[naturallyspeaking]

HI,
My son just turned 5 on June 9 and he has been talking back to me and dh for some time... Whenever I/we tell him something he says "no, it isn't/ yes, it is/ no I don't want to/ I want, I want..."
Also when we tell him to do something, it takes loooooong time to get it done... (like change to PJs, getting dressed, put away toys, etc..)
If your dc was like this how did you teach them?
TIA

 

[Spanish Rose]

For the arguing, you have a few options.

You could reflect feelings. "Oh, you don't want to make your bed." And see what happens.

You could ask him questions... "That's an interesting perspective! Why isn't it?"

You could stop giving commands and start asking questions, providng information, or being playful.

You could ignore it and see what happens.

For dwadling you could try the above, and you could also challenge him to a race or contest, try to beat the clock, schedule something fun to happen afterwards, threaten him with a tickle if he doesn't get it done, or do everything in slow motion.

 

[swampangel]

What great ideas, Spanish Rose.

I just wanted to chime in and say that we're going through the same thing. It seems to be quite a common thing for kids this age. I tend to think that a combination of being playful and creative about it as well as imparting the message that it isn't appreciated is good.

It seems that it is natural for kids to receive the message that rudeness is not acceptable. Just like hitting and biting, rudeness can be a verbal assault and I think they need to learn that it isn't the best way. I wonder if giving him ideas about how to handle his crabby feelings might help - like maybe taking a little time alone to read or be in his room or run outside. I've been trying this out...helping him discover tools that work for him when his mood tanks.

I'm just learning so I'll be back here to hear what others have tried! Good luck to you...it can be quite exhausting.