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I am pretty sure there is no one on this early, but me, but I really need to get this out and try to get some support.<br><br>
I just had my first baby June 23rd, 10 weeks ago...<br>
Well at 6 weeks I had some bleeding(my pp bleeding only last a couple of weeks) I figured it was just a little more pp bleeding.<br>
I started feeling "not right" about 1.5 weeks ago, feeling sick, nose stuffy, face breaking out, ALL the things that happen to me when I am pregnant!!!<br><br>
Yesterday we were in town (we live 1.5 hours from a store) and I decided to buy 2 dollar store tests just to make myself feel better....<br>
I took one as soon as we got home and it was POSITIVE!!! OMG OMG...<br>
Well I have always used digital in the past so I thought maybe it was wrong. I decided to test again with FMU so I would know for sure..<br><br>
Well is it 5AM here and I have tested again and I am PREGNANT, again!<br><br>
Pregnant with a 10 week old!!!<br>
How am I going to do this?<br>
Will my body be ok?<br>
I am a little sad, but feel guilty about that due to the hard road it was to get this beautiful baby we have! I lost 3 babies in the span of 1.5 years before the LO we have took...<br>
We had planned to wait 2-3 years before another one!<br>
How did this happen(ok besides the sex part)<br><br>
I am scared!
 

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Oh mama!! Big giant hugs to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't really know what to say I wouldn't of thought it could happen that soon...I wouldn't be scared maybe a little flipped out!!<br><br>
I guess the first thing to do would be to decide what you are going to do....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It may be hard and take a lot of patience, but you can handle this and everything can work out alright. It can be really scary when things happen unexpectedly like that, especially when it's way outside the plans we already have. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Hugs to you mama! I think it's perfectly normal to be nervous, scared, anything you feel. I just want to reassure you that our bodies are amazing, and we are made to carry children, so please try not to worry too much about that part of it.
 

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I'm 14 weeks pregnant... and my son is not quite 6 months. Do the math, you'll see we're not that far apart timewise! It's scary, but hey, you gotta keep pressing on... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Gosh, that does sound like an overwhelming situation. Don't feel guilty about being sad. Who wouldn't be? You're still postpartum, still getting used to the one baby you have. You're hardly ready to do this again, it sounds like. As a pp said, the first thing is to think about what you want to do. (Which I'm sure you have.) Whatever you decide, you'll get through this. And from the description of your dh in your sig, I'm sure you'll have lots of support.<br><br>
Hang in there.
 

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Oh Mama, sometimes the blessings we are given just overwhelm us, don't they? I'm not at all religious, but I truly do feel that you've been blessed. And I think you will feel that way soon. Then you will feel overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, wary, tired, etc. But underneath it all, I suspect that blessed feeling might remain. I'm not saying this won't be hard. Not at all. But I am saying that you can do it, you can manage, and it happened this way for a reason. So CONGRATULATIONS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I'm sure this is overwhelming and totally scary!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hang in there. Everything will be just fine! My kids aren't as close as your's will be. But I really love how close in age my babies are. You will too!<br><br>
Congratulations!
 

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*hugs* to you.<br><br>
I know you're feeling overwhelmed, but sometimes this happens. My cousins are less than a year apart. It CAN be done. In a way, it's not much different from multiples when you think about it. Don't be afraid to ask from help from everyone close to you. Maybe post in Finding Your Tribe and see if there's anyone else local to you who is going through or went through the same thing, and can advise.<br><br>
The big thing is nutrition. Eat the BEST diet you can, and eat enough. Drink lots of fluids. Load up on the fruits and veggies. Get lots of protein. Get enough "good" fats. Give in to your healthy cravings. One good thing is that your fat stores from the first baby probably haven't totally disappeared yet.<br><br>
You will probably have enough milk to nurse your baby until the third or fourth month, according to everything I've read, my LLL leaders, and my own experience. So maybe start looking into donor milk now to give your 10-week-old the best nutrition possible? There are networks of moms who donate directly, which is a huge savings in cost and you don't lose any of the nutrients that are lost in pasteurization as would happen in a milk bank.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I just wanted to offer hugs and send you good vibes! I would be overwhelmed too if I were in your shoes but i also beleive we are only given what we can handle in life. Try and relax if you can and I think you have been given some good ideas from the above posters! Keep your chin up!<br>
Angela
 

