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I wanted to share an entry I recently posted on my blog, here...because I love hearing others' stories of their own great Daddies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
People so often, on AIM or out on the town, tell me that they don't know how I do it. All the homeschool with Annie, all the good food, all the AP I keep up with Isaac even though that STILL means I don't sleep more than 2 hours uninterrupted, the individual time I find with Aaron. Keeping a good attitude most of the time, cleaning like crazy, excercise, blah blah blah.<br><br>
Well, after this last week on my LJ friends' list and on a large families messageboard I go to, I've discovered the source of all of your confusion and realized I owe someone some big appreciation and accolades.<br><br>
It's Grant. Seriously and truly. The stuff I read day in and day out, that other people are going through with their "daddies", is just insane to me...and it shouldn't be, I watched my mother go through it and worse. And (sorry, but it's true) I've been there myself...<br><br>
I could not be "this mommy" without him. So I think I'll stop bitching about him still eating candy and drinking soda and dropping his crap all over the counter, and sing it:<br><br>
-He gets up pretty much every morning that he doesn't have to be out working early, for a couple of months now, with the kids. He gets them breakfast, and either turns on PBSKids or takes them out on his errands (like going to the bank). Isaac and I usually wake up about 1-2 1/2 hours later. At which point he comes and gets Isaac, makes him smile and laugh, changes his diaper, and goes and gets him set up with breakfast in his feeding chair, while I go to the bathroom and get dressed. We kind of touch base, about how I slept and what the kids have done, and then his work day and my home day start. Those breakfasts he fixes have included pancakes and sausage one day this week, and scrambled eggs two others.<br><br>
-About twice a week I get a half hour+ long shower to myself.<br><br>
-He makes dinner once or twice a week (and it's always REALLY good...)<br><br>
-And there are just a million little things; it's a given that if I'm cooking with Aaron and Isaac's trying to climb up onto his chair and grab pots, that Grant will play with him until we're finished (when home, of course). Yesterday he took Isaac with him to the grocery store so I could get dinner started and math done with Annie, and after dinner he was out on the sidewalk with Aaron and their skateboards, teaching him to skate. At bedtime I am the "reader" and he is the "toothbrusher". He is "on board" with me, in all the parenting philosophies, which means he doesn't gripe about having to drive an hour to get to the birth center and pay a couple of out of pocket expenses: the vbac is important to him, too. And it means that when he's sleeping and has to get up cuz Aaron comes and pees on him in the night, he does a sort of gyrating, cover throwing seizure, mutters something suspicious, and then gets up and cradles him close and talks softly to him. I can spend the night in bed with Isaac teething when Annie's sick knowing Grant is on a blanket on the floor by her bed and will take good care of her if she throws up again. He hates it sometimes, but he never watches anything but animal planet or the cooking channel if they're awake, and those sparingly.<br><br>
There is just a genuine sense, with him, that they are OUR children, that we are a family, and that it is real, hard work. That I'm good at it and he admires me for it, that he knows it's more than one person could ever do alone. And he thinks it's important that the boys are out of the way for me to read chapters to Annie, and that my promise to Aaron that we would cook alone matters enough for him to keep the other kids out of the kitchen... I wish I had $10,000 to present him with for Father's Day...as it is, I have no idea what I can do. Let alone that would be "enough".<br><br>
And don't get me wrong, I have my bad days. I still do pretty much ALL of the cleaning around here: and it is really extensive and frustrating in that it never ends. And I spend anywhere from 3-8 hours alone with the kids everyday (that's 7 days a week, usually), at the end of which he sometimes asks to go out to the movies with Shaun. Isaac is latched on to me half the night, I do all the schooling. There is room to get fed up...but we laugh together, he can tell when I need a break, and even if it's just the last half of a movie that we're finally alone together for at 1 am, he tells me I'm beautiful and kisses me softly and gives the best backrubs ever. I can't even imagine him doing some of the things that I hear about from other women, and I'm glad. He doesn't think twice about us all going out to eat together or think it's a pain to take us all camping (even though he sets up the tent, and loads and unloads the car twice alone, and takes the big kids hiking while I nap with the baby...) If we get back from somewhere late and they're all sleeping, he brings all three of them in the house one by one because he's better at it, with Isaac, and he doesn't want me carrying A or A dead weight, while I'm pregnant (they weigh over 40 pounds each now). When Isaac was in the NICU in Miami and I was still in the hospital down here, he was able to give the neonatologist all of my pregnancy history and complication information off the top of his head.<br><br>
I don't really know how to end this, because I could list things forever. I just thought it was time that I said: A. I'm not Superwoman, I just have a partner - I really don't think I could do what some of YOU mamas do, when your husbands are serving in Iraq/thinking money is their job and everything else is yours/acting like another child to take care of...and B. He is so wonderful, and deserves to be held up and praised for it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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It's so nice to hear good stories. It's so much easier to babble about the stupid stuff than to really think and share how wonderful your dh is. I'm happy for you that you found a true partner in life<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
My dh rocks too by the way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> But I'm too tired to sing his praises right now, maybe in the morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Also have the awesome husband. thank you for posting this. It's important to remember just how awesome the good parts are. He's not a saint and gets irritable and blah blah blah but it is so important to state what's good.<br><br>
He works all day (at home, usually) then often makes dinner. He bathes the kids, brushes teeth, and often (I'm embarrassed to admit) cleans up too after dinner. He gets me in bed with the two boys where I often fall asleep. he loves it when we can get into our own bed together but is very patient.<br><br>
He'll often do laundry, vacuum, fix all kinds of stuff around the house.<br><br>
he'll often cook breakfast, play games, take both kids to the grocery store (I think he gets a big kick out of how amazed people are by that).
 

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Yep...I got a good one too...and I sure do know it!<br><br><br>
You have said it there...good to see a true partnership in action!
 

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For Father's Day, you could edit your post a bit and give it to him. It totally choked me up and I don't even know you!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I have a super DH too....I think I may try telling him so for Father's Day.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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WOOO HOOOO!!!!! Let's hear it for the good daddies and hubbies! So glad you have so many nice things to say about him, and thanks for sharing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Just this morning I was struggling with to bitch or not to bitch : WHY CAN YOU NOT PUT YOUR DIRTY SHORTS IN THE BASKET??? WHY???<br><br>
Then I looked over & saw my own socks on the floor :LOL Even though I get overwhelmed with all the work that always has to get done, my dh is a wonderful man, hard worker, compassionate father, and he is so much fun to be around. I would never have the energy to do the 'fun' stuff without his help.
 

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Yup, got a good dh here! He helps with housework, gets up in teh morning with the boys so I can sleep in, always tells me I'm beautiful and he loves me, been so supportive after our m/c, gives me breaks whenever I need them, and also when he just thinks I need one, makes me laugh when I'm sad, cleans the bunny cages, and cooks about half the time! Oh and the best part, he can tell when something is bothering me before I even know it, and he can make me talk about it even when I don't think I can! Wow, I really love my man, he makes me so happy!
 

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Oh how refreshing to read...and a good reminder to be sooooo thankful for the truly good men out there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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