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I'm curious what everyone else's input is on this... it was very strange...<br><br>
At Sea World they have baby centers, and while I was happy to see the breastfeeding symbol on the map, it was a beautiful day and I didn't feel the need to be locked in a room so dd could nurse. So I nursed her outside on a rocking chair.<br><br>
A few minutes after we sat down, a woman (her body and hair covered with "modern" clothing, only face/hands showing) came over to me, and turned the rocking chair that was next to me so she was facing me. She proceeded to pray for what seemed like forever, but probably 5-10 minutes, bowing and make different hand motions. I pretended to ignore her and just played with dd's hands while she nursed.<br><br>
When she was done praying, she got up, turned the rocking chair back, and walked over to another woman and their children, and they walked away. The Prayer was definitely directed at my actions, so I thought maybe because I was "exposing" myself by bf'ing in public and that's against their religion.<br><br>
What do you think?
 

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i remember something about a group of women were nursing and taken off their head covering and when a man came into the room they all scrambled, not to cover the breast but to cover the hair. maybe in her own way she was giving you some sort of approval??
 

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hmmm. strange.<br><br>
are you certain that the prayer was directed at you and your nursing babe? did she address or acknowledge you at all in any way?<br><br>
not doubting your experience, just trying to get some more info.
 

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I vote for blessing. Or just a crazy lady <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Just kidding about that last part...<br><br>
I am sure she would have spoken to you if she was upset, or would have shown angry emotions. It would have been completely obvious if she was angry.<br><br>
People can speculate, but who knows if you will ever find out, so if I were in that situation I would assume the positive.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sounds to me like you were worshipped.</div>
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Excellent interpretation of the situation <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm almost positive, she turned the rocking chair so she was facing me, and was very close to me. She could have taken another chair or faced another way, so it seemed directed towards us.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Sounds to me like you were worshipped.<br><br>
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Wow, I didn't even think of that. That's really beautiful and totally changes my perspective, thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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What the Heck??? I'm always so confused as to why people think they can invade your 'personal space' when you're pregnant or breastfeeding. It's like you become public property, for everyone to touch (your belly), or for people to cast discerning glances your way because you're feeding your baby. Why are people SOOO UPTIGHT about breastfeeding??? I don't get it.
 

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is it possible that you just happened to be in the direction of mecca? don't muslims have to pray 5 times a day facing mecca? sorry if i'm mixxing up my religions....some group does that though
 

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I vote for facing Mecca; also, it is very likely that she was blessing/praying for you; breastfeeding is the norm in traditional Muslim societies, and my Muslim informant (ok, my muslim guy friend who was weirded out by the question<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) said that because women are generally very socially secluded, they tend to be VERY supportive and communally oriented. He said other than you just being in her way as she was trying to pray, she might have been trying to include you in her moment of inner peace, and bless you and your child.<br><br>
He also said the only way it could possibly be negative was she was trying to ask God to forgive you for your immodesty; but he said that was EXTREMELY unlikely since you were feeding a child. Children are sacred.<br><br>
He also said that in NO WAY was she trying to convert/pray for your soul; ('cuz I was kinda put-off by the idea of praying for someone)<br><br><br>
So, his red-faced conclusion was be happy. She meant it as a compliment, and she wishes you well.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I vote for facing Mecca; also, it is very likely that she was blessing/praying for you; breastfeeding is the norm in traditional Muslim societies, and my Muslim informant (ok, my muslim guy friend who was weirded out by the question<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) said that because women are generally very socially secluded, they tend to be VERY supportive and communally oriented. He said other than you just being in her way as she was trying to pray, she might have been trying to include you in her moment of inner peace, and bless you and your child.<br><br>
He also said the only way it could possibly be negative was she was trying to ask God to forgive you for your immodesty; but he said that was EXTREMELY unlikely since you were feeding a child. Children are sacred.<br><br>
He also said that in NO WAY was she trying to convert/pray for your soul; ('cuz I was kinda put-off by the idea of praying for someone)<br><br><br>
So, his red-faced conclusion was be happy. She meant it as a compliment, and she wishes you well.</div>
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If she was Muslim, this is probably the best way to think about it. When I was nursing my firstborn in a Palestinian town, most of the Muslim women were very supportive, but the older women were not just supportive, but vocal, telling me "Good for you!" and telling the younger women to do the same with their babies [the formula companies were marketing heavily, there at the time].
 

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Thank you for posting this. I love that many here jumped to think it a possitive thing and I think society needs to think this way more often unless we know is something negative.<br><br>
I am no expert but from the muslum friends I have had they tend to mind thier own business. (my husband is an arabic linguist and in his field we find friends of this faith) I was once told by a man that they put up high walls not because they do not want to connect with neighbors but because they are protecting the neighbors from what they might see in his back yard. A common belief for them. It is not that they think the neighbors yard a shame, but because it would shame them if say the neighbor saw his wife when she was not "presentable." I think they value privacy. I could be wrong though and not sure if using the word "they" is correct either. I certainly do not mean to lump a group together with little thought. Just a observation.<br><br>
-sigh- I know I am not being clear. Forgive me?
 

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i clicked on this thread thinking maybe a dolphin came over to watch or nurse near you or something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I don't know. As a Muslim I can tell you it's considered bad form to bow down or pray to anyone but Allah so while it makes sense she would turn the chair in the correct direction it's hard for me to believe she would place it in such a way that you were in front of her if she was praying. When Muslims are praying people do not walk in front of them for this reason, and the general "ban"on depictions of the Prophet Muhammad plays into this as well (so no paintings or whatever to bow down to.)<br><br>
I like the blessing idea, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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Could this woman have been using some sort of sign language? Sounds very strange, I think that if this happened to me I would tell myself that she was trying to bless baby & me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i clicked on this thread thinking maybe a dolphin came over to watch or nurse near you or something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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me too.
 
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