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so you worked hard for the babe you just had, this one is now a surprise, but he or she is here for a reason - right now, at this time, this child is supposed to be here. It's okay to be sad, cry if you need to - I can't imagine how overwhelming this has got to be for you.<br><br>
Your body will do just fine - did you have any issues at all with your pregnancy? You need to get checked out (if you're planning to use a doc/OB/midwife) so you can be watched just in case. Do you have a family practice doc/OB/midwife that you used with your baby?<br><br>
What does your husband say? What was his reaction?<br><br>
Jenn
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">so you worked hard for the babe you just had, this one is now a surprise, but he or she is here for a reason - right now, at this time, this child is supposed to be here. It's okay to be sad, cry if you need to - I can't imagine how overwhelming this has got to be for you.<br><br>
Your body will do just fine - did you have any issues at all with your pregnancy? You need to get checked out (if you're planning to use a doc/OB/midwife) so you can be watched just in case. Do you have a family practice doc/OB/midwife that you used with your baby?<br><br>
What does your husband say? What was his reaction?<br><br>
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Jenn,<br><br>
My husband is shocked I think, maybe as much as me, but he is taking it very well. We planned on 2 so he just said "Well now we will have our 2 and they can be close friends"<br>
He is very much a go with the flow type person, thank the universe! I am super lucky there...<br><br>
I had a MW with this last one and no issues what so ever so I am sure I will be fine.<br><br>
It looks like I may UC this time, we moved right after birth to a remote indian reservation so my DH could teach the kids. So not only will our insurance not cover a MW now, but the hospital is 2 hours away. Anyway I will not see an OB unless forced due to bad experiences and a hospital sounds very scary to me, I loved being at home last time.<br><br>
Thank you all for you uplifting comments, I feel a little better this evening and will adjust to my new situation...<br><br>
Peace,<br>
Steph
 

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Well it means you wioll be in the MAy DDC with me! It'll be ok. Were you trying a long time for the first one? this sounds like a nice blessing, and i don't know if you are religious at all, but my family used to say (and many people say) god doesn't give you anything you can't handle. so you'll do fine.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well it means you wioll be in the MAy DDC with me! It'll be ok. Were you trying a long time for the first one? this sounds like a nice blessing, and i don't know if you are religious at all, but my family used to say (and many people say) god doesn't give you anything you can't handle. so you'll do fine.</div>
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tschecter: That is a very nice perk of being pregnant **DDC**!!!! I will really be needing my DDC friends since I have none out here. I am still friends with my last DDC buddies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hello,<br><br>
I hope this experience brings you some support knowing you are NOT alone. I lost many babies prior to conceiving Adam, who is now 2 and never thought that I would be blessed as a mother. When Adam was 4 months old I got pregnant again and miscarried at 8 weeks. Several months later we tried to conceive and got pregnant with Hannah, who is now 10 months old. I was exclusively breastfeeding Hannah and was still sore PP so DH and I had sex VERY sporadically. When Hannah was 11 weeks old I started to feel very strange and I purchased a pregnancy test just to "put my mind at ease" because I knew there was NO way that I was pregnant. Well, test one was positive within seconds and test two was the same. I was in shock. I was actually so nervous that I had tested in the supermarket bathroom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> and sat in my car for about 30 minutes hysterical and hyperventilating. I felt so overwhelmed and scared. I had a 15 month old and a two month old and one on the way. I hadn't even started to get my own body back before I was expected to share it again and I didn't know if I could emotionally due it. I'm not going to lie that for the first few weeks it wasn't an emotional roller coaster. My DH was thrilled but we were both scared because I am so high risk. My specialists seemed to think we could do it and were very encouraging. Around 3 months (after m/s started to let up), I started to accept this little peanut. Each u/s made me open my heart a little bit more. Flash forward and little Jacob is due to arrive in 4-6 weeks and I can't wait to meet my little guy. I can't even imagine life without him though he did come around quite unexpectedly. Am I scared? Absolutely!!! Have I been tired and overwhelmed throughout this pregancy? YES YES YES. Would I do anything differently? Never.....our lives will be complete when I look into Jacob's eyes and say "what a wonderful surprise you are." I wish you all the best...please feel free to pm me if you want to talk about how you are feeling.
 

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maureen thank you for that wonderful post and yes I find it VERY encouraging! **Hug**<br><br>
Does the 73 after your name indicate the year you were born? If so I am also a 1973 baby!<br><br>
~Steph
 

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Yes, I was born in February 1973. I am glad that my post helped because I remember feeling SO alone at the beginning. Even my DH who was amazingly supportive just couldn't understand the emotions that were going through me (and still do). I wish you all the best on your journey!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes, I was born in February 1973. I am glad that my post helped because I remember feeling SO alone at the beginning. Even my DH who was amazingly supportive just couldn't understand the emotions that were going through me (and still do). I wish you all the best on your journey!</div>
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Very cool, my birthday is 01/26/73 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I am feeling very alone with exception of a super supportive hubby and my online friends...<br><br>
I have told my closest friend by phone since we moved out here just 4 weeks ago there is no one for me to tell in person...
 

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Maybe you can find a great Lay midwife through the people you meet on the reservation, how awesome would that be?<br><br>
You'll work it out in the end, I believe. The bright side is that you get all your diapering over at once!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I would encourage you to take really good care of your body for the next couple of years, to have a healthy pregnancy and time to let your body heal afterwards. Eat well, consume lots of protein, stay active and limber, and I think(physically) you'll be fine. Try to stay positive and remember that children are a gift and I think you'll be fine in the other areas too!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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