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that homebirth was better? Was it a bad hospital experience? Extensive research? Support from friends/family?<br><br>
Mine was so simple. When I was 18 I took an advanced first aid class at the local YMCA and read the whole book they gave us and I also read the Paramedics text book and the section on childbirth was so basic I left class that night utterly confused that, barring actual medical complications, people would go to the hospital something so basic.<br><br>
Since then I've done more research, but that's what flipped the switch.
 

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For me it was really simple as well. I spent most of my teenage years in and out of the hospital because of a liver condition and I really didn't feel the need to have my child there. I have so many years of baby memories that no birth no matter how perfect could make me forget those.<br><br>
Plus I'm a naturally worrier and I don't trust people and I'm not going to trust people I don't know with my baby.
 

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For me it was seeing my friends go into labor and being unsure of when they should go to the birth center. Twice I was the taxi-birth coach and both times I saw first hand how the anxiety of going v.s. staying had a negative effect on labor.<br><br>
The idea of not having to go travel anywhere really appeals to me.
 

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My step-sister had her first with a MW at home (back when it was illegal), and her second at a hospital (both before I met her). I remember her telling me the horror stories of the hospital and how she would never have another in the hospital. Because of that, I got a job in a Birth Center and learned more about the midwifery standard of care, and watched some women giving birth, went through doula and LC training, and I just *knew*.
 

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For me, it was going through my childbirth educator and doula training, a combination of education, reading, discussion, and attending hospital births...I went from thinking hospitals were best (before I was ever interested in birth) to thinking I'd like to use a birth center (when I started my training) to thinking homebirth was the best (during my training) and now (3 years later) I'd love an UC! It is a slippery slope!
 

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for me, it was when i found out i was pg with ds. i felt so powerful and capable that i just wanted to give birth in a sunny little meadow full of wildflowers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> unfortunately neither that nor a homebirth was an option at the time, nor did my dh support the idea. we had a horrible hospital birth. fortunately since then a midwife has moved to the area so we're able to have the birth of our dreams this time (dh is 100% in favour of a homebirth, and before she knew this is what we already have planned my mom actually suggested it!)
 

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That's exactly how I realized HB was for me. I thought that HB was great, just not for me for a while and then started doula and LC training. I had friends who had babies at home, but it never occured to me that I would want to do that. One girlfriend had a BC birth that was awesome and then went on to have a HB and after much research and reading and watching all the cool videos, I knew that I wanted to have a homebirth. I feel safest knowing that my chances for surgery are less than 5% with a midwife rather than 30% or more (depending on the area) with an OB. Besides, I feel it would be the worst thing in the world to be in active labor in a safe and comfortable environment, only to have to load myself in a car and drive somewhere to have my baby. I can't even fathom it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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There was never really anything that flipped the switch per se, but I knew the closer I got to giving birth that I wanted to stay at home. With the info from my mw and the reading I had done, I knew it was safe and I felt very comfortable with the idea...even with all the nay sayers around me (well, my family anyway).<br>
I do live in a community where homebirths are pretty common, so it didn't seem like I was attempting anything totally unusual.
 

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The icestorm of 1998 in the North East, pretty much the whole state was shut down. I had a dr's appointment, 1st appointment, 1st pregnancy. I drove 30 miles in inches of ice just to sit in an office for over 2 hours only to be told by the nurse that the dr couldn't make it in.<br><br>
I went to lunch at DH's restaurant and talked with the owner who herself just had a homebirth a few months earlier. We exchanged numbers, I became her babysitter and I met her homebirth midwife. I was sold after that.
 

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When I was 15 I babysat for a family that birthed 2 of their kids at home. It just seemed really clear to me that it was best. Then, I had a few friends that had hospital births before me... totally scared me!<br><br>
When we were surprised by our first preganancy I never even interviewed a doctor. I started calling homebirth midwives right away. My DH wasn't so sure, but after he met my favorite MW of the group, she told him, "Wherever the pregnant woman says she wants to give birth, believe her."
 

