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so we are learning to rely less and less on mass-produced items and we are pretty crunchy, but we have a lot that seems to tie us to this chaotic life: 220K in student loans and we own no home and have no savings and still lots of debt, plus i am a city LOVER and barely made it through 4.5 years in the suburbs since leaving chicago.

truthfully i don't even know what the word homesteading means, but here are our current "independent" sorts of parts of our lives:
homebirthing
simple home business
homeschooling/unschooling
cloth diapering
mama cloth
some family cloth
no more boxed cereals (wahhh)
CSA farm shares
trading with WAHMs and IF a mom makes it i won't buy it at target (soap, shampoo, clothing, tea, wool, toys, bags, insect repellant.....etc)

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we rent a house (kind of a townhouse....no chickens allowed)
we have no yard (no growing our own food)
we have 220K in student loans (so dh's job seems tied to a city where the 100K per year is in the realm of possible)
we want to be near a vibrant and dynamic people-loving church community
we still rely on lots of technology (internet, libraries, health food stores)

how could we learn about homesteading. lay out a plan, figure out a way to simplify and keep/start paying those loans and really live a simpler life.

i want to start a 6 month total decluttering (we own very little big stuff...borrowed tvs...no stereos or furniture sets or major appliances and we don't own a home...although a weehouse sounds really nice)

thanks for listening and making suggestions. i think we could do rural living or homestead near tucson or somewhere totally different. this is the time for our family to make changes and our kids are ready to commit and we can work together. my WAHM stuff can help provide a lot and requires only wool and my hands.....

hmmmm......
 

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Check out this site to get an idea of what homesteading today sort of means. I like this definition, but really homesteading could mean a lot of things. It has a lot to do with being more self sufficient.

http://www.cooperativeindividualism....esteading.html

I guess my suggestion would be to find a place that you can stay at for a few nights in the country. Maybe if you know someone who farms or has a place similar to what you think you would like. That way you could see if you could actually handle living in the country. I love the idea of homesteading myself, but I don't truly think when push comes to shove that I could do it.

You might also find some info on the off the grid forum. There is lots of info on country living. I don't know if I have been much help, but hopefully a little.
 

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So, are you talking about Urban Homesteading or just Homesteading in general? We live in the city, although we have a house and a decent back yard, and I think I'm interested in Urban Homesteading. We use as little nonrenewable energy as possible (ride bikes or walk instead of drive, use fans instead of a/c when we can, line dry clothes, etc), grow as much of our food as we can, and we are planning on getting a couple of chickens for eggs. I need to learn how to sew, though, so I can make clothing and curtains and stuff...
I've seen some pretty good blogs and websites on Urban Homesteading. Mostly stumbled upon them while researching keeping chickens in the city.
 

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So, are you talking about Urban Homesteading or just Homesteading in general? We live in the city, although we have a house and a decent back yard, and I think I'm interested in Urban Homesteading. We use as little nonrenewable energy as possible (ride bikes or walk instead of drive, use fans instead of a/c when we can, line dry clothes, etc), grow as much of our food as we can, and we are planning on getting a couple of chickens for eggs. I need to learn how to sew, though, so I can make clothing and curtains and stuff...
I've seen some pretty good blogs and websites on Urban Homesteading. Mostly stumbled upon them while researching keeping chickens in the city.
well i was talking about rural homesteading but dh thinks learning to live a sustainable lifestyle in the city is truly the new frontier and an important part of our future (globally and individually)

right now we cannot line dry clothing (no yard) or have chickens or go without ac or bike full time (we live in the desert where it is over 100 degrees more than half the year) but we do go years without using any heat and could try hanging clothes indoors more often... and kitchen gardening?

i am just now learning to sew.... but with WAHM and homeschooling stuff i do very little sewing for my family so far....my stitches are sadly uneven unless i do them all my hadn (i did that for halloween costumes once...thousands of stitches and it was HARD...lol)

yesterday i decluttered about 100 pounds of stuff with hardly an effort and we do that often, so we have a LONG way to go!
 

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It sounds to me like you are doing ALOT already to live more sustainably! If you are interested in rural homesteading, I would definitely check out the country living forum.
 

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I rural homestead (a little bit) but I could totally see doing something like it in a city. You would need a yard to grow vegetables (enough to can and freeze anyway). The beauty of the city is public transportation. You can cut your dependency on cars and you're halfway there!

Suggested reading: "This Organic Life", www.casaubonsbook.blogspot.com

I think your DH has a point about the value of sustainable living in the cities.

It's a long process, take your time so you don't get discouraged.
 

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I love the path to freedom site too. Very inspiring!

And I agree with your dh- I think that it is possible to live more sustainably in the city than in the country, if you make it a conscious choice. Way less driving. But there is also more consumer temptation in the city.


Personally, I think you just have to decide what's best for your family and go for it. Then do it in the most sustainable way possible. I think the biggest hurdle is mental. We moved from a city to small town almost 2 years ago, and it took awhile to "downshift" to the pace of life here. I am so glad we did, and now as we prepare to move 13 miles out of town, it will be another downshift. But I have spent the last 2 years dreaming of all the things we will do when we get to the country. What's your vision for your family? How do you imagine yourself, dh and your kids spending their days?
 

