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I know some of us were planning on tandem nursing and just wondering what experiences others have had so far. Are you limiting your older nurslng and how are they responding to that if you are? Do you forget which breast to offer the older one? How do you decide which child gets which breast? Are you nursing both of them together or one at a time?<br><br>
DD is delighted at the return of milk and would nurse 15 times a day if I let her. So far she nurses in the morning when she wakes up, at nap time (or theoretical nap time - I'm not all that successful at getting her to nap), sometimes when she wakes from nap, and at bath/bed time. I try to let her go for at least a couple of minutes but I always have to tell her the boob is going to have a rest and count to three to get her off - she hasn't come off on her own voluntarily.<br><br>
I try to offer her the 'empty' breast - the one that the baby most recently had. However, sometimes I can't tell which one that is.<br><br>
I usually nurse them separately except at bed time. But I can only do it sitting up, with DS in the cradle hold and DD just figuring it our for herself. No way could I lay down and nurse both - my breasts just don't move that far. I tried nursing them both in the bathtub the other night cause DS was fussy during bathtime (he was in his bouncy chair) and he pooped all over the place so that was not a great success.<br><br>
I guess overall it's going fine. I do sometimes feel like I spend all day nursing someone, but I do like it when they're both nursing and I can cuddle both heads and check out the size difference.<br><br>
Oh, and I've noticed that DD is really cutting back on solids, but that doesn't surprise me.
 

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I LOOOOVE IT<br><br>
Theo, to be fair, doesn't nurse much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
he didn't ask till week 2 ... he nurses 2 or 3 times a day. 90% of the time, if he saks and i have to tell him NO (due to ohhh being in the shower, or holding Charles in a position that doesn't make it EASY to give him the other boob) he is fine with it....and if he nurses a long time, 90% of the time he is ok with me telling him "we'll stop soon" ..... usally he doesn't go that long anyway.<br><br>
it is the sweetest thing to see .......... c's little drak head and t's big blond one .............
 

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You're amazing mamas, I couldn't do it!
 

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easier to nurse two than to try to nurse one -- who needs a lot of help -- while fighting the 2 yo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Yeah, it's not as difficult as I expected from some people I've spoken to who've done it. And when baby is eating, toddler is much happier when she is eating than when I am offering to read book, do puzzles etc
 

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we aren't doing it as much as i'd expected. lan just ask's to hold the other/free side while ava nurses <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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theo frequently just wants to sit on my lap with us and hold my hair whiel Charles nurses ...... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> he is actually nurseing a lot less than i expected.<br><br>
but when it is what he wants .... whooo hoooo .... i'd rather give it than tey to rationalize
 

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I am really struggling to figure out how to nurse both of them. But I guess that so far we are doing alright. My milk hasn't come in all the way, it is coming now so that might change things.<br>
DD never stopped nursing and she nurses A LOT still. So now with her baby brother here she wants to nurse constantly. I literally have been sitting on the couch nursing someone for probably 80% of my day. The good part about it is that at my 2 day checkup last night the mw was shocked at how far down my uterus was already!<br>
I don't really pay attention to what side I offer, just what is easiest. And Aimee you are right it is so much easier just to nurse than try to reason with DD while nursing the baby. She is having a hard time adjusting anyway so I am trying to let myself be available to her whenever she needs/I can for now anyway. I just nurse the baby on whatever side feels like the right one and then let DD figure out how to get to the other side. DH has had to help a lot with getting her positioned or holding her off of baby.<br>
I guess its a little overwhelming, but so far it seems to work. And it is the sweetest thing to see the two of them together.<br>
A friend of mine told me once when I asked her about tandem nursing that it was so great because it was something they could share and at their age there wasn't much else they could share. I really liked that idea and it is something I think about often while they are both nursing.
 

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ellery weaned herself this summer/fall, quite slowly, and has only asked to nurse twice since asher's been around. both times, she would suck for a few seconds and then hop down. i honestly think she's forgotten how to nurse!
 

