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Okay I have three. The first two involve my Mom and my nephew at 3 1/2 ish (He potty trained 3 1/2 +)<br><br>
#1 My nephew was scratching his behind. My Mom asked if his bottom was sore. He said "No, your bottom is only sore when you poop in your diaper, not when you go in the toilet."<br><br>
His bottom was always sore and he would ask for cream <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><br>
#2 My nephew was having his poopy diaper changed and asked "So, what does my poop look like anyway"<br><br>
All I could say was Wow!! Nothing like being out of touch<br><br>
#3 I left the house for an appointment with nothing. No extra clothes, no diapers. Nothing. This was an accident. It was no problem. We used the public restrooms and were dry the whole time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yes, I don't think we're particularly good with the EC, BUT we have very few poopy diapers and can't iimagine what it must be like to change the big, bad dirty diapers every day.<br><br>
I was visiting a friend and her 1 year old daughter. The 2 year old in the room told us that that the 1 year old was pooping and my friend said, "Yes, I know, let her finish." I hadn't realized just how ingrained the EC was in me until that moment when I almost picked up her daughter to go to the toilet! Then my friend's husband asked if the apricots had come through yet because they make such an extra messy diaper, and I thought, thank goodness we're an EC family, even if we don't catch half the pees!!
 

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yesterday DD had an out of the ordinary 2nd poop (usually a one poop a day kid) and I missed it. When I changed that diaper with the help of DP, we both started talking about how happy we were that we rarely have to deal with poopy diapers. It was soo gross that DP was suggesting throwing out the nice cloth diaper :LOL
 

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My 4 year old JUST graduated to no pull ups at bedtime and i am struggling to train my two year old. THAT is reason enough for me to continue ECing with my littlest lil man. I have had enough dirty diaper experience to last till eternity.<br>
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The ONLY reason I looked into CLOTH diapers was because I read that cloth diaperd children often potty train one year earlier... Imagine my glee when I heard about ec... The odd thing is that EC really made sense to me when I first heard about it. Even one persons statemetn that we don't expect our pets to soil themselves, but its okay for children??? It is not the best analogy, but ec seemed logical to me.<br><br>
Watching a 2 year old girl walking around in pain and telling her mom that she needed her diaper ointment for her diaper rash also is pretty convincing. She's actually a great momma and open minded about EC'ing (just had never heard of it till now). But hey, she's old enough to assist in diaper changes and TELL momma she needs diaper creme, but for some reason society doesn't think she could handle pottying.<br><br>
That's crazy, right- or am I just weird.... (-;<br><br>
On a related note, when talking about cribs moms on my expecting club stated that they knew their child had outgrown them by when the child climbed out or FELL out. I thought THAT was crazy.<br><br>
And CIO NEVER made any sense to me....<br><br>
Maybe I'm lucky that I didn't have people cramming parenting advice down my throat. Things occasionally come up by parents in inlaws are open minded and respectful, even if sometimes skeptical<br><br>
A lot of this is just common sense... for MANY parents it is just a matter of making them think for a SECOND about alternatives to what we are used to/exposed to.<br><br>
Jessica (who thought she'd be pretty mainstream)
 

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After almost 7 1/2 years of diapers and I learned about EC I thought it would be better. My oldest potty trained at 3 years 3 months old, 2 months later Andrew came and he potty trained recently a little over 4 years old.<br><br>
I use cloth diapers for Alana but I am trying to get better about catching more. Its so much cleaner and better for her when the poop goes in the potty rather than her diaper. I wish I knew about it with my ds's, I remember some really bad poops that would be everywhere.<br><br>
My younger sister brags her dd was potty trained at 2. I told my family recently how I am EC Alana. The last time I talked to them they asked if Alana was still going to the bathroom, they think I am trained. Well she has to go to the bathroom one way or another.
 

