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My 18 month old started having sleep problems a few days ago, and I am at a loss.<br><br>
He's in a crib in his own room (we co-slept, but moved him w/ no problems at all). He's always gone down to sleep with no concerns--awake, asleep, dark, light, noisy---it never mattered. He slept from 8 ish til 7 ish--never crying at all. It is just his temperament--we never did any "methods" or anything--never let him cry--that is just his nature.<br><br>
A few nights ago, after being asleep for a few hours, he woke up crying really hard. We let him go for a few minutes, but it only got worse. I got him & brought him in bed with me & he couldn't settle down. Wouldn't nap the next day (& is usually a great napper), wouldn't sleep the next night and so on . . . Cries as soon as I put him in the crib and he has NEVER done that. I had him to the doc to check for an ear infection, but nadda.<br><br>
My older son was not a great sleeper & still spent many nights in bed with us at that age. This would be nothing if it were him, but why would a great sleeper start suddenly having problems? Nothing new going on with him or us, so I just can't figure it out. I am exhausted & have virtually not slept for 3 days.<br><br>
Anyone ever experience this? What could it be?<br><br>
Please no flames about not co-sleeping. I fully support it & did it with both kids, but this one honestly & truly slept better on his own, I am sad to say!
 

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Wow! I could have written that post! We are currently dealing with the same thing except ours was caused by a move.<br><br>
We are just very, very patient with DS and let him set his own schedule. I, after figuring out it was just easier, let him decide when/if he wants to go to bed/nap. He used to ask to go to bed at 8pm sharp, everynight. Now, he stays up until I go to bed, usually about 10ish. I moved our bed back into a corner, he & DH sleep on the outsides & I sleep in the middle. Usually, in the middle of the night, he wakes up and asks to go to his bed. I put him in, cover him up and everything is fine. He is sleeping a little later than his normal 8am. He has, finally, started napping again but only takes one nap as opposed to his previous two. I was really becoming stressed out about him losing his "schedule" but finally decided to just go with it. I figure when he's ready to start sleeping reguarly again, he will. Until then, I'm just trying to be super laid-back and let him set his own sleep rules (very, very hard for a super compulsive, gotta-have-a-schedule kind-of girl). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie"> I would really like to know how it goes for you guys. Please keep me posted. Brook
 

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I had another thought during the night. DS is extremely sensative to temperature. I tend to keep the house pretty cool at night. I've found that if he gets cold, he wakes up and has trouble going back to sleep. Since he's very big into kicking his covers off I put him in long PJ's and it seems to help him sleep. Brook
 

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Thanks for your replies.<br><br>
I think I've nailed down the problem, now what to do!?<br><br>
As soon as he goes into the crib, he cries & yells. He says "out" "mama" "bed" "nuss" (nurse). I think that's pretty clearly some separation anxiety going on! Does it just happen out of the blue? Not sure what to do about it now.<br><br>
Last night, I swear to God, I climbed in the crib with him and layed there til he fell asleep! (I am pretty small, thank goodness!)He actually slept all night, but screamed when I tried to put him down for a nap today.<br><br>
Am dreading tonight.
 

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We are having sudden sleep problems with our almost 18 month old too. We co-sleep and she has been sleeping through the night, no nursing, no crying, not a peep until 6 am, since she was 9 months. A few months ago she started waking up once in the wee hours wanting something to drink. She would lie right back down afterward and go back to sleep, no problem. At night, I would lie down with her until she fell asleep and then I would get up and go hang out with my husband. Wednesday night she woke up at 3 am and started screaming "out, out, out." I tried to lay her back down, but she wouldn't have it. She screamed like she was being murdered. Dh got up and put her in her sling and walked around the block with her. They came back, and they lay back down and she went to sleep. Friday night she got up and started screaming around the same time. So I got up with her and took her into the kitchen. She said she was hungry and wanted some beans so I gave them to her. She was up for an hour after that, wanting this or that and would not go back to sleep until 4. She was up for the day at 6. Tonight around 7:30 she was so sleepy she could hardly walk. She was stumbling around and running into things. When I put her in her pajamas, she screamed and cried, and said "Nonni (Gina) sad!" We went in the bedroom to read some stories, which is part of our routine, and she could hardly keep her eyes open. After stories, when I turned off the light, she screamed "No, no, no, out, out, out" I kept trying to lay her down, rub her back, sing, etc. but she was screaming so hard she started to almost puke. I got up and put her in her sling and went outside. i told her that all the butterflies, kitties, doggies, all her friends had all gone night night. A few minutes later she put her head on my chest and said "Nonni night-night" and she went to sleep. I just this minute put her down and I am worrying that I will have to walk her around the block every night from now on and the rainy season is coming. i sure don't want to do it at 3 in the morning every night either, but sometimes it is the only way to calm her down when she is really upset.<br><br>
So sorry to highjack your thread, but I wanted you to know that our daughter is around the same age and we also are clueless what the heck is going on. Maybe it's some developmental thing?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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I've about decided it's developmental, too. DS is just having such an awful time sleeping at night, still. He REFUSES to go to sleep at night until DS, DH, and I are all in bed together. Even then, he has started screaming and crying and fighting sleep very hard. The other night he woke up in the middle of the night and cried so hard (despite our best efforts to calm & comfort him) that he threw up all over the bed. He quit crying after that but he still did not go back to sleep for another 1 1/2. I am lucky, however, that DS has begun to sleep later than his usual 8am when he has these spells. I just don't know what else to do for him. It is good to know, however, that we're not the only one's struggling with this issue.
 
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