[mntnmom]

We've had the 5 mnth old baby in bed with us...but it's just not working. I'm not sleeping, so we want to put him in a crib in our room. DH wants to let him CIO, I am adamantly opposed. Or older kids made the transition under differnt circumstances.<br>
Does anyone have advice/book suggestions?

 

[2tadpoles]

My younger DS slept in a crib in my room. I suggest putting him down to bed after he's already asleep (with you in your bed, in your arms, whatever).

 

[alegna]

Why can't you sleep? I'd try to address that first. There are few 5 month olds who transition well to a crib.<br><br>
-Angela

 

[L&IsMama]

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Yeah. I remember at that age,there's NO way my kids would sleep in their own beds. We never even bothered with a crib for ds2,after seeing how ds1 was the few times we tried putting him in his. Is it a space/comfort issue? Could you possibly sidecar the crib?

 

[lemurmommies]

Another possibility would be to sidecar your crib. That's what we did, because we only have a double bed, and me and DP are kind of on the "fluffy" side. It gives us all more room to sleep, but DS is still right there beside me.

 

[gibsonsmom]

I agree with the side car idea. I also did that, it was super easy, I just took the adjustable side off and pushed it between the wall and my bed. I also put a piece of canvas across my mattress and the crib mattress to prevent a gap from forming, then blankets on top. This gave us all more room which helped everyone sleep better. But honestly you should do what works for you. I would seriously talk with your husband about the CIO idea, I mean really who is going to have to deal with that?, him? or you?

 

[Subliime]

First off, CIO should not be an option. Second off, my dd is 4 mons and she sleeps on and off with us and in her crib which is right next to our bed. We have no problems with her sleeping in her crib, she doesn't even seem to know the difference. I would say just play around with different sleeping arrangments until you find what works best for your family. Babies can sleep in cribs without having to CIO. Like pp said, sidecaring the crib is also another option if the crib thing doesn't work out. My problem with the crib is that I'm lazy and don't want to get out of bed if I don't have to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[mntnmom]

Sidecaring the crib, that's an interesting idea.<br><br>
I'm an extremely light sleeper, and he's a heavy wiggler. Now that he's rolling over, everytime he moves, I wake up in a panic sure he's falling off, even with the bed bumper thingy.

 

[CW's Mom]

we have gone back and forth with our ds where sometimes he's with us, sometimes in his own crib (in his own room even). He was with us in bed or in bassinette next to bed until 3 months, then moved to his crib very easily (we just put him there and he was fine). Then about 5-6 months he started co-sleeping part time because he would get crabby, if he didn't fall right back to sleep I would bring him in with us. then he went to co-sleeping full time, now he sleeps in his crib maybe 10% of the time.<br><br>
I like the book No Cry Sleep Solution and Dr. Sears Nighttime Parenting might help.... they have some good ideas in there.<br>
Don't feel bad about not being able to sleep with baby in bed with you. I was that way for a long time but once I felt ds NEEDED to be near me somehow we all figured it out. We are headed back to where DS kicks me all night long and I can't sleep at all. Dr. Sears says that the best sleep arrangement is the one where everyone gets the most sleep. Good Luck. Also, if you try something and you are uncomfortable with how your baby reacts to it, you can always stop doing it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Good luck!<br>
Lauren

 

[Llyra]

I moved my DD out of my bed and into a sidecarred crib at 10 months old, because she was crawling on me and none of us was sleeping. We just needed a little more space. It took a couple weeks for her to get used to it, but it worked out well for us and allowed us to continue cosleeping for a little longer than we might have otherwise.

 

[tappinerp]

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That is exactly what we do with DS. I nurse him to sleep and then when put him in his crib (in our room , next to our bed).

 

[lyttlewon]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sidecaring the crib, that's an interesting idea.<br><br>
I'm an extremely light sleeper, and he's a heavy wiggler. Now that he's rolling over, everytime he moves, I wake up in a panic sure he's falling off, even with the bed bumper thingy.</div>
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Sidecar sounds like a really good option for you because the rails keep in the kid. Where he can climb out you lie and he would have to get past you first. Here is our sidcar.<br><a href="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v72/Lyttlewon/DigitalCamera123.jpg" target="_blank">http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v7...lCamera123.jpg</a><br><a href="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v72/Lyttlewon/DigitalCamera125.jpg" target="_blank">http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v7...lCamera125.jpg</a>

 

[happy & blessed]

I second the no cry sleep solution by pantley, and nighttime parenting by sears. Both good books, with great suggestions. Just remember that your 5 month old will not take kindly to your trying to boot him out of the bed, but it is definitely possible to get him in a crib without CIO. CIO will just make the situation worse in my opinion. Best of luck!