Still Pooping In Pants 10 months later.

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TiredX2

Discussion Starter · Jun 4, 2005

I am posting this for my sister.

Her stepson turned three in Febraury and will have been pee trained since last July.

He has a very heavy cheese/dairy diet at his mother's house (and she is unwilling to change his diet). He is chronically constipated and so will not go on the toilet. He goes under the kitchen table and squats until he poops in his pants.

If my sis sees this, she gets him in a pull-up and that is NOT an issue with her. She doesn't mind cleaning up a diaper/pull up. But he says it hurts a lot and always takes at least 20 mintues of trying to poop before he can. She will read to him while he sits on the toilet but he wants to use the big one now (instead of his potty) and his butt starts falling in then he is bored and wants to stop. At least once a month, though, he will end up pooping in the potty.

She (my sis) says his poop is very orangish. His mom doesn't think it is an issue because my sister feeds him differently so he doesn't have as many problems at her house (they each have him 3-4 days a week, so he goes to his mom's house and has 2-3 days of easy poops and then as it starts to get back because of his diet he comes back to my sisters house where it is bad until everything he ate at his mom's is all the way out of his system).

Thanks for any advice!

Any ideas how to help her son?

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4evermom

· #2 · Jun 4, 2005

That's sad. The best bet would be to try to communicate more in a very non judgemental way with his mother. Is she concerned about calcium? Yogurt isn't as constipating as other dairy. Vit C supplement would help soften the stool (also helps calcium absorption). I talk with my ds about what foods make stools hard and what ones make it soft. Your sister could get a ring seat for the toilet (I have a nicely contoured Bjorn one, or she could get a cheaper padded one) to make it more comfortable.

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FancyPants

· #3 · Jun 4, 2005

It sounds as though your sister is feeding him lots of fiber when he gets to her house

which is all I would have suggested.

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TiredX2

Discussion Starter · #4 · Jun 4, 2005

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Originally Posted by 4evermom
That's sad. The best bet would be to try to communicate more in a very non judgemental way with his mother. Is she concerned about calcium? Yogurt isn't as constipating as other dairy. Vit C supplement would help soften the stool (also helps calcium absorption). I talk with my ds about what foods make stools hard and what ones make it soft. Your sister could get a ring seat for the toilet (I have a nicely contoured Bjorn one, or she could get a cheaper padded one) to make it more comfortable.

OMG

how could we have not thought of the ring seat!?!?!?

His mother is not open to any parenting suggestions. My sis has been having partial care of DS since he was 14 months old and everything is a battle--- doctor (doesn't have time to take him), dentist (cavities--- "they're only baby teeth"), hair cut, church, everything. BIL is currently deployed so he can also not really run intervention right now (though he tries from Iraq

).

But I really tink the ring seat could at least help.

Thanks so much for the advice (you too FancyPants)!

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4evermom

· #5 · Jun 4, 2005

Yeah, I figured the mother wouldn't be open to advice unless it was done in a back door kind of way. I would work on educating the boy, too. I do this with my ds and eventually the info will take and give them a little power over the situation. My dh was so ignorant of basic facts like the benifits of a high fiber diet when we got married so I'm making sure I do a better job with my ds.

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