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My dd will be 2 in 11 days (Geez, I just typed that with the numbers reversed and that really would be a different story, huh?) Barring any really strange occurrences, she'll be happily still nursing 4-6 times a day when she turns 2. We are still a very happy nursing couple.<br>
Due to one thing and another, my other babies were all weaned before they were 2, so this is new territory for me. So what's it like nursing a 2 year old? What can I expect for frequency? And what about public nursing? Dd is still nursing in public quite a bit since we are out and about to her sibs' events all the time. We're starting to get some looks, though.<br>
Anyway, overall I'm quite happy to still be enjoying our nursing relationship, and am wondering what the future holds!
 

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It's fun.<br><br>
They really start to show some appreciation around that age if I recall correctly. They also can be quite insistant too. Be bold, look people in the eye and smile if they look at you, and nurse her before she gets to full blown "I want it NOW!" stage. If you haven't yet, teaching some nursing manners is a good idea too: no shirt lifting, no twiddling, that kind of thing.<br><br>
I found nursing to be a wondeful tool for recovering from the occasional tantrum, better yet is the use of it to prevent such.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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oh, nursing a 2 yr old is a wonderful experience! It is definitely an important tool in my pocket for tantrums...although my dd doesnt' usually do that much. As far as doing it in public...I still carry dd in a sling on my hip and I let her slouch down and nurse...people think she is sleeping! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
She turns 3 in Aug and we never get the opportunity to nurse in public much anymore...she is becoming very independent and I can't slow her down to nurse much!<br>
Today she wanted her cup that I left in the car...I told her if she was thirsty she could have some baba...she said No I want my cup!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
So...she is 'self-weaning'...<br>
but this past year has been great...<br>
Oh...did I mention she needed 2 stitches in her forehead (ran into the corner of the wall...) and I nursed her all the way to the ER and even nursed her while the Dr was examining her...she was so calm adn patient! Dr couldn't believe it...<br>
yep, I'm glad I nursed well into the 2nd yr...and I'll keep going as long as she'll let me!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My dd is an unusual 2 year old (at least in our family!) as she isn't really into tantrums or really much in the way of opinionated behavior - except wanting to nurse when and where she wants to! She has nice nursing manners except for that part. She doesn't pull on my shirt. My first was a twiddler, and I've made darn sure none of the rest are! She plays with her own hair while she nurses, and hums a lot of the time.<br>
Meiri, you're right that she is pretty appreciative these days. She's very verbal and will say "I want nursie! You get book to read, sit down chair, I want nursie now!" (At home we like to nurse in our recliner, and I often read or sit with the laptop) But when she's done, she'll say "I want all done. Tanks, mommy!" And she will gently pat my shirt down.<br>
Think there's any chance I could now teach her a new code word? When she was just 9-10 mos, she started to sign milk when she wanted to nurse. I was so excited she could communicate, I would exclaim "Oh, you want to nurse!" every time. Before long she was yelling "Nurse!" while she did here sign. Wasn't long before she was just saying "Nursie!" and forgetting the sign. Now she is very verbal. The worst part of nursing her in public is having her asking loudly "I want nursie, now!" That, more than the actual nursing is waht makes folks look at us.<br>
Really, though, often my dh picks her up after work, and gets all the kids to a basball game, or swim practice or whatever, and I meet them there, so usually she hasn't nursed in 9 hours or so and really wants to. She's not that demanding at home when I'm home with her and she has full access.
 

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I have a VERY spirited 2 year old, prone to both tantrums and accidents. So I am often lifting a screaming and/or crying boy up to nurse. He still nurses quite a bit- several times an hour at home, about once every two hours if we are out and about (and not sitting down!). He says "nurse me little bit, please" or "nurse minute?" and often says "thank you mommy!" when he's done. He also loves to talk about the baby (who's really an 8wk fetus-heh). He is a 1 boob nurser, so the other boob is "baby's boob", and he says "baby nursing inside belly". He's a twiddler- a habit he picked up recently and is pretty impossible to curb. It drives me NUTS- I have to hold his hand firmly away from me. We still nurse in public regularly, and I haven't really noticed any weird looks but I get them all the time so I wouldn't anyways.
 

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I don't see why you couldn't teach her a new word for nursing. I forget exactly when DS created his word for it, which we adopted. Sometime in toddlerhood though. I remember it taking awhile to get DD to use that word. We'll never known if she'd've created her own word or what it might've been--hazard of being second child I guess.<br><br>
FTR: his word was "to onnee", or "2 onnee", or was it really to "on knee"? By the time he could understand the qustion, he couldn't remember how he was thinking of it: noun, verb, place...
 

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Nursing a 2 year old isn't much different than nursing a 10 month old. Just go with it. The biggest difference, and the most wonderful part of it is how the child will be able to verbally express how much she loves to nurse! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I have no problem with my currently 18 month old asking to nurse in public (but she is nowhere near as verbal as her sister was at this age). Funny how your comfort levels go way up the longer you've been nursing (and nursing in public). I think also, part of it is that I am still nursing my 4yo too, so my 18mo DD is still such a small baby in my mind's eye. And it's funny how people react differently when you have more confidence and the mindset that it's no big deal versus when you are a little uncomfortable with NIP. If you act like it's perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of, people treat you the same. If you act like there's maybe something wrong with it, if you are nervous or ashamed, people will treat you like you are doing something wrong.
 

