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i put ds in swimming lessons because its a skill i want him to have. he's still young enough for mom and tot but will soon reach the cut off.<br><br>
he hated the lesson and screamed at the top of his lungs and clung to my neck, so i pulled him out. where should i proceed. in a few months he'll be in the class for three year olds with no mama. i know thats not going to work but i really want him to know how to swim. i myself can only do doggy paddle and frog stroke so i don't think i will be able to teach him much.<br><br>
what are your experiences with this?
 

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Keep going and move at your own pace.<br><br>
Go to the pool for each lesson and start by sitting on the edge. Let him sit in your lap. Do things like splash your feet and sing along to the songs in the lesson. Don't push. Once he gets used to it - then get him to sit on the edge.<br><br>
My sister (with 2 REALLY scared kids) did this. She also set up situations where they could play with water without really getting it. We would go to water play places with a shallow section - and she'd let them have 'fun' sticking their toes in and mainly playing with toys.<br><br>
Just keep trying.
 

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He's not even 3 yet....I would hold off on lessons for a couple of years. Just have fun in the water for now. My younger DD is about his age and her older sister (age 5.5) is taking swimming lessons for the first time (and loving it). Little DD is not ready at all, though.
 

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My dd1 has always been extremely attached to mama. However, she went through a real shift to independence after her 3rd birthday. At 3.5 she loved her swimming classes and couldn't wait to go, even by herself. When they are ready it is so much easier!
 

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We don't do swimming lessons until dh and I can't teach ds anymore. Its been a wonderful time every week or two that we all go together, or just ds and dh or just ds and I to the local pool.<br>
I don't think anyone NEEDS to put their child in 'lessons' as long as they devote an hour once a week to swim with their child.<br>
Even only being able to do the doggy paddle, you can still have fun in the water, teach him how to float and get his face wet.<br>
Maybe you could take lessons and increase your swimming and then teach your son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We took our 2yo twins to Mommy-and-Me swim lessons at the YMCA. The first week, they both clung to us and cried the whole time. The second week, with some coaching from the instructor was a little better. And the third week, they both were willing to "let go" a little and seemed to almost enjoy it! The fourth week, the class was cancelled, and we didn't sign up again.<br><br>
From there we've been taking them into our hot tub (with the temperature turned way down) and over to our friend's pool and doing the same things they were doing in the lessons. They like it a whole lot more in the quiet of our own backyard and so do I. I would say that I am glad we did those first couple of lessons because we learned different water games and techniques to get them interested in swimming (rather than clinging), and found them very effective.<br><br>
Their favorite is to sing "The Wheels on the Bus" while moving them around in the water. So, the people in the bus go up and down (raise the child up out of the water and back in), or the wheels go round and round (move the child forward and back), the whipers go swish, swish, swish (move the child to the right and left). We also encourage them to "run, run, run" under the water, which helps them learn to kick. Wouldn't have thought of those things without the lessons. If you already paid for more lessons, you might as well try again...
 

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Was this his first time in water at all? If so, I can see that he would react with fear...it's a big body of water, probably noisey and lots of people and activity around.<br><br>
However, I think if you really want him to get used to it, you have to go back. Show him that you are there for him, talk to him about what is going on, tell him he is safe, don't force him to move faster than he wants, take baby steps, but don't leave. Removing him because he is scared will simply reinforce his fear. Your reaction will teach him whether or not his fears are justified. Maybe all he is able to do is sit with you and watch the other kids for a while. Compliment him for that and then try sitting closer to the pool, then get his feet wet etc. But only do the next step when HE is ready. I bet he will warm up to it in his own time.<br><br>
My DS and I are currently taking Toddler & Me swim lessons. He was a little apprehensive at first. The scariest part for him was the shower before the lesson...so I didn't force it. He wasn't a huge fan of lying on his back at the first class, but now he loves it. We've had 5 lessons so far and DS is getting more and more comfortable with each class. We sing lots of songs, play with toys and practice blowing bubbles in the water. It is really more about water introduction than swim lessons, but we make sure to talk a lot about "swimmy lessons" when we are home, singing the songs, talking about how much fun it is and that we are going back tomorrow etc.<br><br>
Good luck and hang in there!
 
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