This year my DH's brother moved in with us for the entire spring and most of the summer. He didn't pay rent or pay for groceries though he did occaisionally buy us all take-out, he idid pay for cable which we enjoyed but did not previously have or have now that he moved, it just isn't nescessary and we can't afford it. He decided to cash out his "trust fund' of $3000 when he lived with us and gave me $500 which he said he was giving us for living in our apartment for free because I needed a down payment for my midwife. I stupidly said I would try to pay him back when we got our tax return next year and he insisted that no I shouldn't pay him back. OK fast froward to now when the midwife has abandoned her practice due to threatened prosecution from the state I live in for practising without a liscense and has told me she will give us a partial refund on the deposit back (though this was over a month ago and I haven't heard from her or seen a check yet). My BIL is broke and living in Fl now and he and my MIL keep calling my DH asking if the deposit is here yet and when we can mail it to him, EXCUSE ME, WTF... I thought when I finally accepted the $ (which I actually was reluctant to take) the understanding was that it was for living in our apartment and eating our food (which I cooked) and that I did not have to pay it back. My DH keeps getting mad at me because he is being put into the middle of this. He doesn't understand that I really don't think think of this as a loan or even a gift, I consider this a payment. What do you guys think?