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Is anyone else such a freak about telling people about the pregnancy? Is anyone else still getting around to sharing the news or am I the only one? I am somewhat reserved anyway, and I feel like this is so personal- plus I don't feel like dealing with all crazy advice and birth horror stories that people are bound to start giving me now.

We told our parents around 9-10 wks, and then I slowly starting telling a few close friends. I don't really bring it up unless it comes up in conversation. I told my boss finally at 14 wks (last wk) and this week have started telling my closest coworkers (hoping that word will eventually get around). And I only did that b/c I don't have anything else to wear and it will look wierd if one day all of a sudden I come in wearing maternity clothes! And of course, right away I got a bunch of stories about how women were induced or tried to go natural in the hosp. but 'couldn't' and had to have a c/s.

It is just hard to keep bringing it up with people again and again and telling every single person! I am starting to show quite a bit, so I have accelerated my spreading the news! It's like every conversation starts with "Hi, I have some news, I'm pregnant!"
 

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I was very nervous telling people with my first and then with my second we kinda waited a little just so it didn't seem like I was pg forever... This baby I didn't find out until I was almost 8 weeks so out of complete shock we slowly told people.
I was working in a hospice when I was pg with my first so I was fortunate to be around a lot of like-minded coworkers (incl one homebirth, 2 extended BFer's and 2 organic mamas). I knew I wanted a natural birth but my blanket statement was always "We HOPE for a natural birth."
It sounds like you're doing awesome!
 

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it feels odd to me, too, just to approach folks and tell them (especially if they are not close friends or family). I hope others' will help spread the news for me at this point. I just don't want it to feel like I'm fishing for congratulations or something if I just blurt it out, yk? I'll just be glad when I'm showing enough that it's obvious to everybody without me having to open my mouth!
 

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We had a BBQ/Keg party and told all our friends with this funny game that we made up. It was fun and I laughed a lot. Friends are so supportive! We have been married for almost seven years so people have been bugging us about procreating for years!

I like telling people in person, face-to-face. I told my MIL over the phone the night we found out and my dear friend who lives in Mannitoba, Canada. My MIL is like a mom to me so having her to share this with is awesome!

I have not told anyone in my family b/c we don't really keep in touch, at all. My mom/dad and I are not close and we don't communicate (yes, it is very sad, but after years of therapy, I have accepted it). They are still bitterly divorced fifteen years later so it's been hard for siblings and I to talk to one or the other without it being a disaster. I would like to talk with my sis and my gramma about being preg but that would mean hving to talk to my mom about it. Like I said, years of therapy to deal with her as my non-existant "mother" but am still not real interested in sharing this with her.

Bluebottle,

You are hilarious! How fun!
 

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I've found it more awkward than I expected. I am pretty much working my way through people outside of my family as I see them, but I definitely have that feeling of trying to figure out what to say without blurting out "hello, I'm pregnant"

I have some friends I want to tell but haven't seen for awhile and we are so jammed up I don't know when we'll see them next but it feels awkward to call or email with the news when I haven't been in touch.

I also tend to make a lot of asides when I am out in company, about pregnancy brain, or my morning sickness, or having to go to the bathroom 85 times, so tons of relative strangers know.
 

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We started telling people right away with Sam, and did the same with this one. I even told a few of my clients before I had even had the 12 wk u/s that I had. It's not something that I get superstitious about or feel weird about, and for me at work, I'd rather people know that I'm having morning sickness than, say, a reaction to medication or something else that made me so crazy during the 1st T. And I like to let friends know asap, because I just think it is fun.
 

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Originally Posted by gonnabeamom
I definitely have that feeling of trying to figure out what to say without blurting out "hello, I'm pregnant"

I have some friends I want to tell but haven't seen for awhile and we are so jammed up I don't know when we'll see them next but it feels awkward to call or email with the news when I haven't been in touch.

I also tend to make a lot of asides when I am out in company, about pregnancy brain, or my morning sickness, or having to go to the bathroom 85 times, so tons of relative strangers know.
LOL, that is me exactly! I don't really know how to bring it up without being really abrupt! Of course, everyone is happy for me and esp. those who know we've had a loss. And everyone else has just been bugging us nonstop about when we're having another (since we have a 2 yr old that is practically required!!) So most people are saying "I knew it!".

eta: yes, it was really weird to have to tell my yoga teacher and other strangers about being pg when I hadn't told anyone else yet! But I had to tell these people for whatever reason!

Bluebottle, you are too funny :LOL I'm sure you're a very nice person
Everyone will be really surprised and happy when they see you and your belly!
 

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I can not help but tell people. I did last time too.
This time I have not noticed the many stories- etc that follow. I know this time since I am more "out there" to folks they may leave me alone.
A nursing 2 year old is a good deterent to any advice!!
I have only heard once- you can nurse while pg- and it was a very nice person who was pleasantly surprised.
Emilie
 
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