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I have a pretty high comfort level with NIP. We've always been a busy family, and my dc are sort of spread out, so everybody nursed in public a fair amount. I had ds when I was in high school, so he nursed at basketball games, wrestling matches, and all over the place. The middle 2 nursed at the older ones' events, at church, at the grocery store, you name it. Folks mostly don't realize I'm nursing a toddler - until she starts talking about it.<br>
This girl is getting much harder to lug around, though! She's 95% for height. I can still squeeze her in the sling nursing, but just barely. She has to lie down to nurse. I'm thinnish, very small-breasted, and any sitting up and scrunching down to nurse method just doesn't work for us. It's much harder to carry around a nearly 30 lb nursling than it was a 15 lb one.<br>
I do enjoy how much she is able to talk about nursing. And since she doesn't drink any non-mama milk, we'd need to come up with another calcium source if she weaned. Also, she's always had a sort of pinchy latch (she was tongue-tied initially and always tended to resort to not opening wide when she was tired.) Now that she can understand me, I was able to teach her a nice wide open latch - so nursing her is more comfortable all the time now than it ever was!<br>
She's nursing to sleep in my arms now. She nursed on one side, then said "I want your other one nursie." My dh from across the room said "Why not my nursie?" She said "No, only mommy's nursie!"<br>
Overall, we've had such a nice nursing relationship. This 2 year old nursling stuff is just new. But then again, so was nursing a newborn nearly 17 years ago!
 

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I think the biggest hurdle I'll have to leap when ds turns 2 in August is getting dh on board. He seems to set arbitrary cut off dates, but so far has adjusted when I unceremoniously nurse right through them. He's now saying he'll be comfortable with nursing till 2, but thinks that's plenty long enough. Occasionally he'll ask how old I think is too old, and gets this pinched grandpa look when I say, "Oh, I don't know, six?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I liked nursing a 2 year old. They start to talk to you. I got pg when he was 20 mos old, and within 3 months I found nursing on my R side to be excruciating. We were able to TALK about it, I told him "this milkie is OWIE and it hurts me, but you can have that milkie when you want milkies OK?"<br><br>
Our code word was "Milkies." So at church when he cried out in exhaustion, I WANT MILKIES!!!! I didn't get any stares, because people just assumed we got up to go after a sippy cup of milk. I took him in the cry room and latched him on.<br><br>
I stop latching them on in the middle of church at about ... oh now for my youngest... and only do it in the Cry Room or Nursing Room, mostly because of the sheer SIZE of the kid, like you said. But I will still use the Cry room with the bigger kid, I like to show the new nursing mamas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
UM... manners were important. He was not allowed to strip me naked in public. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> And I had to put a stop to the nipple twiddling, it was far too painful and it did make NIP more conspicuous and less modest. I had to enlist DH's help... DH would help by being the stern back-up if necessary... I also tried to get him to hold a toy instead, or my nursing necklaces.<br><br>
I have been reading Big Breasts & Wide Hips by Mo Yan, and the main character/storyteller is a boy who nurses *exclusively* to age 7 or 8, and even then weans to nursing directly from a milkgoat, he absolutely refuses ANY other food source.. some time later in the book he tries out a bottle for the first time, and is disgusted but realizes he is simply going to have to learn a different way to eat than to suck on a milk goat. LOL .... But it is really interesting to read his POV of the pleasure his mother's breasts give him as he nurses.<br><br>
Anyhow, it is REALLY nice with a 2yo for them to be able to tell you what they are experiencing. I'll ask him if there's milk coming out, he'll nod.. I'll say Chocolate milk? and he'll laugh.<br><br>
He was always bonking his head or splitting his lip, and being able to nurse through the injuries, accidents and trips to the doctor is just amazing.<br><br>
He is sort of weaned now, if you can still call it weaned if he's asked to nurse a few times in the last month since he had his weaning party. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> He'll be 4 in August.
 

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I agree with PPs who said nursing through the Twos is wonderful. You know that "Terrible Two" stuff they talk about? Of course there's no way to know for sure, but I really believe that Lula's Twos were awesome because she was (is) still nursing. It's such a great way to calm them down or head off a tantrum when they're tired, hungry, or whatever. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Okay Kristi, my kid is THE cutest, but yours are very close seconds (and thirds). They're so cute! And how sweet is the bringing in the flower so it will be warm?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Don't you just love the way their innocent little minds work?<br><br>
Yesterday my ds pulled his highchair in front of the TV, put in a Veggie Tales tape, put his doll in the chair, and started giving it a drink from his sippy cup. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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Willow will be 2 in July. I imagine it'll be just as wild and crazy and adventurous as it is now. Even more so as she gets a better grasp on language and the inner workings of human relationships. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I haven't had a chance to read the whole thread, but I just wanted to say that I'm really enjoying nursing a two year old. We can have fun conversations about nursing now that you can't have with a tiny baby. DS informed me the other day that BM tastes like ice-cream. He thought that was really funny. It's some of our closest quiet/bonding time, and I wouldn't give it up for anything!<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/offtopic.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="offtopic"> Aw, thanks, Susan! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> Lula is such a sweet, sensitive girl. During a rainstorm yesterday, she insisted that we bring in a potted plant until the bad weather had passed. :LOL<br><br>
I can't see your little boy! Can you fix your link?
 
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