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dh was off work for awhile and we kept up a busy lifestyle for the kids, park visits, play centres..... now he is going back to work tomorrow and I don't drive. My options are the back yard and walking to the park. My dd's are 19 months and 34 months old and I have tried taking them in the backyard myself, it is near impossible, both are off in different directions, my oldest always wants to go into the driveway (which is a shared driveway and our neighbour is in and out 100x a day, and I watched him almost run over a neighbourhood toddler), when i tell her it is dangerous she shrugs me off and continues to walk down the driveway, and I can't just leave my yougest by herself!<br><br>
my second problem, when we go for a walk both kids want up and down ( I guess I can use the sling) but what if they both want up, I'm not a heavyweight! And if I bring a stroller, what if my babe wants out and then I'll have to drag around two toddlers and a stroller <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> any ideas! please help me!! I'm very scared <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think you are going to have to choose between getting some help somehow, or adopting a more authoritarian stance with your kids. By that I mean, you tell them that it is time to go to the playground, you buckle them in outside the door, and you walk to the park and they do not get out. Or, you tell your daughter to stay out of the driveway and if she goes in the driveway, you have to immediately take them both inside (or some other consequence of her doing something unsafe).<br><br>
Is there a bus nearby? My kids love a bus.<br><br>
My kids are 15 months apart also.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s: I don't have any advice but I'm in the exact same boat. I don't drive and I have two. They're not both toddlers yet but they will be. DS is 2 (just turned 2) and DD is almost 6 months. I honestly do not ever take them out when I'm alone, I can't handle them. DD gets kind of weird with other people around and cries but refuses to nurse in public, and DS does not listen to me at all and flops on the ground and/or runs away from me all the time, and I've got a really bad pelvic/back problem that prevent me from being able to hold the baby for more than 20 minutes or so, and I definitely can't run at all, or even walk fast, or get off the floor without help...so anyway, thankfully my DH works a weird week and is off on Thursdays and Fridays so we always go to story time on Friday mornings and then the park. The rest of the time we play in back (fenced) once DH is home in the evening. Thankfully we also have a decent play corner in the living room and when all else fails, Elmo DVDs...though I reserve those for emergencies, LOL.
 

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Do they like the stroller? My DS finsd riding in the stroller just as much fun as playing in the park. He likes to point out the trucks and the birds and the trucks and more trucks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Dd is in and out of the stroller but she is older and walks along or runs just fine.<br>
Bring some snacks and water and make the stroller a fun part of the day.<br><br>
Good luck!!
 

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I have very active twin 19 month olds and though we do have a car we often walk. We usually use the double stroller and I bring the Ergo in case one of them really melts down in the stroller (pretty rare at this point.) If you don't have a good back carrier like an Ergo or a frame pack, I highly recommend it. My kids all do much better on my back than in any other type of sling when we are out and about.<br><br>
I do have to agree a bit with pigpokey and I mean to say this as gently as possible. 34 months is old enough to understand that the consequence of going in the driveway is that playtime is cut short. That said, can you fence in an area of your yard so that it is away from the driveway?<br><br>
I have no easy answers. I spend an ridiculous amount of time chasing my toddlers up and down the sidewalk (they are obsessed with collecting all of the neighbors newspapers!). It's exhausting, but it makes me feel much better about my crappy diet and lack of exercise!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have been taking my twin 16 month olds to the park lately. It was scary at first but worth it to get them out of the house. I couldn't imagine doing it without a stroller. They don't have the option to get out before we get to the park and they have to get in it to get home. A few snacks ease the transition. the hardest part is chasing them around once we get there. I think you can do it if you give it try. I agree that your oldest can understand some basic safety ground rules.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think you are going to have to choose between getting some help somehow, or adopting a more authoritarian stance with your kids. By that I mean, you tell them that it is time to go to the playground, you buckle them in outside the door, and you walk to the park and they do not get out. Or, you tell your daughter to stay out of the driveway and if she goes in the driveway, you have to immediately take them both inside (or some other consequence of her doing something unsafe).<br><br>
Is there a bus nearby? My kids love a bus.<br><br>
My kids are 15 months apart also.</div>
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ITA.<br><br>
You can set firm and loving limits. If you are consistent the message will get across.<br><br>
A wagon or stroller is good for walks.<br><br>
If you are having to avoid going outdoors or going in public then (in my opinion) there are not enough healthy limits in the family. I'm sure some would disagree but I see no reason why it isn't possible to take two toddlers on an outing.<br><br>
And I speak from experience. I have a 28 month old and I watch a 36 month old and a 8 month old. We go places a few times a week and outside everyday, weather permitting. I'm not saying children don't act up and get defiant but if you honestly feel unsafe taking them outside then there are probably some boundary issues.
 

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thanks for all the advice, I took my stroller and sling with me today, for a walk to the park and it went well dd2 went in the stroller and dd1 walked beside me the way their, and went into the sling on the way back. My back is killing me but we did it safely and had fun <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup"><br><br>
We went into the backyard and dd2 listened when I told her not to leave the yard!! It was great!!
 

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I don't know...my 2yo DS honestly does not listen or even respond at all when I tell him things, maybe it's his age, maybe I'm a crappy mom, whatever it is...I won't step foot anywhere with him outside without my DH. I keep hoping he'll eventually start listening to me. He usually ignores me completely and if I try to get down on his level and speak to him calmly he freaks out and starts screaming and hitting....he was never like this before...charming =)
 
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