So I have another "how would you have handled this situation" scenario. So we went to one of our favorite Thai restaurants last night, and there is a man sitting with a computer at the next table. I assume he is either the owner or some sort of employee. He is American so I am sure he has a sense of our cultural norms regarding personal space, etc and I have never seen him there before. The ladies that cook there all come out to see the kids and they know our children and my kids are comfortable with them. While we are talking with them, I look over at dd (across the table sitting with her uncle) and the man has come over and has put out his hand palm up, she places her hand on his and he is walking his fingers up her arm singing a little "dumbta-dum" song and tickles her neck. So we are watching this and she is laughing, and he asks if she wants him to do it again and she says "yes", and this time he walks his fingers to her armpit and then around her collarbone. She laughs but we are feeling really uncomfortable and all feeling like if moves his hand a centimeter lower I am going to have to physically defend my child. Dh, uncle and myself all exchange glances and I can tell my kid's uncle is ready to knock his hand away if needed. So at this point I say politely but gave off enough vibes through tone and body language that we are uncomfortable, "Okay, that is enough." and to dd, "Let's read your book.", so she is distracted and won't continue to interact. So he starts talking to me about how great my kids are, asks dd her age, and starts telling me about this other boy who loves to be tickled and about his granddaughter and makes a point to keep saying their names. Now I have alarm bells going off in my head because the book "Protecting the Gift" talks about potential molesters using that tactic. Not saying that he was necessaily dangerous but I was having enough of a sense of discomfort that I felt like my child needed to be protected. So I open dd's book to distract her and dh decides that we need to leave now. So he gets up and pays, he is getting the vibe and he is feeling very protective of the kids. So dh and my kid's uncle take the kids outside while I pack up and clean ds's mess off the floor (due to the eating habits of 2 year olds). I say thanks and leave. When we are outside I ask dd how she felt about him tickling her and she says that it was fine and didn't make her uncomfortable. Dh says we won't go there again. What do you think, did we handle this right? Did we over or underreact? What would you have said or done? The whole thing happened in a few seconds and he did let dd choose to interact with him, but I can't help feeling like I could have been a better advocate for my daughter.