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Lately I've been confused about my feelings about nursing. Ds is almost 11 months and I really love breastfeeding. We are SO close because of it, and DH is very suportive and has no problem with me nursing as long as I want. I just feel totally un-sexy and kind of like a cow sometimes. I'm up almost constantly at night nursing so I'm tired a lot. Also, DH has this annoying thing he does: He will tell Evan "you want to nurse?" when the baby starts getting fidgity or anything that way he doesn't have to deal with him! He pretends that it's not the case but it SO IS. Trust me, I know when my baby wants to nurse or if he's just bored or being a pain!<br><br>
Anyone else struggling with feelings like this??
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I think we all feel that way sometimes...<br><br>
BUT I think it has more to do with just being mom than breastfeeding.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> They're so busy and need so much of you at this age; it really wears you down. If there are any little ways you can find to "recharge" yourself, do it. Even a nice bubble bath while DH plays with the baby.<br><br>
I had that problem with my DH too. I just told him that if he was going to keep offering, he'd better figure out how he was going to deliver. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think he finally figured it out.
 

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<a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=656282" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=656282</a><br><br>
Did you read this one too?<br><br>
We've been there, too!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I think we all feel that way sometimes...<br><br>
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This is really huge - I think it's tough for moms (and dads) when children are still in that "need everything from mommy" stage of life. As hard as it is, it isn't forever and you'll probably feel nostalgic about it when it's over. Hang in there! When my dd weaned, at first I was excited to have my boobs back to myself (well, I was 6 months pregnant - so I didn't have them for long<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and then I felt sad that that time between us was over. Enjoy what's good about this time & feel free to tell your DH that NO, nursing isn't what the baby wants right now!!
 

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I just want to say first: WOW I wish my husband was a little more that way. He's more on the, she doesn't need that when she REALLY does mode. Anyway I agree with the pp'ers the time does go SOOO quickly and I think it's hard in the beginning. I know for me dd has been going four and five days of not waking during the night to nurse. At first I was relived that I was getting more rest. By the end of the week I was sad that I no longer had that cuddling time during the night to have her all to myself as my little baby anymore. These times go soo quickly, try to live in the moment and cherish them as before long he/she WONT need you and I bet you'll miss it. ((hugs)) to you momma it is VERY hard sometimes especially when we're not getting much sleep!
 

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WOW- totally know what you mean by feeling like a cow. In my case the image of a sow has kept popping to mind while nursing both kids. I have made peace with my inner sow though- especially because it makes DD laugh when I call myself that. It's hard to feel otherwise though while lying flat in bed, boobs splayed to the side with little piggies attached and then DH walks in...<br>
Also to comment on the DH thing with nursing. My DH made a lot more of those comments when it was just the one child, after #2 a lot more equality came into the picture because I couldn't do it all.<br>
Good luck!!<br><br>
From one sow to a cow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I had a coworker tell my that while breastfeeding is great and best there will be a point where I'll be come fed up. As she put it, "You will think, 'Hey, I have a master's degree, what the h*ll?'" I know she meant well. She meant (and yes there was more to this discussion), that I will love those early years. But at some point, the feeling will fade. It did. I felt like a cow. In fact I wound up EP'ing for my first because I didn't know better (I should've stuck it out.) With my second, we just hit year 2 on nursing. We all have weak moments. With dc #1, I was unprepared. With dc #2, I don't think we'll CLW, but we may last til 2.5 or 3 yo. We'll figure it out over this year. There is some point I think where all nursing moms wonders, so you're not alone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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