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A bit of an ethical dilemma.<br><br>
I am a newly single mom. Was a sahm for 7 years. Have a masters in Library Science and worked as a university librarian for several years prior to kids.<br><br>
Stumbling through the process of returning to work full-time in my field, preferably in ps library so I live my girls schedule.<br><br>
So, just to get something done I accepted a pre-school teaching assistant job in Nov. which started officially Jan. 2. My first week I learned my lead teacher was leaving Feb. 1 and then they asked me to be lead. I turned them down.<br><br>
In the meantime I was asked to interview for a 90 substitute librarian at a local public school. It went well. Now they are offering me a short-term contract, beginning Feb. 1.<br><br>
Ethically, I should not leave the pre-school. But, I need to think of my future and supporting my kids. The librarian spot, though just for the semester, could lead to permanent appointment in my field -- better pay, benefits, in my field.<br><br>
So, what would you do?<br><br>
M
 

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I think it would be fine to take the library job.<br><br>
Since your classroom situation has already changed in the last month now would be a good time to leave and totally acceptable.
 

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A while back, I would say to stay out of ethical reasons.<br>
But since I have been in the worst job that I ever had (they promised the world at the interview and have produced nothing).<br><br>
SO>>>>>>>>><br>
Take it mama! Take it!
 

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you've got to do what's best for you and your family. this is a business relationship. i don't think it's unethical. in the old days folks used to work for the same company from cradle to grave and companies took care of their people. now it's a whole new world.
 

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I agree. Your first priority is to yourself and your family. The new job sounds like it's an opportunity that you shouldn't pass up, imo.<br>
Ethically, I don't really see a problem. You JUST started the new job; it's not like they have a huge amount of time and money invested in you at this point. You didn't take the job knowing you were going to quit in 2 weeks, or something shady like that.
 

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I really think it's better to leave sooner, rather than later. They've hardly invested any time in you at this point, whereas 4 or 6 months or a year down the road, it will be harder for them. You're really doing the right thing on both counts by leaving now.
 

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As a supervisor, that has always been my attitude -- the person's decision to leave (even if shortly after (or even before) being hired) is not going to destroy the company and no one else it going to look out for that person's best interests but themselves.<br><br>
Unfortunately, I tested that theory once -- omg, the dean went ballistic (it was an academic setting). I was stunned; I stayed.<br><br>
As for the pre-school, technically, I should have a contract; they just haven't handed it to me ...<br><br>
Also, I just feel bad letting the little kids down. I was out one day with my sick child and my lead teacher said they all looked stricken until she assured them I would be back on Monday.<br><br>
Sigh.<br><br>
Thanks again.<br><br>
I will come back and tell you how it all turns out.<br><br>
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I was going to say that it being a preschool makes it tougher. It's not so much the admin I was thinking of but the kids. On the other hand, you have to do what works best for you and your dc right now, and that really sounds like the library job.
 

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Take th library job. It is hard sometimes to get into a school system and once you get offered a position, if you don't take it sometimes it hard to get offered it again. Once you are in a school system, you have an easier time staying there permanently. Of course, I don't know how it is where you live. I am just basing if off of where I live.<br><br>
It is hard for the preschool kids, but you have to look long term for your life. The kids will end up with a different wonderful teacher and they will adjust to you leaving. It will be hard for them at first, but they will adjust. If you haven't signed a contract, this gives you opportunity to go.
 
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