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I didn't know how else to title this, lol. and it's long, sorry.....<br><br>
basically a couple days ago I started getting nauseous and losing my appetite, but since there is a flu going around, I thought it was related to that. I did take some anti-nasuea medication that I had left over from the 1st trimester and it helped somewhat.I also had a bad anxiety attack that gave me 3 hours of regular (5x/hr contractions). Eventually the attack subsided and so did the conractions.<br><br>
Next day, yesterday, I go to see the midwife. One of her assistants went to put the fetoscope and the doppler on me, and the pressure from them was so painful that I had to ask her to stop. It was concentrated right around the middle of my belly, on either side of my belly button. It had her (& me) worried enough that she asked me to go to the ER and get checked and get an u/s just to rule out a uterine infection or anything else serious. The ER visit was a total waste of time although they did find a very mild vaginal bacterial infection which they said is common and probably has nothing to do with the pain. I was there til 4 in the morning, got like a 30 second u/s, and the doc doing the u/s couldn't even identify what she was looking at!!!!<br><br>
the baby's daddy, my bf (we aren't actually together although we talk, he is in another state) has been on the fence since the get go about me having a homebirth and using a midwife. But, he deferred to me since I am basically pigheaded and stubborn <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> and I was adamant about not delivering in a hospital again. OTOH this is his first child and since we lost a baby at 10 wks right before this pregnancy he is terrified that something will go wrong again. He is always asking me "if the baby was born right now, would it survive? You know, just in case?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> he is pretty mainstream about medical things; we haven't even started tackling the whole vaccine thing yet.<br><br>
I told him to call the midwife himself if he wants to talk to her; she is very open and sweet and honest. She didn't answer when he called, but she has had 3 births in teh last 4 days, so I suspect she was probably sleeping. FWIW when *I* called she picked up, so maybe she is screening calls while she catches up on sleep. That's understandable to me, but my bf was like, "what if she's tired when OUR baby is being born?"<br><br>
since this is my first midwife experience, I dont know what I should do. Should I try to get concurrent care and pay for an occasional ob visit out of pocket (I am going through medicaid which will only cover one care provider), or what? Everyone thought I was a little nutty before all this happened, now he is flat out terrified that something is wrong and the midwife won't catch it in time or isn't qualified enough to "fix it." I had to have my mother pick me up from the ER and they gave her a big scare story as well about how I needed to see an ob/gyn right away and get a diagnostic u/s "for the health of the baby."<br><br>
I am going tomorrow for a 3d u/s that I had planned for a while. I spoke to the lady tonight (she is a friend of several homoebirt midwives) and she said that she does more of a "diagnostic" u/s for teh homebirth ladies if they like, since that is their only u/s during the pregnancy. But my bf and my mother are not convinced that that's enough. I don't really give a rat's @$$ what my mom thinks, but out of respect if nothing else, I don't want to take over and leave the baby's father out of the equation, just because he isn't physically here to enforce what he wants. I know it's MY body, but it's OUR baby.<br><br>
Please help! What do you all think?
 

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I wouldn't give up on the midwife yet. See what the u/s can tell you first. Could you have an ulcer? I'm not sure what else it could be. I know that I have very tender spots on my abdomen, my whole abdomen is just more sensitive overall but its just muscle stretching and such that causes it. Hope you're feeling better soon!
 

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Does it hurt all the time, without a break, ever? If not, try googling "tender spots on uterus in pregnancy" or something like that. It's really normal, actually. Sometimes the baby will get a part in one spot and just keep rubbing and kicking and pushing in that area until it becomes incredibly tender. I have one on the upper left side of my uterus where the baby always has a foot or a knee and occasionally its butt. It doesn't hurt every minute of every day or anything, but whenever the baby starts moving right there it can hurt for several minutes, and it's bad enough that I can't have anyone pressing around that spot. In fact, at my last m/w appt last week I had to ask her to stop touching right there. She didn't seem at all concerned about it. If you don't think it could be that, then nevermind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I hope you're able to work it all out.
 
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