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My 4 y/o has NO respect for his or someone else's things. At the moment he's scrubbing the wall where he wrote all over it with red pen.<br><br>
First, I know part of it is a lack of supervision because it usually happens when I'm not in the room/within eye sight but he also shows no feeling about he's done. Have I completely failed him or is normal for a 4 y/o to be completely unfeeling?<br><br>
An hour ago the kids were outside eatting snacks while I was trying to start a fire (we have lots of down branches because of an ice storm). I ran inside quickly to use the bathroom and when I came out I found both water bottles in the fire! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> He told me he threw them in because they were empty and I was completely blown away.<br><br>
I sent him to time out so I wouldn't spank him for it (because I REALLY wanted to hit something) then after I cooled down I asked him about it and he doesn't seem to care at all although he said "I get a new water bottle later." What the heck?! I asked him if he was sad about it and he said yes.... then I asked him if he was happy about it and he said yes again! I honestly don't know what to do.<br><br>
It was getting cold so I sent the boys to go play in the room. Not even 2 minutes later I find them pulling the mattress off the bed and a huge hole in the top of the box spring. That's not something my 2 y/o would do on his own so I'm guessing it was Hunter's idea.<br><br>
Then I find the pen on the wall that must have happened this morning.<br><br>
I have to take toys away fairly regularly because they just dump them all over the floor then walk on them. I know they are little but it's really pissing me off!<br><br>
(Today has not been a good day. There's a post in Parenting Issues about that.)<br><br>
What can I do to teach him to respect? What is a good GD response to these things? Besides having him clean up the messes anyway.
 

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Honestly it just sounds like he needs more supervision right now. I hate when dd does crap like that. Mom needs a break too. But right now he's telling you you have to watch him every second.<br><br>
good luck!<br><br>
-Angela
 

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Tammi, I don't have any advice, buy I"ve been having a lot of the same issues and wanted to let you know you aren't alone. My dd is 3, and her behavior is driving me batty. I look forward to others responses that have btdt.
 

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Sounds kind of normal for when my ds a little younger. I could see him using the logic of throwing something in the fire coz it was empty - but I don't think he would do it in a disrespectful way to others property kwim? I would probably think he came up with a solution that he thought was good. I guess I would just explain that no that wasn't what is done with the bottles and why and give the benefit of the doubt. Same with the wall I guess - for us it happened as a combination of me leaving a marker in the room (didn't repeat that again lol) an also not supervising him - so really a lesson for me in that case.<br><br>
Sorry, I'm not much help, but I think him not *feeling* bad about those things is kind of normal for the age.
 
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