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Well, I'm triandem nursing, can I still join?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br>
My 3.5yo DS and 2yo DD only nurse 1x/ day and that's at bedtime. Up til about month 5 of being pg, it was more frequently, but then I lost my milk and they cut down nursings.<br><br>
I don't nurse more than 1 at a time and babe gets first dibs, which the older ones understand.<br><br>
I did tandem after DD was born and would frequently nurse both at the same time. At the time, DS1 was about 19mo and nursed almost as much as the NB. I didn't fin it too hard, but I have a larger chest. The easiest hold was NB DD in the football hold and DS1 in a semi-cradle/ sitting hold.
 

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Yep, add us to the list.<br>
I have tried nursing both at once, but it's pretty hard for me. The only way I can do it is if I'm sitting with baby in football hold. Also, ds1 had cut way back on nursing and almost self-weaned when my milk dried up around 5-6 months so his latch isn't the greatest anymore.<br><br>
I try to let ds1 nurse after the baby has nursed, but I guess it wouldn't matter too much, it just means that baby would get more hindmilk and maybe not nurse as long if he got on after ds. Right?! So far I have been limiting ds1 a bit and when I ask him to finish or reposition his latch he's happy to do so. It's like he just wants to be sure he still has access.<br><br>
I figure tandeming is a good way to keep up my supply, though since I'll be going back to work two days a week after the new year an will have to pump...
 

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well, i'm tandem nursing, but it's a bit different than the rest of you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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that is how we ALWYAS do it too
 

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Yes, I am figuring out that NB DS in football hold is easiest because there is less of him for DD to bump into as she is trying to position, and she has a problem moving around a lot while on the breast. I am working on getting her to stay still but she doesn't listen to me very well!
 

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I am tandem nursing as I type and so far so good. My 17 month old wants to nurse all of the time, but I am really cutting down on the night time nursing.<br>
At first they each had a dedicated side as my older one had a cold and I did not want to pass that on to Jacob, my newborn. Overall it is going well and Reef always kisses his little brother before starting to nurse. It is so sweet.
 

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when we TN -- as we just finshed -- they both have to be in foot ball hold.<br><br>
I foot ball hold Charles<br><br>
Theo sits either faceing behind me and leans over, or he sits with his legs straddling me and eats -- i like him beside me cuz ther eis less of his body to bump Charles .....<br><br>
i looooove it
 

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Geez, I suck at the football hold. Don't think I've used it once. I just hold him in the cradle hold and DD leans on his feet.<br><br>
I'm feeling a bit guilty about limiting her, but I was doing that before he was born too, so it's not like it's a big change for her, and she doesn't seem to mind - when I tell her it's time for the boob to rest, and I"m going to count to three and then it'll rest, she just pops off right away. I still feel obligated to count to three though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">and she doesn't seem to mind - when I tell her it's time for the boob to rest, and I"m going to count to three and then it'll rest, she just pops off right away. I still feel obligated to count to three though</td>
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I tell Theo "time to put things away" and he will sit up and try to replace the breast pad for me -- not understanding why it doesn't jsut STICK to the boob <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ............... once in a while he resists, but so rearly that if he does i give him a little more time.<br><br>
Course we do like we do with everthing "soon it will be time to be done. " wait "it is almost time to be done, so finish up" wait "ok last nurse nurse" wait "ok we are done help momma put it away" .......<br><br>
Working so far -- fingers crossed ......<br><br>
ps I'd DIE with out football hold, it was all i could do with Theo for WEEKS and I did nothing else with Chalres for days and still can only feed on the left in football ......<br><br>
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Alright, I guess i am the odd one out, but I hate nursing both of them at the same time. Sensory overload for me. I have done it twice and I just wanted to scream....But I am able to nurse ds again without all the bad feeling I had during my pregnancy and that is wonderful. i still have to limit him, I can't do it as long as he likes (which could be hours, 25 minutes is my limit right now for him). He cries when i tell him all done and he not happy when dd nurses, so i am not sure if it cuts down on the jelousy or makes it bigger. I guess it is my fault, though. I enjoy nursing, but one at a time is more then plenty for me. I am still happy i nurse ds, it gives us some extra close cuddle time. Dd fianlly nurses really well after the struggle we had in the beginning. So all in all it is going well.
 
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