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I am at a loss. My DD is 15 weeks (born 8 weeks early). In the past week(s) she has been showing a need to suck when not at the breast. i.e. sucking on her hands, receptive to anything being put in her mouth. In the NICU she had a paci that she used with the nurses. When she came home, the paci got put away, and she did not use it. So, I brought it out again, and she seems confused by it. She will play with it in her mouth if I hold it, and can't suck on it for a long period of time (it just falls out, she doesn't care). So, I went and bought three other types of pacis to see if she would like them, she doesn't. I mean she will "play" with it while I hold it, but never really suck on it.<br>
I don't necessarily WANT her to have a paci. But, she is very high needs and I do WANT her to be happy and maybe calmed down a bit if I set her down. BTW, when she would suck on the pacifier, I could put her down somewhere and she would just watch me put clothes away, or whatever chre I needed to do with two hands. It was amazing, but not necessary.<br><br>
So, I guess I am just asking for advice, if I should keep trying the pacifier and see if she gets it...if anyone ever had to "teach" their baby how to use one??
 

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I've never tried a paci. If DD wants to suck, I give her my breast <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Trust me, she wants to suck often. When she was tiny, I did chores with her in the sling all the time. Do you have a sling? She would nurse in the sling while I did stuff too. It's a life saver. She probably spent 30-45 minutes out of every 60-90 minutes attached to the breast. She also would sleep w/o unlatching. If I unlatched her, she'd wake up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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I have read that most babies cannot hold them in their mouths for long periods of time. It is an aquired skill. I had a baby in the NICU for 5 days, and I noticed they keep the babies on their backs alot and they keep popping it back in. (BTW I found that the "Soothie" kind they used in our NICU interferred with ds's latch.) I have taught both my kids to use one, because they were very high need and suck alot. I didn't force it on them, but if they were fussy I would give it to them, hold it til they got a good latch on it, and also had to keep popping it in. I did find with ds if I swaddled him with the blanket a little high it could help keep the pacifier in. It was always a really exciting the day they figured out how to put it in theirselves. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer - it's just a matter of if you want this soothing method at your disposal or not. HTH
 

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Thanks 2bluefish- ITA with the soothie being a culprit in her taking a longer time to be able to nurse. She was used to the soothie that the nurses did indeed *keep* putting in her mouth. It makes me sad to think about it, that I should have been the soothie KNIM?<br>
Anyway, this also pertains to what you said, Sage, is that she does not have that strong of a latch. There is no way she could stay latched on in the sling. Infact, when she does nurse, I usually hold the boob up for support, because it will just slip out. That is probably a whole other post that I am enabing her to be a lazy nurser. Additionally, she nurses very quickly, and when she's finished, she's finished (no longer than 10 minutes, EVER).<br>
I have been trying to handle the nursing issues with time and patience, but I do not know when she will be able to just latch on and stay there while I do other things. Esp. with NIP, because I HAVE to be able to see and hold the boob. Needless to say, it is a production. But I have veered off the main course of this thread...I can't help but think these two issues are related, though.<br>
Thanks for the thoughts, ladies, I am open to all suggestions and opinions, if anyone else has any! =)
 

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That's interesting what you said about weak latch. I did feel like the pacifiers helped my kids improve their suck. DS was born at 37.5 weeks, and I wasn't allowed to nurse him right away (long story - stupid NICU). I found that using a nipple shield for a few sessions helped him get a better latch. I used it occasionally throughout the first month. (I also have flatish nipples especially when the milk comes in.)<br><br>
I have to hold my breast up because I have very large "pendulous" breasts (size DDD). I've never been able to nurse in a sling - even propping it up with a cloth diaper, etc. The one time I did it successfully, I was still holding my breast and wearing a cape - we were on vacation and walking to our car, and I managed to walk and breastfeed, but I definately couldn't have done anything but walk. When I nurse I have to stop what I'm doing and nurse - I've learned to appreciate that and wouldn't want to try to do something while nursing anyway. Sometimes nursing sessions are short 10 min, and sometimes more like 30 minutes. I also have had oversupply issues and found my kids would pull off and fuss because milk would keep coming when they want to comfort suck and they were already full. I appreciate the mindset of doing all sucking at the breast, but it just hasn't worked out for us. I recently found out that thumb sucking ran in dh's family, so probably if I wouldn't have introduced pacis, they would be thumb suckers. I thought ds was going to revert to thumb sucking recently, but then he seemed to go back to the paci.<br><br>
Anyway, I've found the whole nursing/baby thing to be just one big learning experience. Every mom is different, every baby is different, and we just have to figure out what works.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's interesting what you said about weak latch. I did feel like the pacifiers helped my kids improve their suck. DS was born at 37.5 weeks, and I wasn't allowed to nurse him right away (long story - stupid NICU). I found that using a nipple shield for a few sessions helped him get a better latch. I used it occasionally throughout the first month. (I also have flatish nipples especially when the milk comes in.)<br><br>
I have to hold my breast up because I have very large "pendulous" breasts (size DDD). I've never been able to nurse in a sling - even propping it up with a cloth diaper, etc. The one time I did it successfully, I was still holding my breast and wearing a cape - we were on vacation and walking to our car, and I managed to walk and breastfeed, but I definately couldn't have done anything but walk. When I nurse I have to stop what I'm doing and nurse - I've learned to appreciate that and wouldn't want to try to do something while nursing anyway. Sometimes nursing sessions are short 10 min, and sometimes more like 30 minutes. I also have had oversupply issues and found my kids would pull off and fuss because milk would keep coming when they want to comfort suck and they were already full. I appreciate the mindset of doing all sucking at the breast, but it just hasn't worked out for us. I recently found out that thumb sucking ran in dh's family, so probably if I wouldn't have introduced pacis, they would be thumb suckers. I thought ds was going to revert to thumb sucking recently, but then he seemed to go back to the paci.<br><br>
Anyway, I've found the whole nursing/baby thing to be just one big learning experience. Every mom is different, every baby is different, and we just have to figure out what works.</div>
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I have the same problem with holding my breasts to nurse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
I would give ANYTHING to be able to nurse DD in a sling or wrap.
 
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