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Ok i've never nursed a "toddler", I'll admit i use to think it was "weird" and "gross", but now i see how great it can be. My first goal for nursing dd was 1 year, well i'm about 3 months away from that point and i have been asked that questions many times when do you plan to wean, and i find my self saying well the WHO says you should bf till atleast 2 and that ends the discusion, but i know CLW can be great but i don't know if i can do it. I really need to get to some LLL meetings and surround my self with it being the "norm" to nurse a toddler, b/c of the looks i'm already getting and allison is only 9 months but look about 1 year or more big girl! But i just need some support and need to be told that i can do it, dd is more the likly my last baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> which really breaks my heart!!! So i want what's best for her and I!!!!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Way to go on making it this far!!! Keep it up. I love the LLL meetings - it is helpfull to have some encouragement. I think it's great you're going for 2+ years!!!!!!
 

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I'm sure the LLL meeting will help me out some, i loved the conferance i went to for the wic office i work for all the mamas were so nice, and i was NEVER once judged for being a "young" mama like i am with any mainstearm crap i attend. I just wish the meetings were closer to me, they are about 1 hour drive there and 1 hour drive back, but there is on next thrusday night and if i can get some one to keep my older to kids (shoudln't be a problem since grandma love to do this now that she's don with school (teacher)).
 

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You can do it, mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I was introduced to the concept of EBF through LLL, but at 5.5 years, we've outlasted them all! "Them" meaning the people in my LLL group. :LOL
 

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becca011906, I was like you when I started breastfeeding my daughter. The first few months were pure hell but I planned on nursing for the first year and I wasn't giving up. Got to one year and figured I would just let her decide when to quit. I do get the "you should wean her" comments every so often but I have started to tell people that when it is their breast feeding my daughter <b>then</b> they will get to say when she nurses. :LOL<br><br>
You can do this! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> My daughter is only 21½ months old but looks more like three. Ebf is something between you and your daughter, not anyone else. Don't let other people's opinions change your mind.
 

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becca011906,<br><br>
Before I was pregnant I remember seeing a woman breastfeeding her 18 month old, and I though it was disgusting, and I vowed never to bf that long. Well, dd came along, and dh encouraged me to bf for at least 6 months. I consented grudgingly. Then one year. Now we're a child led weaning family. and I wouldn't have it any other way. I have been fully converted!!! I get comments left and right from family and some friends about how I should wean her, how I'm making things hard for myself, how she'll 'never be indenpendent'...the same old stuff. I'm too nice to tell them where they should stick their advice, but it makes me mad anyways.<br><br>
It's HARD to continue bfing amounst the tide, and where I live there isn't really an active LLL group with bfing toddlers so I'm pretty much alone.<br>
One thing I have tried to do is to stand my ground and be honest with others about my bfing, without feeling embarrassed or 'weird' (sometimes easier said than done). As it turns out, when I've talked about it and have been 'proud' of it, I have found two other moms bfing toddlers in the various playgroups we go to, and we since stick together like glue.<br><br>
BRAVO!! Well done!!! Pat yourself on the back for bfing, for ENJOYING bfing, and for doing it for so long. You're doing the best thing possible for you and your baby!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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i just want to say i was the same ds is 6 months and the question of weaning is often i say at least a year to stop the question and in the back of my mind i say or 2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> i go to breastfeeding group every week and get as much saport as i can and i just want to say you can do it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ok i've never nursed a "toddler", I'll admit i use to think it was "weird" and "gross", but now i see how great it can be. My first goal for nursing dd was 1 year, well i'm about 3 months away from that point and i have been asked that questions many times when do you plan to wean, and i find my self saying well the WHO says you should bf till atleast 2 and that ends the discusion, but i know CLW can be great but i don't know if i can do it. I really need to get to some LLL meetings and surround my self with it being the "norm" to nurse a toddler, b/c of the looks i'm already getting and allison is only 9 months but look about 1 year or more big girl! But i just need some support and need to be told that i can do it, dd is more the likly my last baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> which really breaks my heart!!! So i want what's best for her and I!!!!</div>
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So when I started bf dd I said I would try, then dh said I had to bf for at least one year - I then went to LLL meetings - I love them. Dd CLW a month ago - it's far better knowing that it's your child's decision, or that's what I find. I feel far more secure in her deciding to wean rather than me telling her it was time. I never thought I would be the type of person to endorse CLW or even someone to go through it but just take one day at a time. When Freya was just over two a lady on the train stared and stared and was really very rude eventually saying that wasn't my daughter to big to nurse, I said but she hasn't all her teeth yet and children must nurse until all their teeth are in and the WHO recommends two years as a minimum (or something like that) I also said that if she didn't want to see my dd nursing she could move as there were plenty other seats on the train.<br>
She moved!<br>
Of course you can do it - try not to count the days just take each day as they come, you'll be surprised at how fast the time goes by.
 

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Becca...I started out "giving breastfeeding a try" for 3-6 months. My dh is the son of a LLL Leader and really encouraged me to breastfeed. When I walked into my first LLL meeting when my first ds was 3 weeks old and saw a mama nursing an 18 month old I thought it was very weird and that the child was HUGE!!! At 3 months, I decided to continue nursing to 6 months...<br><br>
Fast forward 6.5 years ... my first nursling self-weaned on his fifth birthday. At the time of his weaning, I had been triandem nursing him, his little brother (19 months younger) and his little sister (3.5 years younger). I had not only nursed my child past a year and allowed him to wean in his own time, but had nursed him through one pregnancy and tandem nursed him and his brother through another. The longer I nursed, the more nursing mamas I surrounded myself with and the more I learned about nursing, the more my views and opinions and feelings changed.<br><br>
Some of us go into nursing confident in our ablilities to nurse a child, confident that child-led-weaning is the way to go, etc. ... and some of us evolve as our nursing relationship matures. Remember...nursing a child who still has the need to nurse is *normal*.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> to you and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> for coming here for support and encouragement. It sounds like you really want to move forward in your nursing relationship with confidence ... good for you!!!
 
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