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ideally dh is still working a job he loves and we are still homeschooling and our kids are surrounded with people who are different than them and museums and plays and art exhibits and people playing paint bucket drums and rapping on the subway and we would have festivals and yummy uber-cheap ethnic food and a compact space. we would go a church like the brooklyn tabernacle where the walls and the streets shake on sunday morning and the membership is diverse and welcoming. our kids would have lots of high school choices for soth if they wanted (art schools and music schools and science and math academies) and i would not have to drive (didn't even learn to drive until age 25 -- 6 years ago)

but i LOVE the outdoorsy stuff too

camping, exploring, getting dirty, cooking over a fire, the kids having a safe space to climb and wander and finding bugs and animals and natural wonders and room to breathe and run and i love OLD odd houses. i have never mowed a lawn or gardened either....lol

but i have never been that far from an indian buffet or a trader joes....lol

i also don't want dh needing to commute 3 hours to work
 

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OP, have you considered looking into purchasing really cheap rural land from tax sales? You could find a few acres, have some space to do at least some of the things you described as outdoorsy and not have to make a move that your family may not yet enjoy- the commute for instance. It could be like what other people have- a summer house, but instead, an out-of-town homestead.

We live in a very small town and so this isn't at all like you described, but it's my best example. A friend of ours has a sled dog team that he keps on his hundreds of acres outside of town. He is taking this summer to make a small farm on the land, including goats, chickens and cover crops (alfalfa, clover and grass) for grazing. He paid dirt for his land and it has a large section of burned forest, which is where he is now making his farm. The burn wood is awesome! And the soil is easy to move and cultivate now that it's been burned.

Anyway, his situation had me thinking about some of what you wrote; we love the sights and sounds of different cultural activities around us, seeing different ethnicities, having access to museums and learning opportunities that don't exist here, but we also want to have the real experiences of living in connection with the earth and all it's wonders from the sloi to the sky, the rolling hills and clear water, yum. I think if you could do this, you'd completely have the best of both worlds and would be the envy of very many! Me especially!

Is this even remotely possible for you? I know you mentioned your debt, but some land sales are exceedingly cheap, like you could pay for it with a few paycheques. Even a couple of acres would suffice- or you might find others who would do that with you and be able to work out buying it together.
 

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those are great ideas and i would totally love the land....but now dh is set on urban homesteading...thinking it is really important globally for us all to learn to live in small spaces consciously. usually i am the uber-passionate one so I am really excited that he likes the idea.

we are two years past bankruptcy with the student loans still to pay off (mine in default and dh's rehabbing at 800 per month.

we are in a pretty tight spot financially but trying.

i love the idea of a little land somewhere someday
 

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Do you have a rooftop, balcony, fire escape, or even a sunny window where you could start growing things? Even if you had a tomato plant and some fresh herbs, it would be so satisfying to grow them and feed them to your sweeties. You could also hang dry clothes in a hallway or on a porch/balcony. If you are not allowed to do this in your building, find a new situation and move as soon as your lease is up. I lived in an apt once that came with a composter in the yard and a big porch for growing herbs and drying laundry! It was awesome! I'm sure something like that exists where you live.
Also a part of urban homesteading is buying local foods and other products. I'm familiar with your WAH biz, and it must be very grounding for you to make all that beauty for people. Could you sell your wares at the farmer's market, too? I know how the mamas at hc go nuts over your stuff....
It sounds corny, but I think the best thing you can do now is to write down your lifestyle goals, and find ways to make each one happen. Keep dreaming and doing, and you'll get there, sweet mama.
 

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Do you have a rooftop, balcony, fire escape, or even a sunny window where you could start growing things? Even if you had a tomato plant and some fresh herbs, it would be so satisfying to grow them and feed them to your sweeties. You could also hang dry clothes in a hallway or on a porch/balcony. If you are not allowed to do this in your building, find a new situation and move as soon as your lease is up. I lived in an apt once that came with a composter in the yard and a big porch for growing herbs and drying laundry! It was awesome! I'm sure something like that exists where you live.
Also a part of urban homesteading is buying local foods and other products. I'm familiar with your WAH biz, and it must be very grounding for you to make all that beauty for people. Could you sell your wares at the farmer's market, too? I know how the mamas at hc go nuts over your stuff....
It sounds corny, but I think the best thing you can do now is to write down your lifestyle goals, and find ways to make each one happen. Keep dreaming and doing, and you'll get there, sweet mama.
thanks so much for your thoughtful comments

we actually have a patio with a foot or so of dirt and a large wall. I hang wool and diapers to dry so why not clothes? I am so silly

and we will plant some things this weekend (i have to figure out desert gardening) and we have a great balcony upstairs unused because we don't want the kids messing around out there but some plants could work...there is a door from our bedroom out to it and we could easily find a shadier spot)

i am super excited.

what can i grow INDOORS?

and i ordered a FREE composting unit from the city but since we live in what is essentially a townhouse. i might try them again. they said 2-4 weeks and it has been 8 MONTHS!!

baby steps and we get this place for a steal (1100 per month for a 2006 built 2100 sq foot house) and until we are ready for a big move we like that we are renting from a woman cutting us a deal and in a great place for the kids. a big move is only 1-2-3 years away I am sure! our lease is until next may
 

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First of all,
Check out this site http://noimpactman.typepad.com/blog/
This guy is doing a really cool no impact project while living in the city. It is not urban homesteading, but he has lots of links to other projects like that.
Second of all, was this thread supposed to be in the homesteading forum?
Third of all, can I ask what the degrees were in? I have never ever heard of student loan debt that high. I am not being snarky or belittling your choices in any way, I am genuinely curious.
 
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