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DD is driving me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> she whines all the time. I've tried for the last two weeks to get her to stop by telling her that she is whining, it is hurting mommy's ears, take a deep breath. Now she yells back that she doesn't want to take a deep breath, and goes back to whining. I also tried singing a whiney song that I saw mentioned here some time, did not work, she just tried to make her whining louder then mine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> What helps your toddler to stop whining?
 

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I have no advice to offer but doesn't it just SUCK!? My son whines all the time now and it makes me want to run from the house screaming. Where do they learn this and why is it so irritating??? Good luck to you-- I'm sure it'll pass eventually.
 

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There's a suggestion in Playful Parenting that I found ridiculous, but I tried it anyway, and it has worked for me. When dd would whine, I would say in a happy voice "Please talk to me in your big girl voice. I love your big girl voice." At first she would just stare at me (which at least stopped her from whining). Then a few times when she was talking in a regular voice I would say "Hey! There's your big girl voice. I'm so glad you found it. Thank you for talking in a big girl voice". It only took her 3 or 4 times of this to really 'get it'. Now it's a game. If she whines, I stop and act silly with a "Hey? Where did the big girl voice go? Is it lost? Let's find it!". Sometimes she'll actually start searching around the room for it... "Is it under the couch?" and so on. But at least 80% of the time she will restate whatever she said in a regular voice, followed by a "There it is!!!". I am really amazed that it has worked, but it has. Now the only time she continues to whine is if there is something really wrong- like she's overly tired or something. Anyway, I'd love to hear if this works for anyone else!
 
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