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so....<br><br>
My dh's bro, my bil, just had a baby 3 weeks ago. I understand that he's figuring out what to do with his life, his wife and baby, him as a father....<br><br>
added to that, I love him to pieces, we get along great and he's my husband's best friend. bil and I are so alike it's freaky! We both are outgoing and talk to random people, like music and being weird.....<br><br>
but, lately, he's developing a strange infatuation with me. I feel odd in his presence. He compares his wife to me - all the time - and in his eyes she falls short (she is a wonderful woman who I love - but she has her faults of course!). It's just been this kinda skin crawly, creepy feeling where I don't know what to do. He watches me when he doesn't think I'm looking.I don't want to / can't say anything to DH because I don't want to be the one who comes between brothers. AND bil will deny it because he hasn't admitted it to himself yet.<br><br>
But it's a pita because I really like him. Like today I went with him, his wife, and his wifes parents to a jazz festival and I had to turn down dancing with him (dh was at work <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ). I would have taken him up in an instant 6 months ago.... So really I'm just venting.... advice appreciated, but I don't see me actually implementing any advice.<br><br>
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That has to be hard.<br><br>
For the time being, unless something more concrete happens, I would severely limit the time you spend with him.
 

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It might just be a passing phase. I agree with limiting your time with him. Someone we socialize with on occasion gave me this same vibe years ago, but hasn't in a long time.
 

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Don't some men go a little crazy after they witness their wife give birth? (I wouldn't know - my ex was always a lot crazy LOL) Maybe he see's you as being on a level of perfection that his wife perhaps doesn't live up to right now (in his eyes anyway - first baby, she must be slightly overwhelmed (as we all are first time round!) and perhaps is still in that "still in pj's at 5pm" stage?)<br><br>
Good luck, perhaps you could just keep pointing out how brilliant his wife is, how well she's coping, etc etc. Talk her up, and maybe even let him see your faults. He'll come to his senses eventually.
 

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