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We're expecting #2 in April and I will have to return to work, probably by July/ Aug. Dd was in part time hdc until last week. It was fine, but our dcp was taking on more kids and very little extra help. Not to mention I had talked my mom into taking dd back so we could try and save some $$$. But my mom is also in need of some $$$, so she's agreed to watch dd for a small monetary fee (I'm going to have to pay someone to watch her if I can't, I figure). Anyhow, at casual mentions of the possibility of my mom watching both next summer, she generally cringes (intentionally or not). So I'm thinking our best bet will be to find some outside care after my maternity leave is done.<br><br>
I'd like for our dc to get more one-on-one (well, one-on-two I should say) care than they might find at a daycare. So I started thinking about nannies. I know absolutely nothing about possibly hiring a nanny. What I'm looking at is working part time, 4 days a week. 3 of those days would be during the week (one is saturday), so I would need someone for possibly 3, 10 hour days, to watch what will be a 3 month old and a 23 month old. What am I looking at for this situation? Would it be better to see if I could get someone to watch the 3 month old and possibly get the nanny or a sitter to watch dd? I'm between two college towns, so I could also opt for finding some students to watch them, but I think I'd feel better with someone very experienced to watch the younger.<br><br>
Talk to me mamas! I'm looking for BTDTs, suggestions, ideas, other things I may not have thought of.
 

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Hi. I'm not a working mama, right now, but I thought I'd give you my thoughts, if you don't mind . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I used to live in the NYC area and considered becoming a nanny with my own dd in tow. I ended up getting a different job (and put my dd in part-time hdc), but it did give me a bit of insight into the world of nannies. First, I see you live in the LA area. I assume that, like in NYC, nannies are probably pretty well-paid in your area. In NYC, a nanny can cost from around $10-14 per hour and up for experienced nannies. It is possible to find lower rates, but that may be due to the nanny having less experience, being an illegal worker, living farther outside the metro area and thus lower going rates, etc. I have heard it is difficult to find a nanny for part-time work, as many of the experienced ones are career nannies and want a full-time job. Taking 3 days per week makes it harder for them to fill the other two days with other work. This doesn't mean you won't be able to find someone, but it's just something I noticed. I think most experienced nannies would be comfortable watching two kids at the same time, but if you want to divide the two up somehow that's an option, too.<br><br>
I don't know if this info is helpful at all, but here you go.<br><br>
Here is a message board about child care in the LA area:<br><a href="http://losangeles.urbanbaby.com/bbs/contents.php3?category=22&city=" target="_blank">http://losangeles.urbanbaby.com/bbs/...egory=22&city=</a><br><br>
They have a lot of posts about nannies. People also post about nanny shares. There are when two families or more share one nanny. This can make it easier to get a good- part-time nanny, because you can go in with another mom to fill in the other two days of the week so your nanny can have full-time hours.
 

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for a part-time situation, maybe you can find a nanny share situation? Someone who watches someone's baby/children full-time but willing to to share a couple days a week. It is done pretty often around here where I live, but the nanny and the other child's parents have to agree on a situation like that, especially if you have two small children to bring into the mix. I would look into it though.
 

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OK I have been a nanny since my oldest was 3 months. I would say if I was in your situation I would want a nanny with her own preschooler, that way the oldest has someone to play with. I have taken my son along when he was 3 months to watch a set of twins 18 months older, and also on other days a boy a year older and 3 years older. Here where I live we have a referral agency that charges a fee to match you up with the right nanny, the right hours, location, availablity. I did it all the way up until I had my second, and I still watch the twins part time, my son call them his "sissies". So that is my 2 cents
 

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I have had much experience with nannies for my now 2 year old. They can be very wonderful to have. You need to know yourself and your needs first. Then you can find out if they match you by asking a lot of questions. I could go on and on, but I just don't have time right now. I'll try to come back later. But in the meantime, check out this site and the message board. There is so much information and it can get you started:<br><br><a href="http://www.nannynetwork.com/index.cfm" target="_blank">http://www.nannynetwork.com/index.cfm</a><br><br><a href="http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboard/cgi-bin/Ultimate.cgi" target="_blank">http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboar...n/Ultimate.cgi</a>
 

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heket -<br><br>
I could literally write a book with all the stuff I'd like to share with you. But before I start, could you just let me know if you are still out there and interested. Because it could take me a hour at least to write all this down, and I want to be sure you still need more opinions.<br><br>
Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm still out here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
I'm definitely interested, if you want to work on something that long. If it's easier to draft it on word, you could send it to me as an attachment: <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a>. Thanks so much for your help and the links!
 

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Mamasaurus, I'm interested too! Will you copy me on what you write? You can either PM me here, or my email is <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a>. I have an 8 week old DD and am considering going back to work when she is 3 months. I would like to find an AP nanny for her that would come to our house every day for FT care.<br><br>
Heket, I hope you don't mind I'm piggybacking on your thread! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Ok! I'm working on it and it will probably take a few days because I'm fitting it in with other stuff. Talk to you soon!<br><br>
A question - do you want the nanny to live-in or live-out?
 

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My mom is a nanny (a WONDERFUL one at that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) and she recently left a family wherre she had 3 boys (ages 1.5, 3, 5) and in August 2003 they added a new little girl. The mom was laid off and decided to be a SAHM so the no longer needed my mom. She had a great time and did 3 8-10 hour days each week. She cried on her last day. (My mom is 50 BTW).<br><br>
Now she is with a new family, who had 2 girls to begin with (ages 4 & 6) and recently had another baby girl. She said it is a breeze and it isn't har to handle a new baby along with the others. My mom is a pretty AP nanny and doesn't feel liek it is too much at all.<br><br>
I guess my point is that I think you could entrust both girls to one caregiver confidently.
 

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We would be looking for a live out nanny. We live in a tiny cottage (well, more of a mother-in-law house), and while I'd love to offer that it wouldn't be possible. Not sure if anyone else would be interested though.<br><br>
Beanie Mama, your mom sounds like the kind of person I'd be looking for! Does she have a twin? :LOL
 

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Heket!!!<br>
I am a nanny here in the SoCal area. I am expecting my first baby in two weeks, and am on maternity leave. I may be looking for new employment when it's time to work again (not because I don't love the family I work for!! I have been with them for 5 1/2 years!) but the hours are very long, and I would like to have my baby with me, at least for the first 6 months.<br>
If you would like any info on nannies, or questions, I would be happy to help you out. I also am putting myself out there in the natural parenting world, in hopes that maybe I can find a perfect match for my profession and my baby and I.<br>
I am still new to this board, so I am not certain there is a way for you to contact me, or if I should give you my email address.<br>
Let me know, I'd be happy to chat with you about the world of nannies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Have a very happy new year!<br>
And congrats on #2!!!<br>
Blessings to you!<br>
Mommaboogie
 

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Well there's the PM (private msg.) option that pops up when you click on my screen name, or you could just email me: <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a>. I'd love to chat with you!<br><br>
And <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome"> to MDC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I sent you an email!!! Thank you for letting in on the PM feature, I was wondering how to do it!!!<br>
Happy New Year!!<br>
-Mommaboogie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce">
 

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Ok, resurrecting this thread to say...<br><br>
mommaboogie and mamasaurus, I'm FINALLY getting back to your emails now that the holidays are over. Thank you both for your help and insights!<br><br>
And for carlasher (or anyone else who knows or does it), where would I go to look or post about a nanny share opportunity? I imagine that I might actually need to share with 2 families though, as I would need someone for 30 hours a week (unless I could get help from family/ friends for about 10 of those hours).
 
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