I've been torn between having a UC or finding a different HB MW since the MW I had with my son can't attend births here in IL where I moved to. I originally contacted a CNM that could take Medicaid & does homebirths, however she will not do a VBAC unless you've already had a successful VBAC. She however did refer me to this other HB MW who I have been e-mailing back & forth, she also runs a HB support group which is a plus. This MW understands my concerns and that I am very knowledgable having been a doula & childbirth educator, etc...
I've been weighing the pros & cons and looking back to my previous birth the only thing I really felt my midwife did for me was to encourage me that everything was ok & that I could still labor at home safely, we finally ended up transferring to the hospital after 48 hours of labor, but had I gone it alone I'd probably have transferred sooner & ended up with a cesarean sooner. Other than that I feel pretty confident in myself, but should something arise having that other knowledgable person there who might be in a better frame of mind might be comforting to me.
Anyway she had some great points in this e-mail that I'd like to share & are helping me in my decision, tell me what you all think.
"It is a really hard decision to make, I feel for you. My honest opinion is that you will not be able to get a vaginal delivery in any hospital around here after 1 no less 2 c-secs.
A little stat to support your 40 week dilemma. Most north American women go, on an average, 2 weeks past their period due date!
My fee to your area is $2000. Try not to let money get in the way. I will take time-payments. All you need to do is set up a schedule and we'll be all set.
You mentioned that you might consider doing the birth yourself. With today's technology, I am sure you can find lots of information and even equipment on the internet.
You also are somewhat right about a midwife. She is basically unnecessary UNLESS something comes up. The trick is to have nothing to come up, or to be able to diagnose when something has come up.
Basically you are also right about when or if you would have to transfer, it isn't really going to matter at that point who was with you. If you have to go in, you have to go in.
I am interested in dialoging with you as many more times as you need. If there is any info or help that I can send you way, please do not hesitate to ask."
I've been weighing the pros & cons and looking back to my previous birth the only thing I really felt my midwife did for me was to encourage me that everything was ok & that I could still labor at home safely, we finally ended up transferring to the hospital after 48 hours of labor, but had I gone it alone I'd probably have transferred sooner & ended up with a cesarean sooner. Other than that I feel pretty confident in myself, but should something arise having that other knowledgable person there who might be in a better frame of mind might be comforting to me.
Anyway she had some great points in this e-mail that I'd like to share & are helping me in my decision, tell me what you all think.
"It is a really hard decision to make, I feel for you. My honest opinion is that you will not be able to get a vaginal delivery in any hospital around here after 1 no less 2 c-secs.
A little stat to support your 40 week dilemma. Most north American women go, on an average, 2 weeks past their period due date!
My fee to your area is $2000. Try not to let money get in the way. I will take time-payments. All you need to do is set up a schedule and we'll be all set.
You mentioned that you might consider doing the birth yourself. With today's technology, I am sure you can find lots of information and even equipment on the internet.
You also are somewhat right about a midwife. She is basically unnecessary UNLESS something comes up. The trick is to have nothing to come up, or to be able to diagnose when something has come up.
Basically you are also right about when or if you would have to transfer, it isn't really going to matter at that point who was with you. If you have to go in, you have to go in.
I am interested in dialoging with you as many more times as you need. If there is any info or help that I can send you way, please do not hesitate to ask."
