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I have a trip coming up and I had originally planned to leave my LO with my husband. However, I am hesitant for two reasons.<br>
1. My LO is having a very intense attached-to-mom phase. This didn't happen with my son when he was a baby, I think, because his Dad stayed home part-time. She wants me to hold her all the time and Daddy is not an acceptable substitute. (She does let women hold her, which they do almost all day at daycare. I am very grateful for that.)<br>
2. My husband is dues to have surgery soon and he is pretty disabled by his current health condition. It is taxing for him to hold her constantly even if she wasn't screaming at him. He has told me right out that she will be doing a lot of crying when I am gone. He has no objection to CIO as a parenting technique but he respects me and doesn't push that as something we should do. If he wasn't sick he would do whatever he could to care for our baby the way I wanted-for my sake. But he is sick and he has admitted to me that he won't be able to comfort her as much as I would like, especially when he doesn't have the motivation I do of believing in this parenting route.<br><br>
So I am looking for insight and some possible solutions. I have just started "honoring my husband"* with his share of nighttime parenting, encouraging the both of them to learn to work together. Do you think she will be more receptive to him in only 4 weeks?<br><br>
I so want to take my DD with me but I don't know what I would do when I was actually working. It's 3 days and one of the days I am actually leading a presentation. It's definitely not the kind of place she can be with me at. I have an old acquaintance that lives in the city I am travelling to so I may ask her for advice. I feel a little awkward though because I didn't know her very well, she is a friend of a friend.<br><br>
My other option is hiring a babysitter to stay with my husband for the first half of the night. She can help with dinner and bedtime so that goes faster and my husband can get to bed early. Then she could leave around midnight. That way my husband would get a nice chunk of uninterupted sleep. My problem with that is I don't have a babysitter I trust. Our babysitter moved to go to grad school.<br><br>
TIA<br><br>
*my favorite phrase from Dr. Sears
 

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How old is your LO? Is she breastfeeding? I would not leave a nursling. I would also not allow DH to CIO, but that's another issue.<br><br>
I know it's hard to work and be a mama, but they need us so much when they're little and it's just not worth the stress to leave them. Bring your lo with you.<br><br>
If I was in your position, I would get my mom, sister, or a friend to come with me on the trip and watch DD while I was presenting. If you don't have available family, hire another babysitter to come with. I think that bringing your lo with you is going to be the best solution for everyone. That or don't go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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A few assumptions here - she is in daycare during the day, where she is happy. Your big concerns are evening and nightime parenting. I am assuming she is either taking pumped milk or is now formula. I am not sure age matters since you are already leaving her at daycare. (I am a WOHM too, or will be again soon - so I am very use to daycare attachments.)<br><br>
I wouldn't take her away from her home and her daytime life at daycare - way too traumatic. I like your idea of hiring a babysitter to help out in the evenings to give your dh some assistnace. I probably doesn't matter who the babysitter will be since that person's primary responsibilty is to help out in the background and not be an unsupervised caregiver to your child (that will be your husband's job - and when not physically able, can supervise the babysitter).<br><br>
Out of town meetings are part of a working mom life - balancing is hard enough, feeling guilty about leaving your babe must be overwhelming.<br><br>
I really think all will be well. FWIW, all of my children have developed their very very strong attachments when I had to leave them with their father (and their constant routine of daycare).
 

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THat's hard, but unless you can get someone to go with you – a family member or hire a babysitter – I don't think I'd bring your LO with you. You won't be able to get much work done, which would negate the point of the trip, and having to do something like lead a presentation would be tough. I suppose you could hire a babysitter in the city you're going to for the times you're working, but then you'd be dealing with a stranger, which might be tougher than leaving her with DH?<br><br>
I like your idea of hiring someone to help your DH in the evenings - then you'll know that at least someone is there to comfort her and not leave her to cry.<br><br>
I've had to travel for work on three occasions since having DD. I was lucky in that all three were one-night trips, but it was still very hard. Mostly, though, it was hard on me – hard emotionally being away from DD, and dealing with the logistics of pumping and traveling with a lot of milk. DD did much better than I thought she would. Sometimes I think when mama is home they don't want to be with anyone else - as your LO is when she's around you and your DH – but when mama isn't there they can adjust more easily to, say, just being with daddy. Not saying that's always the case, or that it would be the case for your LO, just that at least she'd be with a parent who she knows and is close to, and might not be crying to go to you since you're not actually in the room. Whereas it's hard to see how you could do the work trip with her without having to hire a babysitter or someone to help, in which case she'd be with a total stranger...
 

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I would say that if you can get the help you need while on the trip bring baby with you. If you don't have someone to help though you will be in a difficult situation having to find someone to care for the baby. I took DD on one trip with me when she was 7 months old. DH came with me and cared for her during my business hours. Once she was older, 16 months, I would leave her with her dad. I would have brought them every trip if I could have afforded it.
 
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