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BTW, I remembered this post and I think I forgot to mention that you can always go to regular boards and get really good examples of this. I saw one just after the first post I made. I just have not come back to read here.<br><br>
Below are examples form another board I visit followed by at least 5 posts that empathized:<br><blockquote><p>Since she had that horrible rash dc wont let me get near to change diaper. It is a huge battle everytime, even though the rash is gone. I basically have to pin dc down while dc screams like crazy. I want to make sure dc heals so I have been changing more often and it is really wearing me out. Anyone else have a dc who hated diaper changes? What do you do? So far all that has worked is giving her something, she usually isn't allowd to have (like my sunglasses) to hold while I do it (and that only lasts for a minute or two)<br><br>
from a reply:<br>
As for diapering, dc been like that for a few months now and my first went through it too--just newly acquired independence.<br></p></blockquote><span style="color:#000080;">my comment: A FEW MONTHS!!!!</span><br><br>
Here's another reply:<br>
What I have been doing lately is a few minutes before I know I'm going to change her diaper, I tell her that it's time to change her diaper. Which usually freaks her out. But it gets her ready for what's coming. Then I go pick her up and tell her that we're going to change her diaper so that... (insert whatever you'll be doing AFTER the diaper change) and then at this point she usually screams but once I lay her down on the changing table, if she's still screaming, I grab both of her arms and pin them to the table and just stare her down. Then I tell her in a loving voice that we have to do this so that we can (insert activity) faster! This usually calms her down enough to the point where I can change her diaper pretty quickly. And if I have to put cream or something on her, I will lean towards her, grab her leg that's closest to me and tuck it under my left arm so she can't move it. I just explain every little step to her and this seems to work for now. For some reason she's a LOT better during diaper changes<br><span style="color:#008000;"><br>
My comment: and people are worried about EC being too harsh???!!!!!!</span>
Hearing stuff like that before I had my son made me more receptive to EC when I heard about it-- I mean doesn't everyone always joke about how hard it is to diaper a squirmy toddler?<br><br>
Jessica
 

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I read a thread about the best way to pin a toddler down for a diaper change on AN AP BOARD! Ben wasn't that old yet, and it was pretty horrifying. When he got close to a year and didn't want to be changed, I let him go without. Getting the snappi off wasn't a problem, he just didn't want another diaper. Soon after this I learned about Ec, and I figured, wth, he's already naked.<br><br>
I was not a very AP mom at the time, but pinning him down was just SO WRONG!
 

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Every time I see my dd's perfectly healthy, rash free skin on her bottom, I am glad I EC. She had a diaper rash for the first 4 months of her life, and I wish I could take those 4 months back.
 

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Two weeks ago my DD, 6 1/2 months and ECed to some degree from day one, had the most awful upset tummy, which I caught from her. She was pooping nearly every hour and they were watery and VERY horrible. In the week we were poorly Ijust kept the potty by the bed with us and tried her on it frequently, the smell made me feel a little ill but nothing like when I had to change the couple of nappies I missed.<br><br>
I'm a single mum so I would have had to change and wash all the nappies myself, so the fact there was less than one a day makes me really glad we're an EC family.<br><br>
Anna <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/slinggirl.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Slinggirl">
 

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I've read a few stories from people who just learned how to change their dc's diapers while they were standing up.<br><br>
Back on topic now...
 

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Trying to potty train my Ds1 gives me all the motivation I need to keep up ec'ing Ds2. Ds1 just doesn't seem to get potty training and doesn't mind soiling himself. DD was a late start ec and she hated soiling herself and potty trained easily. I did however keep her in nightime diapers. I feel like I did Ds1 a huge, huge disservice by giving up ec'ing him. And DD is still wetting the bed at night now and I feel like keeping her in nightime diapers may be why. I'm so tired of pee on sheets, in pants, and spilled out of ds1's potty. I much prefer ds2's neat little potty bowl. He still wets at night too and we don't catch all at night, but I'm hoping we'll start to as he gets older. I'm just praying that dd and ds1 will be able to stay dry at night soon since wet sheets every morning are a pain and no fun for them.<br><br>
Ds2 also has no tummy troubles where my first two spit up a lot. I don't think there is an logical reason that ec should make a difference in this, but I just feel deep down that taking care of his needs through ec'ing helps his digestive system.<br><br>
Seeing ds2's silky bottom and his grin after a big poop in the potty bowl also keep me going <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Ds2 also has no tummy troubles where my first two spit up a lot. I don't think there is an logical reason that ec should make a difference in this, but I just feel deep down that taking care of his needs through ec'ing helps his digestive system.</div>
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I think there <i>is</i> a logical reason for this: diapers--especially bulky or tight ones--tend to put pressure on the tummy, which could slow down or irritate the digestive system. Trying to eliminate with so much pressure on the tummy and often sitting or lying directly on a surface, as traditionally diapered babies must, seems like it wouldn't be as easy as relaxing over a potty or in a parent's arms. Pressure on the tummy could lead to reflux as well.<br>
Of course, I think there's a lot to be said for the psychological benefits of taking care of his needs through ECing too!
 

