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I got into the birth pool for the first time last night, and I started to freak out about going through that pain again, and I broke down crying. DH was reassuring me that it will be easier this time.<br><br>
My pregnancy has been a lot different this time. I've been having contractions since 18 weeks, so hopefully my body will be more ready this time.<br><br>
I want some good stories, please!
 

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YES!!! My first birth was 37 hours, posterior, agonizing, traumatizing. My second, at home in the water, was 6.5 hours, very tough for a few of those, but not scary or traumatizing at all. And short. I'd do it again.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">nehug
 

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My second birth was a breeze. Everything already stretched out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Recover was also much easier and faster.
 

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Oh goodness yes, it can. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> My best friend had an awful first birth. She fractured her coccyx when her ds's (huge) head was delivered. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> It was very very very very traumatic. When she got pg with her dd, she was terrified. Her dd slid out in about 3 pushes, little to no tearing, and her coccyx was just fine. She was amazed at how much easier it was.<br><br>
Lots of women have much better second births. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Birth one: hospital, almost 28 hours of labor after water broke (probably 12 active), totally exhausted, asked for an epidural in transition, got Pit 24 hours after water broke. A good experience, but definitely very difficult.<br><br>
Birth two: homebirth, less than 4 hours of active labor, not easy, not painless, but over quickly and a really cool experience.
 

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Oh most definetly. You've already done it once. You know what to expect. You know the pain won't kill you. And if you are preparing for a unmedicated birth, then you have some strategies to manage the pain.<br><br>
You can do it mama! Think positive <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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my second was definately easier... during the labor i freaked out a bit b/c it got pretty intense when i figured i had many more hours to go...but i was actually in transition! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> much less active labor, much less pushing, much shorter labor! and the transition to two kids went so much smoother than 0-1. good luck!
 

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Oh for sure. In fact, unless there was some outstanding issue (malpositioning, etc) I would say nearly everyone feels their second birth is easier.
 

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First Birth: Looong labour, back labour, 3 hours 45 minutes pushing, tore to 3rd degree, long recovery and many stitches.<br><br>
Second birth: 2.5 hour labour, homebirth, 2 pushes, small tear....easy peasy recovery.<br><br>
Both were 9lbs+ babies.
 

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I think I could be more helpful if you explain why your first birth was so bad.<br><br>
Did you like your care provider(s)?<br><br>
Was your dp helpful?<br><br>
Did you walk, drink water, use various positions and music and water and massage to help during your labor?<br><br>
Did you have too many people at your birth or were otherwise uncomfortable with the general situation?<br><br>
Did you take classes to learn to relax during labor?<br><br>
Was your baby positioned poorly?<br><br>
Did you go into labor afraid, or expecting it to be terrible?<br><br>
There are so many things that can affect your experience. I found my second childbirth to be the easiest, third was the hardest (my homebirth - though I loved it) because baby was OP.
 

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FB--13 hrs, back labor, 45 min pushing<br>
SB--5 1/2 hrs, back labor, 3 pushes, trying not to because we weren't to BC yet. Both intense, both hurt. But I knew what was happeing, which helped immensely and it was shorter. Much better. HBing #3 anyday now...I'll let ya know how that goes, lol!=)
 

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Absolutley YES YES YES!! I pushed for 1 1/2 hours and it was horrible for my first birth (dont get a cervical block, makes baby's Heartrate go down, and I didn't have much urge to push until crowning.<br><br>
My seconed birth was WONDERFUL. No pain meds or anything. I was determined I could do it and I did!!!!! I was worried I wouldn't have the urge to push, but my body just took over and the baby was out with only a few minutes of pushing. MY doc said 15 min, but I wonder if it wasnt less. It felt like about 3+ minutes of pushing! I just went with what my body wanted to do!!<br><br>
My third birth was also wonderful, Not that painful (no pain meds this time either) until the last part, and just plain nice!!
 
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