause we'll go through years of him not wanting to be so close to me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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wow i fell better now..i though my son was ill or something else b'cause he wants to be held a lot especially now that he has a sister,she's 7 weeks old..and he is very jealous of her(he's 14 month old)..but it's true that it depends on his moods or sleep..when he takes a good nap he is the best toddler in the world but that doesnt happen to often...right now for the first time in this 7 weeks they r both taking naps..aleluya.oh btw what r all those letters like DD DH and etc mean?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">wow i fell better now..i though my son was ill or something else b'cause he wants to be held a lot especially now that he has a sister,she's 7 weeks old..and he is very jealous of her(he's 14 month old)..but it's true that it depends on his moods or sleep..when he takes a good nap he is the best toddler in the world but that doesnt happen to often...right now for the first time in this 7 weeks they r both taking naps..aleluya.oh btw what r all those letters like DD DH and etc mean?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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Its the first time your little ones are napping at the same time in 7 weeks? Woah, you must be exhausted! DD stands for "dear daughter" DH stands for "dear husband or d**m husband if he is on the poopy list <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> " DC is "dear child". DP is "dear partner".
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I use to always call my son this too.Now I call both my babies velcro babies. My son is now almost 3 and I think if it weren't for his sister being born he would still insist on being held all the time. He still sleeps in my arms alot, next to his sister. I never get anything done. BUt that is ok. There are alot of days now that is the only time other than bedtime that I get to hold him and cuddle.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My DD will be 2 next Sunday and I rarely can get her to stay in a stroller. I have discovered that I can hang her diaper bag vertically over my shoulder and it makes quite a nice toddler carrier. I think she may weight about 29 LBS. Of course you become stronger w/out even knowing it.<br>
I guess that I am lucky that once we are inside she is pretty self-sufficent but I do think she wants me to carry her around outside so she can see the world. l love it and I hate it ( only cus it is very tiring).
 
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