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I am a high stress/high anxiety person. With my last baby my water broke and she wasn't born for eight more days (after going to the hospital and being induced). I did everything from castor oil (YUK) to accupuncture and everything in between. While everything *worked* and would cause contractions I just couldn't get into labor. I was at a 6 when I arrived at the hospital, however. I was SO anxious the moment my water broke and continued to be stressed and irritable throughout those 8 days. I feel that phsycholigically I stalled my labor. I don't fear labor, don't fear the pain, none of that. I don't know what it is. Probably the fear of not being in control. Anyway - I am afraid that's happening again. I"m at a 3 and very effaced. I'll go for hours with regular, close, strong contractions. Then something happens or the kids start fighting, I get all irritated, and the contractions stop. I've tried to talk myself down, herbs, etc. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want the many week labor again!!! HELP!
 

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Have you tried sending out the kids and having a glass of wine. Just allowing yourself to completely relax and unwind. Clear your mind of all your stresses of home and baby not coming. Try to find whatever it is that relaxes you and go there<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Even if it's just reading a book in a nice hot bath. That's what I've always tried to do...release everything else. I hope it helps<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Amy, it might not be your stress, it might just be that the baby is not ready yet & your body is just warming up. It seems to happen more and more with each subsequent baby for me. Maybe for you, too?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't think it's a faulty system or issue going on, it just sounds pretty normal to me!
 

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Me, too, though it didn't really become a huge issue like Amy described until #5. This time it's happening again, and because I know last time WAS a lot to do with stress, I am automatically worried that this time will be worse. The stress this time makes last time look like a gentle, relaxing walk in the park. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I don't really have any suggestions. Last time, it just finally kicked over into productive labor after 104 hours of intense prodromal hell. The MWs broke my water to get it going but I don't want that this time, if at all possible. I've been contracting off and on for a couple of weeks already this time, with no indication that the "real thing" is anywhere close. If you come up with anything, let me know, and in the meantime... Huge <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> s!!!!
 

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I don't have any advice but wanted to offer a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">.
 

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I don't know too much about this, since this is only #2 for me, but I did read that this is more and more normal the more children you have. So, as Spark and Seeking Serenity have already pointed out, this sounds like it could be quite normal.<br><br>
I'm with presslermom on the remedy. That is my cup of tea, I mean, vino.
 
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