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My 4mo old HATES the car. He's been used to someone in the back with him, butnow it's just me and my 2 yr old and he screams! I have to pull over sometimes just to hold him! Out of the car he is a happy and content little guy.<br>
Any suggestions for CD's? Toys? ?? I have a toy that hangs from his car seat hadle, but it doesn't do much for him.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Time and not driving very much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Sorry, but I swear that I tried everything in the world with DD1, nothing helped, she eventually got older and it very slowly go better. DD2 is the same way, and I'm just counting down the months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Make sure he's not too hot or too cold. My DD used to cry in the car and get all sweaty. It was horrible! When we realized what was happening I made sure that she didn't have a hat on anymore and it was better. Also, maybe that toy hanging on the bar is irritating to him? You could try removing it. You can also try adjusting the angle of your carseat a little as well. Is he kind of folding over on himself? And is he really in the backseat by himself or is your 2YO there too? Maybe he or she could help talk to him so he doesn't feel alone. That is what my DD has been doing with her little brother, except for the times when she screams at him instead. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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a mirror, and making sure his hands are free to get to his mouth. My dd HATED the car but got much better! So don't despair. I also use to put her in the seat at home for a bit each day to have her get use to being in it, and driving little trips around the neighborhood so she would learn it is not forever! good luck!
 

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Limit car time as much as possible. Put on any music that you can sing with, and sing to him.<br><br>
Btw, is the handle on the carseat supposed to be up while you're driving? I know a few are approved for that, but most are supposed to be put down.
 

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I had this same problem w/ my babe and as soon as I switched him out of is infant seat to his Britax decatholon convertible seat it was like travelling w/ a new baby. I was ready to lose my mind especially w/ a 2 year old back their screaming everytime the baby cried. So it was suggested to be by about 20 moms to switch him out of his infant seat. The Britax decatholon had infant padding that is removable when he gets bigger. I LOVE IT. Good luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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A lot of people swear by a car seat change, but honestly, I think that a lot of babies don't respond well to that either. Really, IMHO I think that a lot of babies just need to develop a bit more, get to where they can see more, not feel overwhelmed by the car ect ect. I hate saying this and I especially hate hearing this, but give it time, it does get better. My DD just snapped out of it one day. We did introduce a paci during this time, and it saved me from a few car accidents. I don't regret it. Sometimes you can find things that HELP, but I really think that this is a normal phase that all babies go through. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s and hang in there!!
 

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Time, time, time. We had the same issue and once DS hit about 4 mos., it was substantially better and gradually improved from there. We sang countless verses of "The Wheels on the Bus"--that helped. We also got one of those mirrors that plays music and started using a paci about that time, so who knows what did it, but DS has always been very clear about what he likes and doesn't like, so I think he grew out of his dislike for the car more than the mirror and/or carseat were the panacea. He's 10 mos. now and only very occasionally gets cranky in the car. BTW, he was a really big guy at birth (still is) and outgrew his infant seat at 7 weeks and has been in a Britax Decathlon ever since. The change did nothing for us--he still hated the car until about 4 mos. I remember that he also liked the highway much more than stop-and-go traffic. He would cry at stopsigns or lights, then stop once we got moving, then cry again every time I braked. Aye yi yi!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I feel your pain! Good luck!
 

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My baby is 4 months and one day a couple weeks ago she just stopped hating the car. Like magic!<br><br>
Before that wonderful day I would only go out after nursing and around nap time so she would eventually go to sleep. We also got a CD of Celtic lullabies that worked wonders. It almost always stopped the crying pretty quickly.<br><br>
It's probably a matter of time for your babe. Hope it resolves soon!
 

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DS has been much happier now that he is out of the infant carrier too and in his bigger seat (a Britax Roundabout). They can see a lot better and are less scrunched up.
 

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ug, i remember this. ds1 didn't like the car until he was forward facing and could see out the window. but we had to drive an hour or two into the city once in a while, so here are some of the things we did:<br><br>
-- find a rhyme or song he likes and sing it endlessly (i used to "pattycake" my way through the whole alphabet to keep it interesting for me)<br>
-- get a really interesting hand toy -- i got one with all kinds of crinkly things and a mirror and it played music (it was his only musical toy, so it was a novelty). that will keep him busy for a while, and it uses all his new skills. only use it in the car<br>
-- nap time drives. ds would refuse to nap during drives, but it works for most kids<br>
-- use those plastic links to connect a bunch of little things together and hang them from the ceiling handle thing<br><br>
hope that helps
 

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Great suggestions!. You gals are GREAT!<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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He usually isn't too hot until he starts his fits, then he gets all sweaty (we're in FL, so I just crack the windows)<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Uh huh! Tell me about it! Double trouble, or if she cries, that get him going!<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My singing make BOTH my kids cry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But music seems to irritate him.. BUT if I crack the windows on the expressway, that works. But I can't take the expressway everywhere <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">He would cry at stopsigns or lights, then stop once we got moving, then cry again every time I braked</td>
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YUP!! That too<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Oh, I hope that happens SOON! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">:<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">-- get a really interesting hand toy -- i got one with all kinds of crinkly things and a mirror and it played music (it was his only musical toy, so it was a novelty). that will keep him busy for a while, and it uses all his new skills. only use it in the car</td>
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I'll try this!<br>
I can't that you all enough!!
 

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My DD had similar issues in the car at that age. What helped her was driving with the windows cracked. The white noise always helped her get right to sleep. Granted, she was born in May (and I live in So Cal) so temperature was not an issue. This only worked on the highway though! Static on the radio also helped.<br><br>
In time, it passed and she doesn't need me to roll down the windows anymore.<br><br>
GL!
 

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DD2 is 8 months and still hates riding in the car. She has screamed in the car since birth, many times had to pull over and take her out of seat & nurse her to calm her down. She would get so upset she would gag on her saliva and vomit. When she was small I would leave very early so I would have time to pull over and would only drive if I HAD to. She is getting more tolerant but still cries every single time I put her in the car seat, much less dramatic though. Ive got it worked out now for the most part, most of my driving time (driving DD1 to/from school, dance, etc) is scheduled so she will fall asleep in the car.<br><br>
What helps us:<br>
Keeping dd awake a little longer if I knew I was going to drive so she would sleep in the car<br>
Rolling down the windows seems to help us sometimes (she also cries if I turn music on or sing)<br>
Shaking a rattle in a steady rhythm<br>
DD1 making noise trying to distract helps now that DD2 is getting older<br>
I have a cd of waves which I turn up loud, like white noise, and it has helped many many times<br>
Now that she is older she likes certain toys she can hold/mouth<br><br>
It will get better over time, this is a very frustrating thing when they are so small and nothing seems to console them, esp with another dc in the car getting upset because of all the crying. If you want to try the cd I have, I can send you a copy.
 
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