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My 23 month old now loves to chase our two cats. This all started after playing with a cat at his grandparents farm. The cat would run a ways away, lie down and wait for him to chase it, then run again. It was clearly playing and interacting. Our cats, however, do not like the game. They spend most of their time hiding under our bed when he's up and about at home. I don't think it's fair to the cats for him to chase, (it usually involves some arm flapping and sometimes some screaming, btw) but can't figure out how to get him to stop. I think one of the problems is that the cats run, but I think I'd have less success teaching my cats new tricks than I would my toddler...<br><br>
So far, when he chases we say something like: stop chasing the cat, the cat is not playing with you, it's not fun for the cat to be chased, the cat is scared of you - that is why he is running, blah, blah, blah. He seems to understand that what he is doing is wrong when we say something because he does his "naughty laugh" that he does whenever he gets in trouble for something. If I can get him in time, I will usually physically stop him and then get down on his level to tell him. I think it's an impulse he can't control right now, but am having a hard time dealing with it. DH tells him we'll have to get rid of the cats if he chases them, which is ridiculous. He feels like we aren't doing anything and that he won't stop because he has no consequences for chasing them.<br><br>
Help! What should we do? Our poor kitties are feeling terrorized.<br><br>
ETA: I usually try to offer an alternative, if he's hitting the cat I would tell him to use gentle touches and model that. But in this situation, I can't think of what the alternative behavior would be.
 

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Hmm, we had problem with a dog. DD mostly learned not to chase him, probably because we were scared what he might do if cornered, so she could sense our very real fear. That probably won't serve here. (Ddog got placed in a toddler free home where he didn't live in fear.)<br><br>
However, one thing we did MIGHT help your kitties. We created a safe place that DD simply couldn't reach but that he could. That gave him a place to escape to whe overwhelmed. I think it's impossible at this age to really get rid od such a self rewarding behavior. Impulse control isn't quite there yet.<br><br>
Good kuck!
 
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