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I was what 15 or 16 when I saw an episode of Dr. Quinn and the word mw was mentioned. I asked my mother what a mw was and she told me basically a lady who catches babies in homes. Everything just clicked. I knew exactly thats the way it should be (I had already witnessed a hospital birth by that time). Never looked back.
 

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four months before i *oops* got pg, i had given my best friend (who wants to be a midwife) spiritual midwifery (but i read it first <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">) we then saw ina may speak a couple months later. those two things made me sure i wanted a hb b/f i got pg, luckily they happened when they did...i honestly had never ever thought/heard about hb until i was about 22 or so, i think!
 

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I was leaning towards homebirth but chickened out and went with a hospital based midwife who "allows" waterbirths. But as my pregnancy went on I realzed that the hospital based midwives are so much under the control of OBs and that I would still have to deal with OBs trying to nose in and intervene if I didn't have the perfect "normal" labor so at 20 weeks pregnant I called up a homebirth midwife and I felt so much comfortable being cared for by someone who didn't have to answer to OBs.
 

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My mom was a homebirth midwife when I was growing up, so I was surrounded by the natural, homebirth community, and never realized that women actually chose the hospital over home until I was 12yo or something like that. Homebirth has always been the "norm" in my life, I would never choose anything different. However, since becoming a doula, I have also realized that homebirth actually isn't "better" for some women, and have come a long way in accepting that reality as well, after attending some really wonderful hospital/birthcenter births.
 

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My mom had an okay hospital birth with midwives when I was 18. My sister picked up a serious infection from the hospital. She was born healthy, but ended up in nicu for a couple weeks with an iv, various meds, spinal tap, etc. That is when I realized it was odd to have a healthy baby in a hospital.
 

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After our first son was born in the hospital under the care of midwives who actually told my DP "I don't know why you're in so much pain" We decided with the next one, we weren't going anywhere, that the midwives would be coming to us!
 

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When I was 19 and pregnant, I was seeing a local OB and just assumed I would have to have my baby at the hospital because I didn't think there were any mws in my area. I wanted to be as natural as possible and naively thought that I could be in control of my own birth. Then, I heard someone say that my OB didn't believe first-time moms could have babies w/out an episiotomy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Then an aquaintance had a hb and told my "adoptive" father-figure about it and how great the mw was and the whole experience. She sold him on it, so he decided to sell me on it.<br><br>
So, I got this lecture from a huge, dirty logger-guy with a non-filter hanging out of his mouth about how I needed to meet this mw and have a hb.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I called her and met her and she loaned me some books and I did some research and by the time I was about 14 weeks along, I decided I was going to have a hb. I'm SO GRATEFUL to that dirty ol' logger and the aquaintence for introducing me to my mw and I'm eagerly anticipating my 3rd home waterbirth!
 

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New to this forum, but this thread caught my eye. My first baby was born in a hospital with (almost) all the trimmings: elective induction with pitocin, AROM, narcotics, epidural, etc. Horrible experience. At the beginning of my pgcy with #2 I was planning a natural birth in the same hospital with the same doc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: As I began reading more about birth I realized that I would really be happier if I didn't have tell people all the stuff I didn't want. When I started reading that home birth is safe I was overjoyed!<br><br>
Three home births later I would need a definite medical reason to birth in a hospital again....
 

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I was apparently prepared by a neighbor lady who espoused the benefits of homebirth from the time I was 7 or so. I don't really remember that though.<br><br>
What convinced me was reading birth plans. If you have to walk around that many eggshells it's not a place I want to be.<br><br>
The difference between hospital birth stories and homebirth stories was just icing.
 

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I haven't had a homebirth yet, but for me, it's very simple. I've been cut open three times when I didn't want to be. I don't want it to happen again. I don't want to spend my whole labour fighting about it. This baby will be "coming home" straight from my body, not from the hospital.
 
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