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I posted this over in the toddler section a couple weeks ago and only got a few replies so maybe I'll try here. DS is almost 28 months old and still not too interested in the potty (he does like to help flush after I clean his diapers though).<br><br>
Anyways, he has a BM at the same time nearly every day. We go in to take a nap, change his diaper, read a story, I leave, he stays awake and reads some more and then I go back in to check on him and he's stinky. He's always doing it right before nap but after I leave. It gets pretty frustrating because it's always right in a nice clean diaper and then I have to rediaper him. I can't just leave him in the old one from before his nap though because there are off chances that he'll just go to sleep.<br><br>
I've been trying to sit him on the potty and then read him the story there, but he doesn't like to stay there for too long.<br><br>
Any ideas?
 

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The average age for a child to start potty training in the US is between 28 and 32 months. The average age to complete it is between 30 and 36 months. It is not considered abnormal for a child to not be day trained until almost 4 years old, and to not be night trained for up to 5 years. ("Trained" "learned" you know what I mean.)<br><br>
So, I guess what I'm saying is give it time. Don't force the issue. If your toddler's anything like mine if you push he'll push back harder. I've been struggling with this for months with a dd who I know can be fully day trained *if she wants to be.* She has gone for as long as 3-4 days with no accidents, then decides she's tired of doing it and we take a break.<br><br>
Only recently, when I stopped making it an issue (and corrected a constipation problem she was having) did she start using the potty on a regular basis around the house. She still doesn't use it when out very often, and still wears a diaper at night. Our big milestone this week is that she is wearing panties around the house and remembering to take them off before she sits on the potty, but doesn't always put them back on afterwards.<br><br>
The best teacher is to have him watch you and dh, remain positive about bodily functions, and have him observe other toddlers who are using the potty.<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
Darshani
 

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I will post what worked for us. I tried to get ds aware of his bodily functions and using the potty around 28 months but he would go running screaming from the potty and throw a big fit if we tried to have him sit on it none-the-less use it.<br><br>
What worked for us was not putting dipes on him anymore (at home) since it was summer he ran around nakie and could see that just going would make a mess.... but honestly he didn't do a pee pee accident, he just felt it I think and ran to the potty. I put his little potty in the living room so when he had to go he didn't have to go running and have an accident. He had a few accidents of poopys (thankfully on the tiled kitchen floor!) but after 3 days he was doing both in the potty like a pro!<br><br>
Hes 36 months now and is doing great! I am so proud of us (as its a learned project for mommies too!) Now he uses the big potty with his special seat and washes and flushes all by himself. The only thing he needs help with is pulling down his clothes (he has to be naked to go) and wiping. He also has a bladder of steel and doesn't need night trainers on. We are still having him sit to go pee so there are a lot less accidents - waiting for a little while before we master standing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
Hope that helped.<br><br>
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my karina is 34 months old, and just went poop on the potty yesterday for the first time! now she is going poop and pee on the potty when we have her diaper off.<br>
we are so excited!<br>
we just tried very very hard not to push, but i started telling her at 2 that one day she would go potty on the potty like mommy and daddy. then just in the last few months ive been asking her if she wants to try the potty, and her response was "maybe tomorrow" :LOL<br>
then in the last week or so, she would sit on the potty and try with nothing coming out, and then suddenly yesterday, she came to me to show me her little poo in the potty! it was so cute!<br>
so its definitely been a process for us, and im sure we have a ways to go before she is fully potty learned! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
good luck!
 

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Both of my older children potty trained at 26 months and it was in a matter of a couple of days.<br><br>
I knew they were both ready when they were waking up dry in the mornings and from naps and were willing to sit on the potty and "try" to go.<br><br>
We ditched all the diapers (we were not in cloth for either of the kids) and bought panties. No pull ups, training pants, nothing. I let them run around naked with the potty chair in the living room and the first time they peed in it, it just clicked for them!<br><br>
Our youngest daughter seems to be following in their footsteps! She won't be 2 until December, but she's already starting to show some signs!!
 

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One thing I tried with my oldest ds was a smaller toilet seat on top of the big one and had him sit there while still wearing his diaper. I dont know why it helped, maybe he didnt feel like he was going to fall thru? But it did help him get accustomed to being in a sitting position for pooping (as opposed to the squating under my kitchen table<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ). Who knows? Maybe its worth a shot?<br>
Good luck!
 

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I tried setting DS on the potty a lot about 3 mos back... no interest. A few days ago he started peeing in the potty with no prompting. I haven't tried to "train" him at all, although now that he's showing an interest I walk him to the potty a lot to see if he needs to go.<br><br>
DS decided on his own that every sucessful pee in the potty deserves a celebratory bath. He is very clean lately. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I guess my point is to aviod "training" and your DS will let you know when he's ready.
 

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I agree with what everyone else has said. I think we can encourage them, but they ultimately have to be ready, imo.<br><br>
I think my younger son (just turned two yesterday) is picking it up so quickly b/c of watching his older brother do it. Plus, he used to poo 4-5 times per day regularly so he made the connection early of what poos were and that it was better to do that in the potty than on himself.<br><br>
My main thing is encouraging but not forcing it. I ask regularly if he wants to go, but it seems like the times I just say we're going and then put him on it, the less he wants to do it in the potty!! He is much happier to decide when he wants to go on the potty. Another thing that I'm probably not too wise to do is that I keep switching up what he's wearing. Sometimes he's in undies, sometimes fleece inner diapers and sometimes regular fitteds. I might actually be confusing him by all this changing up, but I can't get a routine down yet, d'oh!<br><br>
Keep your child involved in all aspects of the whole potty experience and give constant praise (yay! you poo'ed, now we're going to put the poo in the potty b/c poos go in the potty, etc) and then he'll connect the dots soon enough. BEST of luck!
 
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