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less waste and laundry to do... I rather wash the "misses" washcloth and clothes than 12 diapers per day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> DD is 14mo and goes about 2 days without misses... she's finally signing potty and communicating when she has to go!!! She's almost a EC graduate!! She's so small and can't even reach the big potty and she would play with BBLP so I am lifting her on the big potty whenever she signs potty ... I dont mind that until she's older and taller to reach the big potty herself
 

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-Less money.<br><br>
-Poop can simply be flushed and bum wiped.<br><br>
-My daughter has been pointing out poops and potties and pees since she was 15 months old. For some reason I'm proud that my child has never lost touch with her body and put it all together so quickly.<br><br>
-Not hauling diapers, etc around.<br><br>
-Not fighting with her to change diaper. My niece is 3 years old and throws a screaming fit (and sometimes a full diaper) when it's changing time.<br><br>
-Cute nakey bum pictures.
 

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Oooh, I've got one!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Mark pooped SEVEN TIMES yesterday, yes, SEVEN TIMES. 5 of them made the potty, 1 was a fully destroyed diapering situation and the last was partially saved for the potty. From this I've learned:<br><br>
1. No more peaches for Marky.<br>
2. He's ocasionally receptive to the big potty w/the insert seat thingie<br>
3. NO MORE PEACHED FOR MARKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think there <i>is</i> a logical reason for this: diapers--especially bulky or tight ones--tend to put pressure on the tummy, which could slow down or irritate the digestive system. Trying to eliminate with so much pressure on the tummy and often sitting or lying directly on a surface, as traditionally diapered babies must, seems like it wouldn't be as easy as relaxing over a potty or in a parent's arms. Pressure on the tummy could lead to reflux as well.<br>
Of course, I think there's a lot to be said for the psychological benefits of taking care of his needs through ECing too!</div>
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wow so true! the pressure of having to eliminate while lying flat or sitting on one's bottom seems especially likely to cause digestive upset...
 

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This is a very interesting thread. I was suprised just how grossed out me and DH were when we had to change a missed poop from DS when he was around 6 mos. It was really disgusting! We actually put him in the shower to wash his bummy off and then it seemed like his bum still smelled like poop. I was wondering how we did it with DD...who we did not EC. I wondered if her bummy smelled poopy all the time. I remember doing the whole "Oh...she's pooping, let her finish" thing and now I find that ridiculous. DD tells us if her brother is trying or needing to poop....it is so cute. She'll sometimes yell...."he's grunting!!!! he needs to poop!!!". So funny.<br><br>
Laundry is also a huge plus to ECing. I often measure my sucess when I go to wash dipes....if there are no poops or near misses and if there aren't alot of dipes then I know we are moving along and doing well.<br><br>
Also, I love the time DS and I spend interacting at the potty. He's so cute the way he touches and explores my face, or wants me to sing, or does his gentle head butt to my head. I think it's so sweet the way he doesn't protest at the potty (believe me, we have our share of potty-protesting!!) when he knows he needs to go. He takes a long time sometimes too but I think it's great that he knows his body's need to eliminate and he's patient to just let it happen.<br><br>
People think I'm crazy to EC, but I know they don't know the advantages of it bc if they did, then they would do it too.
 

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i see walking, talking kids in dipes and shudder to think that there but for ec go i ... if i had followed the 'american way' [as my mom expected me to and hence never told me how she ec'd me because she didnt even know that that is what she was doing all those years ago in india]<br>
i only wish that when people saw my dd diaper free they didnt assume it is because we are from india!
 
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