Still in pain from "Doctor" induced tear...

I just wanted to tell you that I had a sort of similar experience - I delivered my dd without a tear but after delivery there were some complications and the OB was called. While attempting to hand deliver my placenta he tore me pretty badly. I understand your anger, and to me it almost was like it was PTSD because whenever I was made aware of the injury it brought back all those memories.

Time will help, I promise. At 6 months postpartum my scar was still very present and very tender. Now my daughter is 18 months old and it's not noticeable and there is no more pain. It took awhile, though. There was alot of healing that still had to be done at 6mo pp (and probably still now..).

My husband and I wanted to sue him so badly, but it would not get rid of the scars or the painful memories... I hate that everyone seems to sue everyone this day for such stupid things (like the woman who dropped hot coffee on herself and sued McDonalds...). However, my problem is a real problem due to a bad mistake from a doctor who should not be delivering babies. But I really thought it would get better sooner. I just don't think anyone will take the case. My husband was there when the doctor told me that he tore me on purpose, but no one else heard it. And he was so mean when he said it. He said "I had to put my finger on the skin forceable and make it tear so your son could come out." Then he attacked me for not using meds and asked me why I had done it. No congrats on the baby or pat on the back for a job well done. I did not know what to say and my husband said "she did not want the baby to get meds". I then came to my senses and looked him in the eye and said "that is one reason, but it was kind of like running a marathon to me. When people run that many miles it hurts their bodies, but they are accomplishing something they want to do. Having a medication free birth was important to me not only to keep my baby unmedicated, but to prove to myself that I could do it." Why oh why is birth a medical procedure now and not a natural process.

This hospital will not let you photograph or video the births, and now I know why. My original doctor said that I could take still photos, but when I actually had the baby they said their policies had changed and they would not allow it. So I have no proof other than my husband that he inflected such pain on me. I keep telling myself I have to move on. And I pretty much have, but sometimes I still get so mad!

Attila the honey, thanks for your kind words! Maybe I am rushing it too much. When my doctor said it was unusual for women to still have pain 5.5 mo pp I felt horrible. Maybe this is something that a lot of women just don't talk about it.

But my ds was still so worth it all, no matter what happened!

So is there anything I can do to rush the healing process other than just let time heal old wounds?

And does anyone know of a great OB/GYN in the Houston area?

Amber, I scrounged up an old thread from when I asked about my scar. There was some great advice in it, so I thought maybe it might help you out.

http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...d.php?t=126374

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What a load of horse manure!

I am sorry that doctor did that to you, but I do not think you will get anywhere with a law suit. I think you should file a complaint with the state board that regulates doctors in your state; they will not do anything, but no one wants a complaint in his file.

If you want, you can go to a plastic surgeon within a year and ask his advice...and ask if he thinks you can sue...

Tearing and episiotomies are considered the standard of care in American Obstetrics.