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My yougest is turning 3 next month and has JUST started a stuttering problem.<br>
I call it a problem because it makes her sad and angry. She was an early talker, can say just about everything and has a very chatty older sister.<br>
It is SO painful to watch her get hung up on one syllable- she gets louder and louder and then starts stuttering in a growling voice- anything to try and get it out.<br>
I have tried just getting down on her level and looking at her so that she knows she has my full attention.<br>
I try to stop the older child from finishing her sentences and rushing her.<br>
I tell the youngest to stop and take a deep breath and start over.<br>
I feel it has gone beyond normal 2 year old 'searching for words' stuttering and after a few minutes she will bop herself on the head and say " I can't tell it!"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br>
Others are noticing too, so I know that I am not being too sensitive.<br>
Any experience with this or suggestions? It is so hard to watch such a bright child get so frustrated with her words!
 

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My 6 yo. dd occasionally stutters. She is extremely bright, as well. Part of it, I'm sure, is that she has so many words going through her head that she can't decide on the right one. I thought she would outgrow it by now, but she hasn't.<br><br>
I'm glad you get on your dd's level. I also find it helpful to touch my dd as she is trying to speak; that seems to reduce her stress and makes it easier for her to find the right words.<br><br>
I have to say that the title of your thread really bothered me---almost as if you were making fun of your dd. (I know you didn't mean to, but I just wanted to point that out.)<br><br>
Let your dd feel as if she has all of the time in the world to express herself. If she gets frustrated, say, "that's ok, you can tell me later when you think of the word." Or ask her to draw a picture instead.<br><br>
You don't want to turn an occasional problem into a constant problem, which can happen if your dd feels too stressed about it.<br><br>
Don't tell her to stop, take a deep breath, and start over. Although well intentioned, that can be really frustrating from a child's point of view. (She is thinking, "I have to START OVER!! GEEZ!!") Just say, "you're doing great--I'm listening" if you have to say anything at all. Or just keep listening and touching her (I usually gently hold my dd's elbow) until she finds the right words.
 

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I agree with mamajulie here. The title definitely rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sure you meant nothing by it, but it kinda gave me not such a nice feeling. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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mamjulie- great idea about the drawing. She loves coloring right now.<br><br>
threetimesamom- only a critique? No input? ok<br><br>
I used the stu- stu as part of my frustration and was sure then others would know what I was starting a thread about. Never ceases to amaze me at the easy ways in which to tick folks off.<br>
As I am reduced to tears at times when my child stutters, I would be the last to poke fun. But thanks for making me feel even crappier....
 

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I'm sorry. I got stuck on the stuh, stuh part. I really <b>don't</b> think you meant to make fun at your child, it just gave me and "ouch" in the tummy when I read it. Also it was not my intention to make you feel "crappier".<br><br>
Anyway, my input with regards to your child would be to seek professional advice, especially since the stuttering started just out of the blue. Honestly, I'm not an expert in this area, so I really can't say much else. I clicked on your post, because of the way it was entitled.<br><br>
Good luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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stuttering is common at that age, i have read. ad i know of a few 3 yr olds who stutter.<br><br>
my husband has a stutter, so i have some experience with this and have read a bit about it. there was a post a few months ago on the MDC boards about this, you might want to do a search on here also. it was maybe in parenting issues.<br><br>
one of the main things is to give her lots of time to say what she needs to say. dont finish the words for her, it can increase the frusteration, and try as hard as you can to relax yourself as she is stuck, becuase your tension might make her feel even more pressure and make it worse. basically the best thing is to act like she is speaking normally, unless she is really really stuck, at which point, my dh says it helps if i ask him a question "do you mean.....(fill in the blank)?"<br><br>
if its REALLY stressful for her, look into speech therapy, to give her tools for dealing with it. chances are , though, that her stutter will go away on its own, studies show that apparently most do in children...but look into it.<br><br>
thats all i can think of for now. the stuttering help website you should definatly check out is:<br><br><a href="http://www.stutteringhelp.org" target="_blank">www.stutteringhelp.org</a><br><br>
take care!
 

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i didnt have time earlier to make sure the article i was thinking of was on that stuttering help website, so i wanted to post again to let you know that it indeed is.<br><br>
its called "If you think your child is stuttering: Seven ways to help" and here is the link to that article.<br><br><a href="http://www.stutteringhelp.org/br_iytyc.htm" target="_blank">http://www.stutteringhelp.org/br_iytyc.htm</a>
 

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Thanks stirringleaf- I found that article very helpful and also reassuring that I am already doing most of the tips!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 
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